Which is the bigger sin?

[blackribbon]

To cheat on your spouse

or

to not love her with the unconditional love of Christ (or submit to him)


Both cause extreme damage to another person. Christians are supposed to be both faithful and loving spouses.

 

[Chinchilla]

To cheat on your spouse

or

to not love her with the unconditional love of Christ (or submit to him)


Both cause extreme damage to another person. Christians are supposed to be both faithful and loving spouses.

Sin again who ? Against God if you commit one you are guilty of all .
Against her I'd say cheating is bigger one .

 

[MehGuy]

The first one.. the second one sounds impossible not to do some of the time.

 

[blackribbon]

Sin again who ? Against God if you commit one you are guilty of all .
Against her I'd say cheating is bigger one .

I think not loving your wife is probably the bigger one to the woman. I think both are equal sins to God.

 

[Southernscotty]

Both the same. Sin is missing the mark of God's righteousness and both fail.

 

[Kevin Snow]

How can you cheat against your spouse if you love her as Christ loves the church? Both sins are the same.

 

[blackribbon]

Both the same. Sin is missing the mark of God's righteousness and both fail.

Then why do we as a Christian society focus more on the failure of the one who cheats than the one who become cold to his wife. I have never heard of a church calling a man to the mat for not loving his wife properly.

 

[Southernscotty]

Then why do we as a Christian society focus more on the failure of the one who cheats than the one who become cold to his wife. I have never heard of a church calling a man to the mat for not loving his wife properly.

Mine has. Not long ago

 

[blackribbon]

How can you cheat against your spouse if you love her as Christ loves the church? Both sins are the same.

But you can not love your wife as Christ loves the church without being sexually unfaithful to her. So no, they are not the same thing.

 

[redblue22]

I don't see the church focusing on either.

 

[TuxAme]

It sounds like the first sin would necessarily "require" the second one as well.

 

[Southernscotty]

Mine has. Not long ago

I am blunt and I told a man that he needed to man up and grow up and start treating his dear wife as she deserved. Yeah, he don't like it but he knows I am right

 

[blackribbon]

I am blunt and I told a man that he needed to man up and grow up and start treating his dear wife as she deserved. Yeah, he don't like it but he knows I am right

And the church will hold him accountable to this?

 

[Kevin Snow]

But you can not love your wife as Christ loves the church without being sexually unfaithful to her. So no, they are not the same thing.

I think you mean 'without being sexually faithful to her'. You've got a triple negative there in your statement: "can not love", "without" and "unfaithful". One of those has to change.

 

[Southernscotty]

And the church will hold him accountable to this?

The best we can, We pray and are helping him by teaching and we got him work

 

[Southernscotty]

The best we can, We pray and are helping him by teaching and we got him work

I do not really know what else to do, Except lead by example :]

 

[blackribbon]

I think you mean 'without being sexually faithful to her'. You've got a triple negative there in your statement: "can not love", "without" and "unfaithful". One of those has to change.

Triple negative stays a negative. A double negative becomes a positive. It may be an awkward way of saying it but it is correct as written. A person can be an unloving spouse without being sexual unfaithful.

 

[συνείδησις]

When you commit adultery you get a double bonus - you sin against your wife and sin against your own body.

Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a person commits is outside his body, but the one who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18​

 

[Kevin Snow]

Triple negative stays a negative. A double negative becomes a positive. It may be an awkward way of saying it but it is correct as written. A person can be an unloving spouse without being sexual unfaithful.

Ok. But think about it in this way. If a man is faithful to his wife it is because he loves her. Maybe his love is not perfect however. So this is why if a man is not faithful to his wife then he doesn't love her in this way. Love does no wrong to a neighbor.

So a man must necessarily love his wife in some manner if he is faithful to her.

 

[blackribbon]

Ok. But think about it in this way. If a man is faithful to his wife it is because he loves her. Maybe his love is not perfect however. So this is why if a man is not faithful to his wife then he doesn't love her in this way. Love does no wrong to a neighbor.

So a man must necessarily love his wife in some manner if he is faithful to her.

No, some men are faithful for lack of opportunity, fear of the financial loss that comes with divorce, or fear of God...not love for the wife.