What you look for

[Timyone]

Hey how far is having an idea of what you look for in a girl (guy) too far?
if im ony interested in red heads etc etc
is it a bad thing to have physical looks at all involved in what you look for in a partner?

 

[junezephyr]

I wouldn't say it's a bad thing altogether, everyone is entitled to personal preferences. However I'd also say to keep an open mind. You could miss out by being too exclusive. You might be surprised later on.

 

[RED that's ME]

Red hair is a good attribute to have on your list.
God made us to be attracted to different kinds. I don't think a person should limit themselves though, till they get to know the person really well. Sometimes getting to know a person better that you might not have been AS physically attracted to, can change when you get to know them better.

 

[RDouglas]

I rend not to be interested in women under the age of 30, and I prefer they at least by in the mid-30s.

I also tend toward shorter women (5'5 or less) because I'm only of moderate height myself. there are very beautiful women above that height, of course. It's just a preference.

As far as attractions, like mentioned elsewhere, I'm attracted to women who have any sort of creative or athletic talent (singers, dancers, musicians, writers, etc). Intelligent women also interest me. I prefer to date a woman who I feel like is at least as intelligent as - maybe even more intelligent than - me.

Additionally, I have a fondness for Southern girls (because I grew up in West Virginia) and Scottish or Irish girls (because my family heritage is Scottish). Either type of accent gets my blood going

None of these things are dealbreakers. Just preferences.

 

[BIGMIKE]

Timyone ***ONLY MY PERSONAL OPION***


with that said, i believe that we can be specific with what we want in a mate when asking GOD or looking, as lone as it does not go against Gods word. Iv said that b4 in a post and took some flak about, i still believe it.

 

[BIGMIKE]

I know im going to get blasted with the critics, that say that "looks change and bodies change things droop and sag blah blah" As long as we are able to submit to what GODs will is as a FINAL result, specific looks and feature are fine to look for and ask for. ;-)

 

[plum]

well i think putting external attributes above internal ones can be problematic (looks don't last, being one reason). but having preferences seems mighty okay to me. i prefer brunettes or darker complected men. i greatly prefer men with southern/euro/aussie/almost-anything-but-generic-midwest accents. i'm most attracted to bigger guys (taller than me--over 5'9"--and built larger--some fluff and muscle). i love me some brains--give me an educated, thoughtful, deep nerd any day.

 

[Sketcher]

I'd say it's too far when you've got a "must have" list of qualities in the triple digits. Not wanting to marry someone because of an eye color is just stupid. You should however, marry someone you're attracted to.

 

[RDouglas]

I tend to prefer "girly girls". I see a lot of girls who say they're "just one of the guys". No offense, but I'm not interested in dating "one of the guys".

I like a woman who's flirty and loves a little male attention too. I even enjoy it when she's not afraid to use a little sex appeal to her advantage.

My college fiance used to pull the "soft eyes, pouty lips" thing just to get me to do stuff for her. That annoys some guys. Me? I loved it.

 

[twebcheater]

yeah i agree.. you should definatly be physically attracted to someone... and quite frankly if you cant be with someone because there eyes are green instead of blue, your a bit immature.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

I used to have a pretty solid idea of EXACTLY what I wanted ina girl.

then I met her, dated her, and almost married her.

Now, I'm very content having no clue what I want.



other than the pink baseball cap thing. Everything else will work itself out.

 

[KomissarSteve]

I used to be pretty particular myself, but that was really before I started dating. I thought I could only go for a pretty specific type of person, only to have my assumptions continually thwarted when I started meeting girls who defied this model and yet I somehow found to be very attractive.

 

[Gimpy]

I used to be pretty particular myself, but that was really before I started dating. I thought I could only go for a pretty specific type of person, only to have my assumptions continually thwarted when I started meeting girls who defied this model and yet I somehow found to be very attractive.

That is so true for me also, although it has been years since I have been on a date.

 

[Shazamataz]

In my experience, the idea of considering someone attractive is a heart issue. As I have posted before, my last boyf I did not consider to be that attractive when I started dating him, and he did not consider me either, however God changed our hearts toward each other. I think you need to be open... God surprises us in so many ways!!

About the list, I used to have one, mine was more personality qualities/traits than physical traits however lately, I've decided that I should really throw that away because I have set a mould for the "perfect man for me" and any man I meet, I will try to fit into that mould, and thus when I do date someone again I will be too busy trying to fit them into my mould rather than accepting and loving them for who they are.

God knows who that special person is and what they will be like... be ready for anything!!! I learnt the hard way that God likes blowing my ideas out of the water with His so much better plans!!!

 

[Gardener101]

Hey how far is having an idea of what you look for in a girl (guy) too far?
if im ony interested in red heads etc etc
is it a bad thing to have physical looks at all involved in what you look for in a partner?

I have an aversion to hairy men.

If he offered to shave, still no deal.

If he offered to get some kind of permanent hair removal like electrolysis or laser hair removal...still no deal.

Got to think about the future kids. Don't want them inheriting his hairy genes.


I have many other things like that. I guess that's why I'm still single