When others do wrong, why should we mind our own business?

[Forealzchola]

But who's responsibility is it his responsibility? Would you tell one of your friends boyfriends they were cheating? Honestly?

heck yes i would and have..im not going to let my friends be victim or watch them be victimized and taken advantage of if i know better..my sisters husband has cheated on her and ive told her...the quicker they know...they can make a decision to get out....why would he not tell and then this girl waste even more of her life on him...because some people really wont find out on their own if someone doesnt tell them..i would want someone to tell me if i was in the cousin's gf shoes...i'd be like thank you for teling me now i dont have to waste my life on this person..i can move onto someone who really will love and deserves me

My boyfriend was also in the situation where his sister was cheating on her husband..and my bf was friends with her husband ( his brother-n law) he tried to keep it from him or thought he could..but the brother in law was so happy going to work ...3 jobs and raising the kids..he was happy even tho his needs werent being met and he was doing back breaking labor and all of the work...yet this girl was messing around on him...and his wife my bf sister was bringing heka dudes to the house and sleeping with them...and going to her gfs house sleeping with dudes there and everyone knew...my bf finally told..it was wasnt right.

 

[gzt]

If somebody was cheating on one of my friends, I'd probably tell. If my friend was cheating on somebody, I'm not sure I'd tell unless I was close to the person getting cheated on, but I'd probably speak my mind to my friend. But this isn't a matter of preferring my friends over outsiders, it's a matter of having a relationship with the relevant person. I don't welcome intimate revelations from strangers, nor do I give unsolicited information to people I do not know.

 

[Avniel]

heck yes i would and have..im not going to let my friends be victim or watch them be victimized and taken advantage of if i know better..my sisters husband has cheated on her and ive told her...the quicker they know...they can make a decision to get out....why would he not tell and then this girl waste even more of her life on him...because some people really wont find out on their own if someone doesnt tell them..i would want someone to tell me if i was in the cousin's gf shoes...i'd be like thank you for teling me now i dont have to waste my life on this person..i can move onto someone who really will love and deserves me

My boyfriend was also in the situation where his sister was cheating on her husband..and my bf was friends with her husband ( his brother-n law) he tried to keep it from him or thought he could..but the brother in law was so happy going to work ...3 jobs and raising the kids..he was happy even tho his needs werent being met and he was doing back breaking labor and all of the work...yet this girl was messing around on him...and his wife my bf sister was bringing heka dudes to the house and sleeping with them...and going to her gfs house sleeping with dudes there and everyone knew...my bf finally told..it was wasnt right.

Again these are people in your family kids are involved and everything. They were married also not dating so in a sense they were all family. This guy has a cousin that has a girlfriend that he's cheating on and he wants to tell her. That's none of his business he's not doing it out of love because he said it himself he "hates playas" that not the same situation.

I have a friend thats brother in law cheated on his sister the at the bachelor party with a stripper he didnt tell. In his defense he just met his sister that weekend but it wasnt his business.

 

[Forealzchola]

I dont disregard someone if they are family or not...i regard people as human beings who have the right to know the truth..regardless thats just my stance on the issue....and just because they know you or not doesnt mean they are going to believe you...and in my bfs that is his estranged sister so they dont have a close relationship..idk blood doesnt mean anything to me i have learned so that whole well they are family so this and that...for me thats not the case...sometimes family are the people that you have to stay away form, but you have already learned that.

i will tell this young man the op again...save this girls life...save her from stds...save her time..tell her so she can leave.

 

[Avniel]

I dont disregard someone if they are family or not...i regard people as human beings who have the right to know the truth..regardless thats just my stance on the issue....and just because they know you or not doesnt mean they are going to believe you...and in my bfs that is his estranged sister so they dont have a close relationship..idk blood doesnt mean anything to me i have learned so that whole well they are family so this and that...for me thats not the case...sometimes family are the people that you have to stay away form, but you have already learned that.

i will tell this young man the op again...save this girls life...save her from stds...save her time..tell her so she can leave.

He doesnt have proof, he doesnt even know if he just talking....You know how many guys say they are cheating on their girlfriends all the time but dont cheat on anyone. How do we know his girlfriend isnt running him? And his way of cooping is to make up a story about how he's a playa so he doesnt get made fun of...............that happens alot

 

[Forealzchola]

He doesnt have proof, he doesnt even know if he just talking....You know how many guys say they are cheating on their girlfriends all the time but dont cheat on anyone. How do we know his girlfriend isnt running him? And his way of cooping is to make up a story about how he's a playa so he doesnt get made fun of...............that happens alot

you are too optimistic my friend...i have never heard guys talking this way unless they were "tools to begin with"but if he is one of those guys who just talking..thats immature...thats something a little boy would do..and she need a real man anyway

 

[heron]

c.f. Christian advice...
The Bible is awfully tough on this concept of cheating and making the spouse look like a fool. Once a person divorces, they are not expected to return to the cheater. Adultery is taken extremely seriously, with the community keeping an eye on the innocent. While our laws are different, we should at least defend justice and truth in each others' lives.

There are NT verses on forgiving seventy times seven, but still Jesus says that He came to fulfill the Law... not demeaning old decisions and practices.

3. My family has taught me to lie very often as a kid (white lies of course, but still, lies) and the instinct to lie is so deeply ingrained in me that I need to forcefully and openly rebuke it when it is in me or around me. I consider my openness and directness to be a trait I need in order to discipline myself as well, so I remember that if I am tempted to sin.

You must be more relieved, now that you're working on truth. Lies are so much work to cover over! I hope it goes well for you.