Who should do it?

[n3w3xp]

My personal opinion would also be the man proposing. The man is supposed to be the provider and protector. How is an engagement supposed to say that he is "protecting" and "providing" for you? Well, it definitely states the start of your new life together as husband and wife.

Another point that you felt made sense for you to propose is because you currently have a full time job. Well, the thing is, there are some things that men must provide for the woman... one thing is a ring and a proposal (I feel). I think a responsible and mature man would save up and buy his SO a very special token of his love (the ring) and propose to her. No one said that the ring has to be a minimum of a certain karat diamond, or if it even has to be a diamond; but it's something that a guy should see as a responsibility if he wants to bring home a wife.

Just out of curiosity, who visits who when you're on your holidays?

 

[Tenorvoice]

Faithfullservant:
Will you explain more about what exactly spiritually leading in a relationship is? What are some examples of a guy being the spiritual leader?

I may not be Faithfullservant but I think that I can help you out..

Some of the roles of a Husband as laid out in Ephesians 5:25-33

The role of the Husband is to Provide, Protect, and Preserve their wife.

There are 4 kinds of LOVE that we are to have for them
1) Sacrifical Love- willing to die for them (the same way that Christ did the Church)
2) Purifying Love-Love always seeks to purify 1 John 1:9; would not defile
3) Caring Love-Love your wife in the same way that you treat your body
4) Unbreakable love- Gen. 2:24, two become one flesh and in they are welded together.

Love is not a feeling it is an act of SELFLESS SACRIFICE and anybody that is in existance with a need is wothry of it.

Love does not do what it feels, it does what is right.

True love seeks not itself.

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but to answer the original post about if the man should pop the question ~~

YES!!!! and if he does not have the guts to do it the you need not waste your time with him (IMO). If he can not take the responsibility now the ask you then how responsible will he be in the future with say.....kids, a carrer, ect.

peace

 

[Pope Gonzo]

Where does it say that in the Bible? Some people believe that the man should be the leader in a marriage but this is the first I heard about any relationship. I believe in none of those, but I'm getting off topic now, so I'll be quiet... =)

If the point of a relationship is to find the one you're supposed to marry and prepare for marriage, how is it helpful for the man to be the leader in marriage by him failing to lead in the relationship?

 

[ardeur]

My boyfriend jokes with me quite a bit about turning the tables and me being the one to propose marriage. He's always up for a new experience. In reality I think he wants to be the one to pop the question, but if I propose I think he'll be perfectly fine with it. I, personally, want him to propose, but we'll see.

 

[cyberwood]

I find it absolutely amazing how the Lord created man and woman to compliment each other. Of course, only the Lord completes us, but as I grow in the Lord I begin to see a wealth of gentle compassion in a godly woman that I somehow cannot manifest in myself. On the flip side, as I grow in the Lord, I am finding a powerful strength in me that I am learning a woman deeply wants to have in her life. However, I am more concerned with that gentle compassion. I want both my strength and her compassion, and I want it to somehow be married as one. I understand that a godly woman wants the strength in a man as her own, and wants to be filled with these powerful resolves. Isn't this the essence of romance?

As you and he approach marriage, the question of 'who should do it?' strikes at the heart of the strength of a man and the gentleness of a woman. refuse, I guarantee that there is a powerfully meek and gentle beauty in you that your boyfriend finds beautiful. It is this meekness that strengthens him. And I am certain that there is a strength you see in him that is powerful, and I can imagine you would want to be swept away by this strength. Again, romance.

The vision above can only be fulfilled by our Lord. I am not strong enough to hold my woman, and my woman is not stong enough to be patient with me and rest in me. We both need the Lord first and foremost, or else our relationship will pervert. I will put down my strength for the gentleness, and become the 'female' of the relationship. My woman will give up her gentleness and come to me in power, and become the 'masculine' of the relationship. So I have gained gentleness, and she has gained strength, but we still lack the other. The greatest problem is still that I am not gentle like a woman, and a woman is not strong like me.

Strength is the Lord's. Gentleness is the Lord's. I can only be strong if I let the Lord rule me. A woman can only be gentle if she lets the Lord rule her. There is strength in gentleness, because the Lord leads. There is compassion in strength, because the Lord leads.

I am confident that as you both rest in the Lord, you both will find a perfect timing, and all your questions will be answered. Good luck to you both!

 

[TheTempleTeam]

Great post cyberwood. If I could give you reputation I would! God Bless.

 

[chpxpx]

Hello, I'm RTM's boyfriend *waves*

I don't think it matters who proposes! I think it depends on the couple. Ultimately if your in love and the feelings mutual you'll be lead into what's right for both of you (hopefully). I intend to be the one who proposes to my wife-to-be though. It's obvious that girls dream about being proposed to and I'd love to be the one who does it!! It would be an honour!

It takes 2 to tango in a relationship. It isn't JUST the guys responsibility for everything because that can be too 1-sided.

Have what ever opinion you like, cos that's mine!

God Bless

 

[refusethemark]

Hear hear!!!

Lol he found this post while looking at another one. Sneaky boy! I think I must have been taking things a bit too seriously, lol.

I think this issue is now officially moot, since he's found it!! lol

 

[chpxpx]

Sneaky? you're the one who directed me to the forums!! hehe

 

[refusethemark]

yeah but I forgot this post was here!! lol

 

[Bks Finest]

im kind of old fashioned
i cant wait for the day where i get
on my knees and express my
heart and all my love
by asking my woman to marry me
(when and if i ever get a woman)
a man should do the proposing
hey, im old fashioned