Where is the love?

[Bless!]

My mother and sisters over the years have been civil towards my husband, who always tried to help though too much sometimes (because their husbands are abroad over 15 years and dad is deceased). This was taken for granted. Over 5 years ago my mum refused to visit the house again because my husband 'offended' her. She never told him and I forced out the reason which was a flimsy excuse. My husband kept visiting her in one of my sister's house where she lives. I noticed she would talk about my brothers in law but not mention my husband by name. One sister was even confrontational to my husband in church and would make off handed remarks when others are present. We are fellowship elsewhere now. My mum has not seen my children in 3years but visits my nephews and nieces. We live 5 mins from each other.
My children feel left out, I keep reminding them not to harbour bitterness and keep loving even if from a distance. They are adults and have watched this live movie since they were in school.
My mum and sisters communicated in 2020 to hear how I was at the heat of covid 19 but NEVER asked how my husband was KNOWING he was a front line worker in the hospital.
I phone my mum occasionally and my sisters rarely. I feel more at ease now. I respect and love my family but feel a missing link. I visit only out of necessity (ill health).
I have had to delete text and voice messages which have been upsetting from my sister or letters from mum. My husband and children have been wonderful when I feel down over this matter.
I have prayed for peace which I have now. Unfortunately my sisters believe my husband is keeping me from them. I'm not the visiting kind which they know and the disrespect towards my husband has made it easier. This behaviour I'm worried would affect all the children as they are not close anymore.
Sometimes I'm perplexed my mum, sisters and I are practising Christians I don't see the love of Christ among us and this bothers me.

 

[Michie]

My mother and sisters over the years have been civil towards my husband, who always tried to help though too much sometimes (because their husbands are abroad over 15 years and dad is deceased). This was taken for granted. Over 5 years ago my mum refused to visit the house again because my husband 'offended' her. She never told him and I forced out the reason which was a flimsy excuse. My husband kept visiting her in one of my sister's house where she lives. I noticed she would talk about my brothers in law but not mention my husband by name. One sister was even confrontational to my husband in church and would make off handed remarks when others are present. We are fellowship elsewhere now. My mum has not seen my children in 3years but visits my nephews and nieces. We live 5 mins from each other.
My children feel left out, I keep reminding them not to harbour bitterness and keep loving even if from a distance. They are adults and have watched this live movie since they were in school.
My mum and sisters communicated in 2020 to hear how I was at the heat of covid 19 but NEVER asked how my husband was KNOWING he was a front line worker in the hospital.
I phone my mum occasionally and my sisters rarely. I feel more at ease now. I respect and love my family but feel a missing link. I visit only out of necessity (ill health).
I have had to delete text and voice messages which have been upsetting from my sister or letters from mum. My husband and children have been wonderful when I feel down over this matter.
I have prayed for peace which I have now. Unfortunately my sisters believe my husband is keeping me from them. I'm not the visiting kind which they know and the disrespect towards my husband has made it easier. This behaviour I'm worried would affect all the children as they are not close anymore.
Sometimes I'm perplexed my mum, sisters and I are practising Christians I don't see the love of Christ among us and this bothers me.

You should speak up and explain your reasons for the distance. They need to hear it from you in no uncertain terms. Their disrespect is the issue here from hearing your side of it. Some Christians can be extremely rude and uncaring while professing to follow Jesus

 

[Bless!]

I tried doing that before and it didn't end well. My husband got more of the heat from one of my sisters. Thank you Michie for your suggestion I will try again.

 

[Michie]

I tried doing that before and it didn't end well. My husband got more of the heat from one of my sisters. Thank you Michie for your suggestion I will try again.

Just make it clear that you do love them and want to reunite as long as it is healthy. Make it clear this is your decision and not your husband’s. And as Christians, everybody needs to make an effort to start over. Prayers for all of you in the meantime. These situations with family are never easy.