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The single male circle of life...Tumbleweed64 said:Exactly what are you 2 talking about
Ohhhhhh, so you were talking about targer practicewildthing said:
Keil I totally get you on the relationship thing... I'm 41 and still wondering if my "soul mate" is out there somewhereThanks for the note - it brought out some things I've been thinking about.Tumbleweed64 said:Ohhhhhh, so you were talking about targer practice
KeilCoppes said:Thanks for the note - it brought out some things I've been thinking about.
One of the things that has been very important to me in the last few weeks is realizing how many years I spent in my view of myself as "not married" rather than "single". I can't know the secret will of God until it becomes revealed, so I don't know the end of things. However, what I do know is that God does make .all. things to work for the good of those who love Him. And I do know that we are to pray for our .daily. bread. My conclusion is that God has sent me good things each day of my life - and I need to see it that way. If my view of myself is that God has not sent me something right or something that I absolutely needed that day, then am I not judging Him?
And so although I would still like to be married someday, I'm taking a break to just get some mileage as a single person and live in that identity, to be content and happy without "I'm not married...!" discontent, and building up after the last relationship. Friends yes, hopes yes, but next time I would hope to not even start to get serious about marriage until three months or four months have gone by in a hopeful friendship - it's always been too fast and not really getting to know someone as much as is needed. I hope that God gives me a break in this and gives me several months of peace. I'm open to friends and new friends and hopes, but I need some mileage on my "consistent living and feeling" counter without turbulence. :^)
A soul mate? Does she exist? For me, I think I need to leave those thoughts in God's hands. If He sends such that I meet or find such a blessing, .then. I'll praise Him. There is no marriage in Heaven, so it must not be the fundamental quality of existence - we all know that. It's living it that is the challenge. Until God blesses me with meeting the right person (or not), I'll work to not wonder or worry, and work on finding daily happiness and rest (and trusting His providence), while yet being open to God blessing things and meeting new people (and working to be responsible in that providence).
I guess it comes down to - This is the day that the Lord has made... Let us rejoice and be glad in it! Do I believe it? If so, where are my thoughts, actions, and feelings? They .all. need to be consistent with the Word, and the feelings are my greatest challenge. Thoughts can be changed with discipline - feelings need to be changed with prayer, faith and trust. :^)
Oh, definitely. My ex fiance's parents were Christians too. It also sounds eerily like what happened to me, how she stopped talking to you... he had his phone off the hook and wasn't going online during the last month before we broke up.... all so he could "have some time to make up his mind." Yuck... get a brain, is what I say. Thankfully, that was 1 1/2 years ago, and I am getting married in August to a wonderful man who loves me, loves God, and has a brain of his own.KeilCoppes said:
I totally agree with you somewhere else on here too, where you said that if the person can't make up her own mind, if she has to rely on her family... then she's a child without a mind of her own. Yup... marriage is leaving and cleaving. If she can't do that, then she's still a little girl. So, it's definitely possible, and maybe just around the corner!
Thanks for the note, but even more - that's great, Kayli!invisiblebabe said:Thankfully, that was 1 1/2 years ago, and I am getting married in August to a wonderful man who loves me, loves God, and has a brain of his own.
