when you had your first child..

[Mom4Christ]

My son is almost 7 months old now and every so often, like the rare times we get to go to dinner or the movies alone, I get scared that we will end up in a car accident and my son will be without a mom and dad. I am just so scared that something will happen to us. Or that something will happen to my precious baby. I pray about it, but I am so afraid of losing my baby and I don't know why. I am just 20 and haven't had a lot of experience with kids, but has anyoen else felt this way? Will it ever end?

 

[I can eat 50 eggs]

I definitely understand what your going through, but you have to trust in God. Realize that worrying about things like this does no one any good, and shows God you don't really trust him or think he is in control. It could be that you and your husband could die, but remember, Romans 8:28
28And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him,[1] who[2] have been called according to his purpose.

 

[tulc]

Will it go away? Well my "kids" 24 and 27 now and I still worry about them! Does it dominate my lfe? Not like when they were newborns. It does get easier, but they are our kids, no matter how old they (or we) get! Trust the Lord, but keep your eyes open also! (IMHO)
tulc

 

[water_ripple]

My son is almost 7 months old now and every so often, like the rare times we get to go to dinner or the movies alone, I get scared that we will end up in a car accident and my son will be without a mom and dad. I am just so scared that something will happen to us. Or that something will happen to my precious baby. I pray about it, but I am so afraid of losing my baby and I don't know why. I am just 20 and haven't had a lot of experience with kids, but has anyoen else felt this way? Will it ever end?

With my first child I was militant about everything. I had even had a few dreams where my child had died. The pain of that was indescribable. Of course they were only nightmares, but they still bothered me...Since my second child has came along I am much more relaxed. Since her birth I've grown closer to the Lord..I no longer worry about them growing up without us...I am blessed with a family who will care for and love my children (and teach them of the love of Christ) if something would happen to us.

Although I know how you feel..the love of our children is a very powerful thing. The love of our children can make us parents stop dead in our tracks..and open our eyes when we are blind. I think the love a parent has for a child shows us how much love (and beyond) God has for us as well, and the patience and mercy that automatically falls into place.

It's good that you have such concern for your child..It means that your heart is in the right place. There are some things though that are beyond our control, and lie in the hands of God. Trust in Him for you are in the best care, and the innocent soul you have been blessed with is also in the best of hands spiritually and physically.

My children are 2 1/2 and 8 months. Even when they go to a babysitter I still want them in their beds at night. I dunno if that will ever go away..My father still tells me all he wants is his children in their beds..then he smiles.

 

[mamaneenie]

I have a 2yo son. He is the love of my life (apart from hubby and God as well). I wouldn't know what to do with myself if anything ever happened to them. A few months ago I went through what you are going through. A friend of mine with a child the same age as mine discovered she has MS. That was really scary, because she is only 5 years older than me and I was afraid that something like that could happen to me. The same week I found out that a lady I used to know with a 10 year old daughter died of cancer. I was really packing it then. I think it occurred to me that as mums we are not immune to everything that could happen. Just because I'm a mum doesn't mean I'm 100% going to be around for my son.

I had this talk with my MIL who is a very strong Christian counsellor. She basically said that she prayed all the time when her boys were little that God would keep her healthy and well until her sons grew up and got married etc. She had this worry more than me because she is a single mum. I am praying every time that worry overcomes me. I just try and get on with the tasks God has put for me every day and try not to think too far ahead or worry that something will happen to me.

 

[LadySaint]

Mom4Christ you are feeling normal feelings. I have a 20 year old and 16 year old. You just learn to keep giving it to God. When you have your fears and doubts just talk with him that moment. I have had several incidents where my kids were out some where and I felt the need to pray for them right at a special time and when my children come home they related to me something that had happen or close to happening.
There's only so much we can do for our children but the best thing is to place them in God's hands. He knows how to care for them far better than we could.

 

[karla]

I completely understand how you feel. I have a three year old and a 15 month old. It kills me to think of them growing up without me or me losing them. I remember checking on them a million times before I went to bed and the first time they slept through the night, I jumped out of bed in the middle of the night to make sure they were still breathing. Life is a precious thing and you are even more aware of how precious it is when you become a parent. You'll never stop worrying about your children, but as time passes you become less focused on it (if that makes sense)

 

[Unix]

Waking up 3-6 times a night scared that the baby will choke

 

[Kiwi]

Ahhhh, good to hear I am normal!! I'm just like you guys.

 

[Kokopelli]

I'm a dad with a 9-month old girl. I have fears that something will happen to her and my wife. I think it's normal for all parents, especially with the world today. I find that trying to remain aware and ask for God's protection helps. But it's still there.

There's been several times where I've rocked my daughter to sleep and I remain there holding her as she sleeps, sometimes for an hour just enjoying it. My love for her is strong, I never though a parent's love could be. I don't know what I'd do if something was to ever happen to her or my wife and I.

All I can do to help with the fears, is ask for the good Lord to watch over her through the night and hold the faith that he will. As a parent and an imperfect human, I find that it is easier said than done sometimes.

 

[HMM1]

I was/am in your shoes too! Until my first was four I was really stressed about kidnapping, car accident, choking and so on. I realized that she picked up on it and it was affecting how she played and had fun. I had to turn her over to God. I still have days that I am more anxious than others and I verbally place her in God's hands several times during those days. GOD IS IN CONTROL! No matter how much we worry. With my second I was "alert" with her for the first year or so but the first baby worries weren't nearly as prevalent.

Peace, love and blessings~
Heather