what's a BAD date?

Gimpy · Apr 9, 2007

One night I was out to dinner with a rather tall slender young lady.
Dinner had just been served, when she asked me how I felt about her.
I said I thought I liked her. She looked at me with hurt eyes. I felt for her so I took her hand and tried to explain that realtionships take time to develop. She suddenly began screaming like a wild banshee that my life belonged to her, as she attempted to make my hand an accessory to the table with her steak knife.

SandyLou · Apr 10, 2007

hmmmm. . . . you seem to be attracted to violent women. . . . . do you happen to work at a max security uhhhh, center?

Gimpy · Apr 10, 2007

Lets just say I do work in security

eatenbylocusts · Apr 12, 2007

Gimpy said:
One night I was out to dinner with a rather tall slender young lady.
Dinner had just been served, when she asked me how I felt about her.
I said I thought I liked her. She looked at me with hurt eyes. I felt for her so I took her hand and tried to explain that realtionships take time to develop. She suddenly began screaming like a wild banshee that my life belonged to her, as she attempted to make my hand an accessory to the table with her steak knife.

Come on. Are these really true? If they are I don't think dating is good for your health.

jcj3803 · Apr 12, 2007

eatenbylocusts said:
Come on. Are these really true?

Gimpy = bad leg => pulling your leg (figuratively).

Gimpy · Apr 12, 2007

would you like to hear about another of my bad dates?

SandyLou · Apr 12, 2007

personally I'd rather we get back on topic with some honest insights about how you KNOW a date is not going well. . . . but then, that's just me wearing the OP button ~shrug~

eatenbylocusts · Apr 12, 2007

What I have found annoying is when you think you're having a good date, he even tries to kiss you goodnight, but then the calls and emails fizzle out to nothing. The one guy I almost felt like it was God making sure I didn't invest more time with someone who appeared fuzzy in his spirituality, but the other just completely befuddled me.

Princess Pea · Apr 12, 2007

When, after several conversational dead-ends and numerous glances at his watch in less than an hour, he says, "Can I go now?" (I said yes.)

Or when he (different guy) says he's taking you home now because his ball game is coming on ...

Or when you run into his ex-wife. Yeah, that's an awkward one.

Princess Pea · Apr 12, 2007

SandyLou said:
personally I'd rather we get back on topic with some honest insights about how you KNOW a date is not going well. . . . but then, that's just me wearing the OP button ~shrug~

But the stories are so much fun to tell! Honestly, sometime that's the only good part of the date ... "well, this will make a good story some day ... "

But back on track. When there's a lack of eye contact, an obvious lack of enthusiasm, forced conversation, bad behavior of any kind ... those are all pretty good signs that this thing is going nowhere. I keep telling myself I haven't found Mr. Right yet, but I've gotten awfully good at recognizing Mr. Wrong early enough to prevent him from doing any harm.

Gimpy · Apr 13, 2007

SandyLou said:
personally I'd rather we get back on topic with some honest insights about how you KNOW a date is not going well. . . . but then, that's just me wearing the OP button ~shrug~

Oh, ok

jcj3803 · Apr 13, 2007

Princess Pea said:
When, after several conversational dead-ends and numerous glances at his watch in less than an hour, he says, "Can I go now?" (I said yes.)

LOL! (Sorry!)

Princess Pea said:
Or when he (different guy) says he's taking you home now because his ball game is coming on ...

That might not be such a bad sign. If you are in the early stages of dating, it might mean that he is not so enthralled with you (yet) that he wants to keep doing his own thing, so to speak. I mean if a guy were willing to drop everything to spend extra time with you on a first or second date, that might mean he's "blowtorching" - ready to confess undying "love", which burns out in a couple of weeks - or very needy.

Slow and steady seems better than "I love you, I love you, I love you!" and *POOF*

I'm not sure I explained what I mean very well. Does it make any sense?

Princess Pea · Apr 13, 2007

jcj3803 said:
LOL! (Sorry!)

That might not be such a bad sign. If you are in the early stages of dating, it might mean that he is not so enthralled with you (yet) that he wants to keep doing his own thing, so to speak. I mean if a guy were willing to drop everything to spend extra time with you on a first or second date, that might mean he's "blowtorching" - ready to confess undying "love", which burns out in a couple of weeks - or very needy.

Slow and steady seems better than "I love you, I love you, I love you!" and *POOF*

I'm not sure I explained what I mean very well. Does it make any sense?

Sure, I agree 100% with the slow and steady approach. And even ditching me in favor of a ball game would have been OK if he hadn't TOLD me he was ditching me for a ball game! Or if he'd warned me in advance that it would be a very short evening because there was a ball game he wanted to watch ... or scheduled the date for a different night ... or invited me to watch it with him ...

Anyway, the ball game incident was about six weeks into into a 6-month relationship, and turned out to be a sign of things to come. The "can I go now" incident, on the other hand - that was a first date. And a last.

OhhJim · Apr 15, 2007

If you find yourself wanting to get away, it's a bad date. If you find yourself looking forward to seeing him/her again, it's a good date. I've had a couple of first dates where I suddenly came to the realization that scrubbing the grout in my shower was a fascinating alternative, and I couldn't wait to go do it.

Gimpy · Apr 19, 2007

OhhJim · Apr 19, 2007

To be fair, my dates probably felt the same way about me!

HopeandFaith4God · Apr 22, 2007

Good Afternoon everyone,

First, I think a Good Date would leave you with a sence of yes I caught him kinda feeling. Second, I think that if there was no feelings of any kind that you were thinking (this guy isnt for me) that to me would be a bad date.

I really think that people rush into things to fast these days and without just being friends first . I also feel that you have to be friends first before anything eles . Get to know each other before you take that marriage step . Maybe there wouldnt be so many divorces now adays . People can actually be living a happy and full life with there partner with Jesuses help through there church. So, I guess what i'm trying to say there is no good or bad dates I think its all up to us how we handle it from the beinning. (Faith) God Bless

SandyLou · Apr 25, 2007

HopeandFaith4God said:
. Get to know each other before you take that marriage step .

HUH?????
who was talking MARRIAGE???

I must've missed something - I was talking about a first or second date. . . . if there was a trigger for you that set off that lil alarm that says "YIKES where's the door?"

or, in Gimpy's experiences, "call 911"!

Gimpy · Apr 25, 2007

SandyLou said:
HUH?????
who was talking MARRIAGE???

I must've missed something - I was talking about a first or second date. . . . if there was a trigger for you that set off that lil alarm that says "YIKES where's the door?"

or, in Gimpy's experiences, "call 911"!

LOL I think some people are in a hurry to get married.

eatenbylocusts · Apr 25, 2007

Gimpy said:
LOL I think some people are in a hurry to get married.

Ok, not really in a hurry to be married, but to know I'm heading that way with the right person, I am so ready.

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