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What's going to happen to me??

BlueJay83

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i feel for you,
all i can do is send you a hug, i'm so sorry to hear of your situation.

try to remember God is bigger than all of this, SOMEHOW (as messed up as it may seem) there is a reason for this all, and he WILL use if for the good.

*hug*
 
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I've been reading some of your posts and although I have MUCH to say, I just want to make a few points clear.
1. You worry too much. When you worry, you are saying to God that you don't trust Him. He has a purpose and a plan for your life. He takes care of each and every bird daily; they don't store food up yet he feeds them. How much more do you think He cares about you?
Exercise your faith and watch the miracles. Just believe He will heal your wounds and make it possible for things in your life to work out. (by wounds, I mean emotional)
2. You're putting God in a box. Yes, it's a sin to divorce your spouse without Biblical grounds, but it's no bigger than any other sin. In God's eyes, a sin is a sin no matter what the supposed "sin meter" is in our heads. That murderer? His sins aren't any bigger than yours. That person at the fast food restaurant that's gossiping about her friend? She's committing the same size sin in God's book. Ask forgiveness then put it behind you. You're insulting God by assuming He hasn't or won't forgive you.
3. Get on with your life. Find things that you enjoy doing and do them. Don't waste your time on so called "friends" that aren't supportive and positive. Make friends that REALLY care about you. And most of all...don't worry, be happy. God loves you broken, but He's just as pleased with you when you're whole.
I'm going through a divorce right now, one I initiated. Long story. Do I have Biblical grounds? No. Did I try my hardest to make it work? Yes. Will God forgive me? He already HAS.
 
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There are only twenty days left until my marriage is officially over..:(

I'm desperate to understand just exactly is going to become of me after everything ends...I mean, I don't doubt for a second that my stbx spouse is well on his merry way toward remarriage and prospective children, and our divorce isn't even final yet. I am, however, deathly afraid that I may well be alone forever now, but for someone in my situation, I literally cannot survive without help.

I have to think about my quickly approaching future..I am well aware that while I'm perfectly capable of remaining single and celibate following this unscriptural divorce, it is an absolute necessity for me to have a reliable source of ongoing help. It doesn't seem to exist, though, as there are no close relatives or friends for me to turn to, and no organizations that offer the type of help I'm going to need for the remainder of my life- that is unless I was a senior citizen or a millionaire.

I'm physically disabled and cannot drive, and I've never worked. Unless I can ever find a job that I can do via telecommute (which I've been searching for for the last ten years), I'll never be able to get to work because I have no transportation. The same goes for running errands or anywhere else I need to go, let alone my intense lack of any human interaction for the last eight years...After my dear parents pass away, there literally won't be anyone left to help me with anything at all.

I've never lived entirely on my own before, and I was deeply considering getting a permanent roommate/companion, but the problem with that is that I highly doubt that that this individual would be interested in renting a low-income apartment with me, or whether that's even allowed. Even if I DID find a roommate, it's unrealistic to think that they would live with me forever, because most if not all of mainstream society eventually finds a partner and gets married. Thus, after this happens, I'll be back to square one.

I'm not honestly certain which aspect of this is more terrifying, being unmarried and completely unloved for the rest of my life because of my choice to unbiblically divorce, or knowing that even IF I can withstand that, I could end up dying someday from a sheer lack of adequate support.

As ridiculous as it seems, I just wish the Lord might send me some "angel" that could be my source of direly-needed help and care, because otherwise, I don't really know how I'm going to get through this. :cry:

Jeremiah 29:11

Make a list of positive things and post it somewhere or multiple places to affirm yourself on a daily/hourly/as needed basis.

As for the disability/transportation issues - have you checked with your local and/or state resources for any assistance. They should also be able to help you with housing assistance if you are not already receiving that, as well.

You will get through this - you just have to keep saying it to yourself.

:prayer:
 
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