When its hard being single...

[middo]

To set the scene. Recently in my church there has been a massive surge in new couples, where nearly all of my friends have found partners and now it is only a matter of time before marriage. Anyway what my problem is what SHOULD be a happy occasion(and believe me, i am VERY happy for my friends!) is making it VERY hard being single. One of the things that gets some singles through it is "what they can do while single" but when everywhere u go you see couples SO much in love having the best time, all the time, it makes it hard. Tonight in particular this came to the forefront. 2 really good mates of mine(guy and a girl) are dating. I and couple of other mates, and them, were out. A lot of the time they spent kissing. Now i dont want this topic getting into a what u can and cant do in a relationship. They have sat down and decided what can and cant be done, and they've decided for them kissing passionately is fine, and controlable. Thing is, when im around them seeing them so happy, and kissing it makes it VERY hard for me being a christian, and being single. I wouldnt feel comfortable telling them that, as i would probably be doing the same thing if i had a partner, but i dont know what TO do as its just unbearable for me, at least it seems. This topic is more for just telling it, i wanted to get it off my chest

Carry on

 

[72_Chev_Truck]

Hey Thanks for bringing it to the table. I know exactly how you feel. I got a friend that does that stuff in front of me, makes me want to go to the bars and grab some random intoxicated... no no it doesnt make me feel like that.

But yea i am sick of seeing lovers in love doing what they do. makes me wish that I could find someone. The way I see it though is that maybe God wants you to change some things in your life. Take a look and see if there is anything obvious holding you back from a closer walk with God. Work on changing it but keep focused on God. He will bring a girl in the perfect time.

 

[Stanfi]

Like Chevy said you need to focus on God, and he will bring you someone in his due time. Until then just stay close to God, tell him about your struggles, and he will help you.


Some practical advice is that if being around them is hard on you, then stay away from them for a while. Sometimes we have to do things that we may not want to just to take care of ourselves.

 

[Xen_Antares]

Oh boy do I understand this, though Ive gotten through most of the time recently by playing a Video Game most of the time (Star Wars Galaxies, gotta love it).


Youre happy for your friends, and sad for yourself, quite understandable. Even my ex-gf whom I still adore and have deep feelings for is dating someone. Though I dont like him, he seems to be overbearing, extremly jealous, and controlling. I also find myself talking to girls who as I begin to get intrested end up getting snagged up by another guy. Oh cruel fate, it is conspiring against me.

Check out this site though http://www.pathways-to-peace.com/ Click on view presentation. It has a very good saying in there about this very topic.

The one saying that caught my attention is this one, though I have a hard time putting it to practice myself

Never think God's delays are God's denials. Hold on, Hold fast, Hold out. Patience is genious ---Comte Georges Louis Leclerc de Buffon----

 

[fishstix]

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[mina]

bleh i know how you feel. I always have been the odd one out. It's hard seeing everyone around you moving forward in thier life while you are the one that doesn't have it. Anyways just know that God holds your life in His hands and He will bring you to what He has for you in His perfect time. Hang in there.

 

[sonshnes]

Middo, I know exactly how you feel. I have 6 friends getting married. Yes, 6. Like someone else said, I am happy for them and sometimes sad for myself. I guess I don't have any advise for you...I'm struggling with it myself. Just know that you're not alone. God will take care of those of us still being prepared to meet the one He has set aside for us.

 

[msjones21]

Oh wow, Middo! You're still so young to be worried about marriage and relationships. I know it's difficult though. All of the people my age at church are married and many of the married couples are younger than I am. My sister, her best friend, and I went to the mall this past Friday night. My sister is in a totally committed relationship which she has been in for the past three years. Her best friend has not been "boyfriend-less" since she was 13. Right now she is compromising her emotional well being to stay with a guy who is physically and verbally abusive because she can't stand the thought of being without a boyfriend. And then there's me. The 23 year old divorcee who hasn't had a steady relationship in almost a year. In fact, right now I'm not dating which is way odd for me. Sometimes I get jealous when I see people younger than me married and happy. But then I realize God will send the right one for me in His perfect timing. I'm content being single. I love living on my own and being free as a bird. I am happy waiting for God's perfect one instead of merely settling out of desparation.

Stay patient, stay strong, and stay in God's will. When you're inside the will of God you can't go wrong.

 

[middo]

Yeah, i know God has a plan, and i certaintly prefer being in his plan than running my own life. Doesnt make it any easier. And yes, i am young, i know that, so i have AGES but that doesnt make it easier when all my friends are young too, yet have all basically found their partners. I will hold out, i have to, its just tough realising i may feel like this for anywhere between a day and 20 or more years!

 

[desi]

Spring is on its way! ..."make me anything but neuter when the sap begins to stir."

 

[charligirl]

Middo, I know exactly how you feel. I have 6 friends getting married. Yes, 6. .

Anything can happen at any time, last year in January I was single and I had 5 weddings to go to over 2003.... in actual fact it ended up being 6, the 6th one being MY OWN! Didn't see that one coming last January! lol