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When you turn 70...

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That I didn't have enough random hookups.

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I sincerely wonder if that will be one thought to come across my mind.

Hopefully I can counter it by looking at my old wife and think...ya know, the planned hook up is so much better than random hookups.
 
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I sincerely wonder if that will be one thought to come across my mind.

Hopefully I can counter it by looking at my old wife and think...ya know, the planned hook up is so much better than random hookups.

I wonder that.

The thing that got me to say that was what a random cougar (36 years young) told me the last time I went clubbing - that the biggest regret of her and her friends was that they didn't have as much 'fun' as they felt the should've in their twenties.

I'd like to think if I'm lucky enough to find my 'soul mate' and enjoy a long marriage/commonlaw situation with them, I won't have any regrets. It might be a little optimistic, but her comment certainly made me think, if anything, even if I might not nessecarily follow her advice.
 
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I wonder that.

The thing that got me to say that was what a random cougar (36 years young) told me the last time I went clubbing - that the biggest regret of her and her friends was that they didn't have as much 'fun' as they felt the should've in their twenties.

I'd like to think if I'm lucky enough to find my 'soul mate' and enjoy a long marriage/commonlaw situation with them, I won't have any regrets. It might be a little optimistic, but her comment certainly made me think, if anything, even if I might not nessecarily follow her advice.
For her, I bet it is. If she is a cougar that means she's no doubt single. Understandable that she'd feel that way.

I keep my hopes up in a similar fashion as you do. I really do hope that by that time, I can look back and remember how great that old woman is compared the freedom I had when I was single, the opportunities I continually passed on because my conscience's desires always overrides my body's desires.

Time will tell though.
 
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The thing that got me to say that was what a random cougar (36 years young) told me the last time I went clubbing - that the biggest regret of her and her friends was that they didn't have as much 'fun' as they felt the should've in their twenties.

I notice the scare-quotes around the word "fun".

I think people have a lot more control over what they can find enjoyment in than they think they can do. If you haven't had enough fun in your life, it may have more to do with where your priorities were than what you actually did.
 
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... and look back on your single, barren existence, what thoughts will be going through your mind?

I'll be cackling to my grandkids as I tell them about this depressing forum thread I'd looked at 40 years ago and how I'd decided to step my game up and not have a barren existence.
Once I'm done explaining what an internet forum was, and fielding questions like "You really had to type with a keyboard?" and "Internet really didn't float through the air like radio waves?", it'll be the beginning of "How I Met Your Grandmother."
 
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I notice the scare-quotes around the word "fun".

I think people have a lot more control over what they can find enjoyment in than they think they can do. If you haven't had enough fun in your life, it may have more to do with where your priorities were than what you actually did.

Yeah, "fun" is pretty subjective :) I have to write a paper today... I feel that each paper I write kills me a little bit more... I HATE them! But it's a beautiful sunny day, and this paper has to be done, so I can sit by a window, put some music on and try to just enjoy it as much as I can. Then once it's done, I can do something I do find fun... like make soup! (and no kidding there, I love cooking! :D)
 
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... and look back on your single, barren existence, what thoughts will be going through your mind?

"Well that was dumb"

But then again I don't really plan to be single my entire life. I am in college now so single is just...the best position to be in. ;)
 
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Forgot that too. I'll be yelling at kids to get off my lawn and telling stories about wearing an onion on my belt--which was the style at the time. :D

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I notice the scare-quotes around the word "fun".

I think people have a lot more control over what they can find enjoyment in than they think they can do. If you haven't had enough fun in your life, it may have more to do with where your priorities were than what you actually did.

To her credit, this cougar was pretty indiscreet with what she considered that 'fun' to be. But given how CCCP like Mods can be here, I certainly wasn't going to say she advised me to have more casual sex, hookups and one night stands in my youth than she did.

If you get to 70, unmarried, never experiencing physical closeness of any kind with someone, is the knowledge that you saved yourself for a spouse that never came really that great a comfort? And if even if that spouse did arrive, is the fact you might never have gone hog wild something you'll regret? Interesting discussion for another day.

Now I shall prepare for the inevitable 'Offensive Infraction' PM... :sorry:

And to end the obvious suspense, quality over quantity, people.
 
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