Where to pick up the Godly chicks?

[deliciousBass]

or how about this one dB?

haha yeah that's a good one. I want to draw one... it would look like Booker Chick from Garfield and friends only it would have glasses and would be holding a Bible.

 

[Inkachu]

A bit off-topic, but I used to have this tshirt, hehe...

 

[mina]

volunteer? I don't know. I've tried to volunteer to meet Christian guys or even guys with fine upstanding values who care about giving back to people, but they aren't there.
I haven't tried e-harmony yet, but i've been considering it. I honestly don't know any Christian guys that are single and about my age. But I fear that the ones on ehar"money" are going to be boorish and ugly and gross.

 

[Apollo Celestio]

Give up.
They're expectations are usually too high from what I've seen.

 

[Wren]

Give up.
Their expectations are usually too high from what I've seen.

How so, if you want to share?

 

[leothelioness]

Really, the only thing I've thought of are rather college clubs or churches to find a good amount of girls who love jesus. The only problem with that is that if you aren't in college, that makes it rather difficult to do the college christian clubs.

I would find it weird to go bunny hopping church to church just to pick up girls.

Obviously though, bars are not really the correct scene to find girls full of purity.

Eharmony seems to just match me up with Christian women whose heroes, most important things, and profiles dont even mention the word God or Jesus- let alone anything more than a cookie cutter "I love my friends, my family, and my [music/puppy/books] are most important to me." and a lot of the christian women online seem to want a man to be a leader in her faith and instead of an equal, a spiritual superior. They want them to be their foundation and main source for God. No offense, but that last one makes me run in terror. You can lecture me as much as you want that "Men are to be spiritual leaders" blah blah, but I really dont care. If there were alpha males for humans, I'd definitely be one, so solely by natural selection I'd want an alpha female who displays just as much strength and leadership as me. I mean really- why settle for a women you have to support, when you could have a women who could kick your butt and challenge you to a good fight? Not that I need to be challenged or supported by a mate, but I sure as heck dont need to be needed emotionally or spiritually. That's God's job, not mine. I'm not God, and never want to be. I'm here to encourage and share, not support and supply. Eharmony women are boring, plain, or just plain weak.

I am totally relying on nothing short of an absolute miracle meeting in some random non-christian place, but looking for my future wife isn't what I'm making this topic about. The lifestyle of dating, having some fun/interested dates with different types of women, all to learn about others, yourself, and see what all is out there besides crazy girls- but really where are the ones who arent crazy, arent emotionally disturbed, but actually know and love God without being quiet plain and boring?

Are all the outgoing girls taken by the world?
Also, I notice anytime I find the rare outgoing girl- depsite the fact they're usually younger than 20- they also happen to have a wedding ring. Is it just my area, or do attractive christian women marry really young?

/vent off

I don't know why, but this makes me think of my "good girl" thread.

 

[Lady Bug]

I don't know why, but this makes me think of my "good girl" thread.

I know what you mean, I remember it

I guess being "quiet" equates to being plain and boring And I guess a marriage where the man steps up the plate and is an actual leader of the home is something that women should be scolded for preferring

 

[Blank123]

volunteer? I don't know. I've tried to volunteer to meet Christian guys or even guys with fine upstanding values who care about giving back to people, but they aren't there.
I haven't tried e-harmony yet, but i've been considering it. I honestly don't know any Christian guys that are single and about my age. But I fear that the ones on ehar"money" are going to be boorish and ugly and gross.

i dunno if you remember tenorvoice that used to post here but he met his wife on eharmony and got married this past Spring, to hear him tell it it really was a match made in Heaven and they totally clicked right away. so you never know what God may use to bring that special someone into your life

 

[PurgeResistance]

Give up.
They're expectations are usually too high from what I've seen.

From what I've discovered, (and be warned my experience is apparently only with crazy/psycho girls who lost their mind long ago...for some reason ) their expectations aren't too high, but their expectations are skewed, dilluted, or downright creepy.

Especially with women who have been abused (I have a lot of experience with this... for some reason ) but some women actually do want a jerk, LITERALLY dont know what to do when they find a nice guy, and get absolutely confused and dumbfounded when they see a guy with both a really big heart and the ability to not be a pushover.
From my view, the nice guys seem to be pushovers, while the confident guys seem to be jerks. It takes a lot for someone to be able to stand up for themselves unless they do it because they learned they have to, but those become jaded to where they're jerks. And although my experience is rather limited to crazy women, they really truly have a brain logic meltdown when they see nice + strong.

Going back on topic though... I tend to find girls dislike the most about me is the fact I do not play games and "hard to get". And when it comes down to it, I tend to find out that while they desperately want a serious relationship, they emotionally cannot handle a serious, intimate relationship because they are so petrified and scared of such a thing, it does not even cross their mind.

Their expectations are not for Prince Charming, but for Drunk Prince Abuse-a-lot who only appears to be Charming through many many lies and deceptions.

But I literally have no idea what a normal girl is like. I've only ever dated ONE sane girl- and she got cancer and so was forced by near-death and hospitalization to become like the crazy girls (which it's justified IMO. you can go crazy on me if you're dying, it's fair enough LOL). It took me many years to finally figure out how to spot emotionally unstable girls and enough confidence to where at the first red flag I can run away. I've had about 6 serious relationships, and 5 of them were crazy, 3 of them were abused/raped as children, and 2 of them neglected or hurt very badly as children, and almost all of them having some kind of mental disorder (perhaps most of them had bi-polar disorder) with 0 medication.

Maybe it's just me, and I assume so... but I also find it odd that my best male friends are no different. They are also crazy and have some serious emotional issues. It is only my very christian friends from church whom some dont have incapacitating emotional problems- and unfortunately for me they do not share the same hobbies as me, so our friendship is limited to just hanging out.

 

[Inkachu]

You seem to think that like, 99% of the population is psychotic.

 

[PurgeResistance]

I don't know why, but this makes me think of my "good girl" thread.

Care to elaborate on this? Or should I go and search for your thread myself?

 

[leothelioness]

From what I've discovered, (and be warned my experience is apparently only with crazy/psycho girls who lost their mind long ago...for some reason ) their expectations aren't too high, but their expectations are skewed, dilluted, or downright creepy.

Especially with women who have been abused (I have a lot of experience with this... for some reason ) but some women actually do want a jerk, LITERALLY dont know what to do when they find a nice guy, and get absolutely confused and dumbfounded when they see a guy with both a really big heart and the ability to not be a pushover.
From my view, the nice guys seem to be pushovers, while the confident guys seem to be jerks. It takes a lot for someone to be able to stand up for themselves unless they do it because they learned they have to, but those become jaded to where they're jerks. And although my experience is rather limited to crazy women, they really truly have a brain logic meltdown when they see nice + strong.

Going back on topic though... I tend to find girls dislike the most about me is the fact I do not play games and "hard to get". And when it comes down to it, I tend to find out that while they desperately want a serious relationship, they emotionally cannot handle a serious, intimate relationship because they are so petrified and scared of such a thing, it does not even cross their mind.

Their expectations are not for Prince Charming, but for Drunk Prince Abuse-a-lot who only appears to be Charming through many many lies and deceptions.

But I literally have no idea what a normal girl is like. I've only ever dated ONE sane girl- and she got cancer and so was forced by near-death and hospitalization to become like the crazy girls (which it's justified IMO. you can go crazy on me if you're dying, it's fair enough LOL). It took me many years to finally figure out how to spot emotionally unstable girls and enough confidence to where at the first red flag I can run away. I've had about 6 serious relationships, and 5 of them were crazy, 3 of them were abused/raped as children, and 2 of them neglected or hurt very badly as children, and almost all of them having some kind of mental disorder (perhaps most of them had bi-polar disorder) with 0 medication.

Maybe it's just me, and I assume so... but I also find it odd that my best male friends are no different. They are also crazy and have some serious emotional issues. It is only my very christian friends from church whom some dont have incapacitating emotional problems- and unfortunately for me they do not share the same hobbies as me, so our friendship is limited to just hanging out.

I'm sorry you're having such a dilemma, but there are still good, emotionally stable girls out there. They may be hard to find these days, but they are there, believe me.

 

[leothelioness]

Care to elaborate on this? Or should I go and search for your thread myself?

Yeah, that would be better. It would save me the trouble of having to explain it.

 

[Apollo Celestio]

I've heard of it. They go for jerks, and reject the "heroes" because they want one to stand by, to vent their troubles to. I'm not really venting, it's just what I've heard. They usually forget about it when they actually get to know someone who probably only meets half of their expectations.

 

[PurgeResistance]

I know what you mean, I remember it

I guess being "quiet" equates to being plain and boring And I guess a marriage where the man steps up the plate and is an actual leader of the home is something that women should be scolded for preferring

Well I cannot speak for every man (literally, bc im DEFINITELY not like anyone else, which sometimes sucks but I love me anyway !)

For someone with a lot of energy who is EXTREMELY talkative and loves talking and listening, quiet does equate to me as boring.

One of my friends dubbed me "The most energetic, hyper person he's ever known." and I asked him about it seriously, "Really? No way. I'm not the MOST ever. You know TONS of people." but lol, apparently I am. At first I wondered if I should be insulted or worried, because I definitely dont want to be on an extreme, but I guess it's the way God made me and so I guess I should be okay with it, however much I find it odd that I'm the "most" at something. I thought for a second, "God, why couldnt I be the MOST intelligent or something? Having energy? LOL dang you!" lol jk

Also, I am plagued with a best friend who is the quietest person you will ever meet in your entire life, who believes God told him to "be more quiet" despite the fact he never talks, even to his best friends and family. Talk about frustrating!!!!! I've only ever had ONE friend who talked as much as me, and I dont see him much. It's also a false myth that "girls talk a lot" because believe me- they do NOT! lol

There's no doubt that I'm going to be the leader of my home if that's my wife's preference. It's really her choice, I dont' care. I'm a natural leader in everything, so she'll be as much as she wants to be, and I'll take care of the rest. Plus it's my responsibility as both a man and a husband to take care of my wife and family as much as God commands. As a lover of psychology I absolutely hate gender stereotypes- and although I stick by that, my specific personality does fit a lot of those stereotypes naturally. I don't like to be touched in public by non-wife people, especially men. I prefer a handshake over a hug. I dont like crying in public, or ever (but then again, who does?) But I'm a real man, so I dont care if I do any of those things (with the exception of hugging ppl that creep me out or when I really really want to be left alone. I doubt I'll ever be okay with that.)

I fail at the crying in public 24/7 though, lol, because I probably cry everyday. I really don't believe that you can be in the presence of God everyday and not shed atleast one tear a day. He is just too magnificent, holy, and tenderly loving not to demand the respect and admiration of even the "strongest" man's tears.

When I was talking about not wanting the wife to require me to be her spiritual leader and how annoying and unattractive it is on eharmony when I read the line "I want a man who will be my spiritual leader and help me stay right with God." it was not to void and hide from any inherent spiritual responsibilities God may have given us as man or husband, but that I earnestly desire a wife who is so passionate and in love with Jesus that she does not need me at all for anything, because her relationship with Him is sufficient enough to supply all her needs.
Philippians 4:19
And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus

Unfortunately, it takes an extreme amount of maturing, learning, and suffering to achieve such a dependency on God where you no longer need anyone else for anything. But this is what I desire in a wife- spiritual strength and maturity to a heavy extent. That's what I meant when I said I find it very unattractive for a women to want me to be her Savior (need and supply) and not her Adam (want and encourage).

 

[PurgeResistance]

I'm sorry you're having such a dilemma, but there are still good, emotionally stable girls out there. They may be hard to find these days, but they are there, believe me.

Thanks for the encouragement!

Sometimes I feel like "No way, they are all so fricken crazy... "
Other times I feel like "Wow, they're everywhere. Why couldnt I have found these earlier?" lol

But Thank God I've suffered what I've had to go through. I'm eternally thankful that all 5 were incredibly crazy. That power-boosted me to find a confidence and security in God that otherwise would have taken forever to achieve. Perhaps if I never was hurt so much by some abusive relationships, I never would have found the strength, confidence, and love in God to be able to become a real man instead of forever being stuck as a push-over nice guy. If it wasnt for God, I know I'd have become a jerk, but thank God that's not the case

There HAVE to be a lot of sane, healthy women in the world. Besides God's Plan for me, it only makes sense that I've had a good dose of bad luck because the % of women being abused/raped is ridiculously high, and I live in the south where poverty is higher than elsewhere and so I assume abuse, neglect, etc. is more common.

What I find rather funny is the fact I dont really know what a normal girlfriend is like. My mind can't comprehend or even imagine it. 0% imagination. Like a caveman trying to be told there's computers, airplanes, and robots somewhere. Whats a robot?!?!? But hey...

Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but God will always heal me!

 

[PurgeResistance]

I've heard of it. They go for jerks, and reject the "heroes" because they want one to stand by, to vent their troubles to.

I'm rather amazed that rumors and myths have found out this to be true. Usually these type of sayings that everyone hears of are horribly inaccurate, but this one has to be entirely true for some women.

There's no way it's the same for all women though. My conclusions are all based solely on the evidence of abuse, neglect, rape, and mental disorders. So a higher percent of women cannot go for jerks and reject heroes. That just wouldnt make sense! Healthy women should go for the heroes and reject the jerks, right?

 

[Inkachu]

You're talkativeness doesn't come across in your posts AT ALL!

 

[PurgeResistance]

You're talkativeness doesn't come across in your posts AT ALL!

I was physically crushed by the sarcasm bc it was so heavy, rofl

 

[leothelioness]

You're talkativeness doesn't come across in your posts AT ALL!

LOL, I was thinking the same thing.