Ok, help me through this one folks. I am currently going through a divorce. In a nutshell, there was infidelity involved, I tried to get my marriage back together, but it's not working and I finally got fed up with the lying and said I'm not coming back. We are just working through some of the details before filing the paperwork.
It's actually been three years of hell. So I'm sort of well adjusted to the fact a divorce is in the works. I don't want to seem flippant about it, it's not what I wanted, but after a while you just deal with it.
Anyway, I've met someone really, really nice. I am not involved with her beyond phone conversations and emails. I am wary of trying again. Besides the fact that I'm not divorced yet.
So when is it ok to date? I've been asked out (not the first time, I just didn't want anything to do with the others). I really like this person, but something feels wrong about even going out to dinner. My thought is that if she's that interested, she'll wait. But divorce proceedings can take a while. I'm not talking about a relationship here, merely a date, but there is certainly the potential for more later on. And I think the whole "let's go out as friends" thing is bogus. A date is a date is a date.
I guess I've always been of the mind that when you are married, you act as if you are married, and you wait until the divorce papers are signed. But all my Christian friends are telling me it's ok to date, but they have no scriptural support for either side.
There really is no reasonable chance for marriage reconciliation - What do you all think of this? Is a dinner date and a movie a bad thing at this point? It's strange, I really don't mind being alone for the rest of my life at this point. But I will admit I have been lonely for a long time and I'm not sure my judgement is reliable his case. Thoughts?
