When Does A Marriage End?

[N67896]

Does it end when the judge says it's over? Does it end when one person abandons the other? 6-months, a year, or longer after they've separated. When one says to the other "It's over"?

Let me jump right to this scenario: A woman is waiting for her divorce to be "final." A fellow asks her out. Someone at church says, "That's emotional adultery because you're married." But, he left me 2 years ago. "You have to respect the laws of man, and they say you're still married." My ex has been sleeping around for two years, and the laws of man say it's o-k for him to do that, so why is it emotional adultery if i go to dinner with a guy?

Big can, lotsa worms, no waiting.

 

[OdwinOddball]

Really it comes down to a simple question, much like a lot of things.

Do YOU think you are ready?

If so, then go for it and don't worry about what the busy bodies and gossips think.

 

[flicka]

I agree with Odwin....when you look for affirmation from others for decisions you make then your just asking for trouble. I don't know why so many people feel like they need groups permission or consensus for everything.

 

[heron]

The other issue is, when is it safe to do things that could be brought into a court case against you? I would keep things very low-key until over is over.

 

[heron]

In my mind, dinner is dinner. People have business dinners all the time.

 

[Autumnleaf]

Depends on how you view marriage.

 

[Sundragon2012]

According to Jesus, outside of acts of adultry which can neutralize the marriage bond, a marriage can NEVER end before the death of a spouse.


)o( Blessed Be,

Chris

 

[flicka]

According to Jesus, outside of acts of adultry which can neutralize the marriage bond, a marriage can NEVER end before the death of a spouse.


)o( Blessed Be,

Chris

So I guess that means go ahead and go on that dinner date because waiting isn't going matter anyway.

 

[gwenmead]

Hmm.

I've been married twice. When my first marriage was over depends largely on who you talk to.

If you talk to the folks at the church we used to attend (primarily the pastor that married us), it ended when one of us got a new partner, since that constituted adultery.

If you talk to the ex, at one point he would've said that it never ended, because we were married in the eyes of God and that can never be changed no matter what. (I'm not sure what he would say now though.)

If you talk to the state, it ended when the judge declared it dissolved.

If you talk to me, it was over before a year was up.

Who's right?

In any case I'm not married to the ex anymore. So the reality is that it's certainly functionally over now, and has been for nearly 6 years.

So maybe the best I can say is "it's over when it's over."

 

[Sundragon2012]

So I guess that means go ahead and go on that dinner date because waiting isn't going matter anyway.

That would be a logical conclusion.


)o( Blessed Be,

Chris

 

[justanobserver]

Well, just my opinion (based on the experience from 3 marriages....) but it ends when the couple are already talking about divorce, separate lives, already involved in other things (not nessessarily another lover) but as in moving on, when your looking in the paper for the pricrs of rentals, when he/she rather be elsewhere than with you (and vice versa) - the legal document/time frame of a divorce is just the formality of something that already happened in the heart.

(divorced, widowed, divorced - am done with it. 3 strikes and I am out!)

 

[*Starlight*]

In my opinion, marriage ends when there's no desire to continue it... it means that the connection between two people based on mutual romantic love doesn't exist anymore.

According to Jesus, outside of acts of adultry which can neutralize the marriage bond, a marriage can NEVER end before the death of a spouse.


)o( Blessed Be,

Chris

Hi, Chris

Actually, some Bible translations say that it's marital unfaithfulness, not acts of adultery. The essence of marriage is love, not sex... so adultery isn't the only possible kind of marital unfaithfulness.

 

[LibertyChic]

According to Jesus, outside of acts of adultry which can neutralize the marriage bond, a marriage can NEVER end before the death of a spouse.


)o( Blessed Be,

Chris

This isn't necessarily true. Jesus cited the Law of Moses and stated that because of "the hardness of your hearts" divorce had become permissable.