What's your reasoning behind your "singleness"?

[Exodus]

Single waiting for the one I will fall for mentally and yes honestly, physically. But I may have just met her now.

 

[Hopeful]

5th April 2003 at 02:21 AM psycmajor said this in Post #16

Hopeful

In what way are you afraid of hurting people? Is it better not to act at all?

i forgot i posted here, i get lost in this forum
:o

i just dont trust myself, thats all

 

[the_man]

8th April 2003 at 12:22 AM pinPoint said this in Post #17

Jesus, Shy, My future wife, appreciation. I have written love poems to her. Her is a sample and please dont try too hard to read it. I write every other time when im lonely. I pray for her and hope that she will like to read all the poems I wrote for her.

Love Letter 1
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KJfmAE0AFBR/AwAAObL5VrZaq6RNOIAvXdHLNpAuXkMPaHz21lDiHuLIMDnlTaof
LsZbsbgs87GXEq+AnbdX+XKEAT7eZFv8IEAiJAAg7wlOIyDuw6bm4Xu8PMEPGDBZ
tkFKJdNV1rhA/Wz1EeZdonffM4PQQDu5puV4XyvtvuOxDEdsE2qEMJJnOU5R7MxA
SfmFQAicvXR6Pi2QPh/3SBb8vthDS4R/eeskV00/bkE/fUDQYJ84biEVWOyRFQtC
e7YjFJdRVBVA1Oo7qmRSsaazp9dvlokc6VRl94pKC6MqqeV***8wrDe9C7clAITu
kVoYzDfr/ZEIajlDDGKOobNRy2CfMuHjR0aSaMgAqsF9CFff0v8tEoJ3JT/A8Lie
wIj9xFfdVQwhMaV3we92sWm6Tk8GFsAU1aZVd5T975AAjW6f1dU1xC9bvfnQRIV3
mOe6an5xrb7FVsJXu9bCu2ent0VUnCDLGzvVaJw4ESGRXkCzMJRvyG5BidOigsCA
QYdElrYwHgpBVuOcucJTBo0UtOXUWIWA9Fsfsgw2Pe2y+aVUo8SW6qflM4vGMTye
wxaTyTE7WpsoWuhgUqCkKw0p4/vEh5uIIbeb5t1a0hw+o3m5snxBPFOX9L2EZG1f
kIvzDUQlL8XIF2voddRSwkm8th1/jR9Oo+AKO72AKTItdSWexqmD8mnqdTSACJwO
PkfEGdiPX7nib1MxV6h4DDoAN9PhdPoWqbe32PUn6FnVPQ2hg5XdMhDSHNK1YDsz
R5N0//QhkjDqBJkSP+OKTCtvPmeANUSV08FIsXIRy7GWxhBL
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thanks,

pin

Hey pin, did you mean for us to try to decipher this?

 

[psycmajor]

Levi,

Psalm 73:25 , NKJV
Whom have I in heaven but You? And there is none upon earth that I desire besides You.

 

[fieldmouse3]

Whay am I single? Nobody likes me.

Seriously, I just have a very specific idea of what kind of a guy I want to be with, and I think that God wants the same things in an eventual husband for me. So far, I've only met one guy who could possibly be it, but it'll be awhile before anything happens there...if it does. Soooo, I'm just waiting patiently for God's instructions. He knows when everything needs to happen, and who it needs to happen with!

 

[GodzAngel]

Well, I guess I'm single, cuz I just haven't found the right guy yet. I'm homeschooled, I have been the past 6 years. And I just switched churches(again), and all the guys from my old church were either too immature, or too old. I am graduating this year from H.S.(earlier than I'm suppose to), and I plan on going to college when I figure out what God wants me to do with my life, so who knows, maybe I'll meet "Mr. Right" there, ya never know right?! But anywayz, I'm just patiently waiting on the right guy to come along. Cuz God knows who he is, and God will bring him in my life when it's time for me to meet him, who knows, I may already know him, and don't even realize it!

 

[caley]

Well, here's my situation. I broke off my engagement two months ago. I definitely want to date again, but I have a problem. I am a dismal failure when it comes to pursuing women. I am attractive and have a great personality, but for some reason every time I have ever pursued a relationship it has been a dismal failure (although, admittedly, the last time was not my fault). Every relationship I have had has involved a girl pursuing me. So, my method is to just sit back and let the women come to me. I have had some pursuers in the past couple of months, but they have both been people I am not interested in.

So that is why I'm single, though I'd rather not be.

 

[Donny_B]

I could have married any one of two or three high school sweethearts, but decided I should go to college and get started in a career, then think about marriage sometime in my 20s or 30s.

I had a crush on one particular woman in college but unfortunately she had no mutual feelings for me. At the same time another woman had a crush on me, but I had no feelings for her.

After college, I moved to a new state and met an entirely new set of people, and dated a few times, but these were just 1 or 2-dates with the same person, and we never really got past that.

My last steady girlfriend was where I was fixed up with my bank teller's sister and we dated a few months. The reason I didn't really pursue it was because I thought our religious background was too different (she was Catholic). The reason I let myself get fixed up was that a workplace romance was not working out, and I wanted to get my mind on someone else.

By my 30s it used to bother me that I was still single, but I stopped thinking about it and decided I would leave it in the Lord's hands as to who He eventually had planned for me.

It feels kind of awkward having your old high school peers all married off with kids now. But some of them are stuck in unhappy relationships with big financial debts and with countless other problems.

At least I am happy and am debt free now and have something still to look forward to.

 

[Hewitt]

I'm single because I'm only 18 and not ready for marriage. I was in an awesome relationship recently but we've slowed things down because we realized that we were getting ahead of ourselves. We are still best friends, but now experience a relationship with less temptation. I will admit, I do miss not being single.

 

[DaveKerwin]

I was single for four years because all the women I asked on dates were turning me down! Bummer huh? I finally pestered one long enough where she changed her mind a year later, haha. I`m not sure if we will get married. If we don't, being single will be fine. But I don't think God has gifted me with singleness... we will see.

 

[ej]

I was single for 4 and a bit years because I was looking for a husband, not boyfriend.

I'm really glad that I did - meaningless dating is not something I've ever been interested in, and friends of mine in such relationships are beginning to gain perspective, and regret their casual dating.

 

[Donny_B]

I have also not had a very high self-esteem at all times, or have felt a lot of pressure in being a role-model growing up in a minister's family. I have also had weight problems. When I was at an ideal weight, this was when I was more confident and could ask a girl for a date. During my late 30s I let myself get too overweight, and this became almost an excuse for being single.

I work on the night shift at a hotel and the only other person I see most of the night is the night security guard. She has given me the incentive to lose weight again. She makes me laugh and feel good. She is 47 and divorced (I think), and a good friend, in a platonic way. I don't know if I should let it get past that, but at least I am feeling better about myself. I hope I can find someone younger and just keep the security lady as a friend. I would like to have my own family someday.

I will be sending in some photos of my weight progress a little later.

 

[Hewitt]

Well, my problem has just been timing. I keep trying to go by my watch instead of God's and that doesn't always work out too well. I recently had a great relationship but there was too much time in front of us for the time being. We decided to break it off while we could and allow God to bring us together later on down the road if that's His will.

 

[Singleman]

Like most of us, there is no reasoning or plan to my being single. I just am. I'm not resisting marriage, and as soon as I meet the right woman, the woman that God has picked out for me, I will be happy to marry her. It just hasn't happened yet.

 

[Hewitt]

Doesn't everybody here just love not knowing God's timing? I know I sure do.

 

[Icystwolf]

God's timing is very important. I remember being desperate a bit in Highschool, but God never let get into a relationship. One reason was because I repected my parents decision to not get into a relationship in highschool until I get into uni.

Now that I'm in uni, I've realised myself as a half, and I've postponed a relationship again. I didn't feel confident that I was ready for one, until God told me something else.

Now I realised that, I hope I don't offend anyone here, but God wanted me to realise that a relationship with a girl shouldn't start at a bf/gf level, but at marriage. Save it till marriage. But when you do get into a bf/gf level, there should only be deep friendship, and as you progress, the friendship gets deeper until you decide on marriage, which is where the relationship starts.

And for somereason I feel good with that, I see my friends upset when they split up from their mini-relationship.

I'm not sure, I've never been in a bf/gf level or a relationship, well I'm in a relationship with God which is the more important relationship..of course.

So whats your opinion on this?

 

[Hewitt]

I guess a lot of this depends on how you define relationship. For me, I consider every little friendship I have as a relationship. So in my eyes, my relationship will form with my girlfriend before marriage. However, I think you are referring to the more intimate level of the relationship. There will definitely be a new level to the relationship which marriage starts, but I like to keep that in a category of its own because I only plan on experiencing that once.

 

[Icystwolf]

But a relationship poses a lot of problems. I can't understand why people rush in and get their heads stuck in really hard, then rush to pull it out again, because the relationship isn't fitting.

 

[pecan]

I'm 24 and I've never dated a guy, been kissed, or even held a guy's hand. I admit there are days when I feel like it's because there's something wrong with me, and I'm embarrassed to admit it, but most of the time I realize it is all a part of God's perfect plan. If I had gotten involved in relationships that weren't of God, I would have missed out on so much. Being single has allowed me to travel and to do a lot of things for God that most married couples can't do. And it has given me time to gain a lot of maturity and wisdom that will probably make married life someday a little easier on both of us.
I have recently met a man who is almost as inexperienced at relationships as I am, and in some ways it makes things difficult, but it's also very exciting. To us holding hands is still something that makes our hearts race and our first kiss will be spectacular because we haven't already experienced that intimacy with a hundred other people. I especially want to encourage those of you who are in high school to hold on to your convictions, and don't look at your singleness as a curse. It gets hard, I know, when it seems like all of your friends are dating, but when the right person comes along, you will have such a treasure to offer them in a heart that hasn't been chipped away at by other relationships.

 

[Clytie]

Go Pecan!!!!!!! Amen Girl!!!!!!!