Why afraid to do things alone?

[eh7]

Quite a handful of my friends don't like to eat alone or do stuff alone. If not at least one friend they know accompany him, he will not do it. I don't know ... such things make me feel like they are using you to make them feel better.

I don't quite understand. Even when I asked them, they don't have answer or ignore my question.

Anyone who understand such people can enlighen me? Or am I the abnormal guy?

 

[Dorf]

I don't think it's abnormal at all. From my own experiances, very few of my memories of my younger years involved me being alone. Most of them are with my friends I also think this changes as we get older. When we get married we enjoy doing things with our spouse. After some time it fells kind of strange not to do things together with your spouse.

 

[eh7]

No.. my friends are around the same age group as me.. Quite a handful don't feel comfortable eating alone, going out to buy things alone, ...etc... like they want some presence so that they don't feel so alone. Why is that so? I am trying to understand them..

 

[moerunamida]

I hate going to church alone, but when I do go...I always am alone cause no one will go with me.

 

[mina]

I don't like to go out to eat alone, b/c I like having someone to have pleasant conversation with. It just feels lonely to go by myself. I like going shopping by myself, b/c then i can take as long as i want and try clothes on if i want.

 

[VictoriasImage77]

My room mate is like that...i think its abandonment issues from her childhood.

 

[violetpen]

It sounds like your friends have more fun doing something with people - that the presence of others adds to their enjoyment. Some people are just generally more social. I'm more of a loner, but there are certain things I wouldn't do unless I was with someone. The enjoyment of the fellowship outweighs the joy of the activity, so sometimes people would rather postpone the activity to get both.

 

[lovesdolphins]

Most of the time I don't like going out alone. I do suffer from depression, and other problems, so it makes it difficult for me to be alone in social situations.

I am VERY uncomfortable being alone in church. Even though we have been members at our church for 3 years I still do not like going alone. I will go b/c it's more important to me to go than to be home. I normally will sit in the back, and go home immediately after services w/o talking to people.

Anyway, some people just don't like being alone in public - it shouldn't be something that friends bother them about. Just let them do what they are comfortable with.

 

[eh7]

It sounds like your friends have more fun doing something with people - that the presence of others adds to their enjoyment. Some people are just generally more social. I'm more of a loner, but there are certain things I wouldn't do unless I was with someone. The enjoyment of the fellowship outweighs the joy of the activity, so sometimes people would rather postpone the activity to get both.

There are a few of my friend is rather introvert but they want some presence.

 

[Buskanaka]

Once when I was traveling I stayed at a hotel and had to go to dinner at the restaurant by myself. It was one of the loneliest and most miserable things I've ever done.
Sometimes it just sucks to be by yourself and have no one to share the experience with.

 

[Tinkerbell33]

Im like that, I dont like to to do things alone, I can if I am forced to but I wont of my own will. Your friends not likng to be alone does not make them users just dependant. The older and more mature you get the more independent you get.

I have realised that we are all taught by society to be independent we are not taught to work together by the world - this is why society is broken. There needs to be a balance between independence and dependance.

Its vital to get some me time and to have fun with others, Personally I would not enjoy eating out on my own or shopping alone - i do those things for leisure so do them with friends.

 

[HannahBanana]

I'm actually fine with being alone, though I think that's a result of my social anxiety: I'm very nervous about being around people, so the only other option is to be alone.

Maybe your friend is the opposite way, maybe he's afraid of being alone. It's certainly a possibility. Sorry his behavior is bothering you, though.

 

[Tinkerbell33]

sometimes people surround themselves with people because they are scared of being alone. Some people are scared of being alone because then they will start thinking about things. When I am alone I start to think bad thoughts about myself and start to feel depressed but when im with other I feel like I have to make an effort

 

[Bunnymedic]

I dont like to sleep in a house (appartment,whatever)alone

I feel a lot safer knowing someone is in the next room

 

[Weasel7711]

Quite a handful of my friends don't like to eat alone or do stuff alone. If not at least one friend they know accompany him, he will not do it. I don't know ... such things make me feel like they are using you to make them feel better.

I don't quite understand. Even when I asked them, they don't have answer or ignore my question.

Anyone who understand such people can enlighen me? Or am I the abnormal guy?

One of the reasons I cant wait to get married: I don't really enjoy sleeping alone. I mean I can sleep alone (obviously its the only choice I have) but I will not mind in the least when I can hold my wife at night.

 

[shadistarr]

Some people are extroverted and get their energy from being around people, other's don't to. I like to be around people for that reason, but I don't mind staying in and holing up in my room by myself occassionally. I don't think you're friends are using you, they probably just enjoy the company of others.

 

[danstar]

sometimes people surround themselves with people because they are scared of being alone. Some people are scared of being alone because then they will start thinking about things. When I am alone I start to think bad thoughts about myself and start to feel depressed but when im with other I feel like I have to make an effort

thats what im like unfortuantely

 

[Superchiick]

It's not that bad to be alone, maybe ppl are scared that they get thinking about stuff they don't wanna think about. I like some company too, but going somewhere alone makes you more self-employed, that's a good thing sometimes. Sometimes i want rest, i wanna think..
I think people get more and more afraid to be alone, but we christians shouldn't be because we are never alone!

I don't like to be seen as a single too, people might think i'm hopelessly to get a boy or something When you go to a singles thing it looks like ur searching a partner, i don't wanna give people that thought.

 

[Shaner]

I do stuff alone a bit, but I do stuff with friends sometimes too, it all depends on the mood i'm in..........