What would you Say..... ???

llghoney · Feb 9, 2006

Pretend the Double trick question doesn't work and your spouse answers, "Just becuase I want your Honest Opinion"

You are forced into answering the question... what do you say?
I would say if you really want my HONEST answer then I will give it to you but don't take this as I am not attracted to you still because I diffentely am.

I have NEVER figured out why women in paticular ask their H's if they look fat?? I know if I have gained weight & what I need working on. Or if I am outta shape I will say " I really need to work out."

MoodyBlue · Feb 9, 2006

I think this is certainly a case where stating the whole truth may be inadvisable. A negative response can and will be used against you at some point of time in the future. When your spouse asks this question, aren't they really just looking for a little reassurance? I never ask my wife this question, because quite obviously "I ain't a good as I once was", and I really don't want her to have to lie.

christalee4 · Feb 9, 2006

llghoney said:
Pretend the Double trick question doesn't work and your spouse answers, "Just becuase I want your Honest Opinion"

You are forced into answering the question... what do you say?

I would say if you really want my HONEST answer then I will give it to you but don't take this as I am not attracted to you still because I diffentely am.

I have NEVER figured out why women in paticular ask their H's if they look fat?? I know if I have gained weight & what I need working on. Or if I am outta shape I will say " I really need to work out."

It''s obviously a challenge to the husband, because you can't win either way! If hubby says (nicely) well, yes honey, you gained a couple of pounds, but I love you anyway - SLAM!!! Or, oh no, you look like you did in your high school picture, the wife will KNOW he's being insincere - and SLAM again.

What would be a good response? How about a humorous one, in which husband wheels around, takes his wife in his arms and dips her, and starts singing slightly off key, "Dont go changin'"? Breaking into dance musical could hopefully defuse the situation.

llghoney · Feb 9, 2006

christalee4 said:
It''s obviously a challenge to the husband, because you can't win either way! If hubby says (nicely) well, yes honey, you gained a couple of pounds, but I love you anyway - SLAM!!! Or, oh no, you look like you did in your high school picture, the wife will KNOW he's being insincere - and SLAM again.

What would be a good response? How about a humorous one, in which husband wheels around, takes his wife in his arms and dips her, and starts singing slightly off key, "Dont go changin'"? Breaking into dance musical could hopefully defuse the situation.

I just do not understand why the wife would want reassurance?? That seems like an self-esteem thing to me. Especially if EVERYTHING is going good in the relationship.

Like that one commercial where the wife walks in & asks her H if she looks fat in the dress she has on & he is reading the newspapaer. I don't get those commercials.

4jacks · Feb 9, 2006

Leanna said:
Its true 4jacks, someday you and your wife will be old, and look old. So enjoy the next 20 years as you slowly deteriorate. And stop being so vain!!! Looks aren't everything.

I'm not Vain!!!! I said my wife was Hot... I never said I was Hot,

I'm Scrawny and need to gain weight, completely different thread...

Who are you calling Vain anyway, Mrs... I'm too perfect to enter any fitness competition =þ

Great thanks alot, Now i'm going to have that song stuck in my head all day...

searle29678 · Feb 9, 2006

I just do not understand why the wife would want reassurance?? That seems like a self-esteem thing to me. Especially if EVERYTHING is going good in the relationship.

After a certain age, I guess you start to worry a little about the changes you are going through. You get used to looking a certain way and then you wake up one morning and things jiggle that didn't use to, things sag and hang a little lower, little lines start showing up on your face and it is hard to adjust sometimes.

I think you can have all the self esteem in the world and be very happy to be you, but it's still nice to hear that your other half still thinks you are attractive.

4jacks · Feb 9, 2006

christalee4 said:
Are you really 26, 4jacks? If so, wait until you are in your 50's, dude. Real love is beneath the skin, don't you think?

Yes, I'm 26... Another thread got me thinking about this, and this is something that me and my wife have talked about. She insists that if she starts to get out of shape, that I put a gun to her head and drag her to the gym and dump her on the treadmill.

And not all old people get out of shape, we have seen several older people who we aspire to age as gracefully as.

Leanna · Feb 9, 2006

4jacks said:
I'm not Vain!!!! I said my wife was Hot... I never said I was Hot,

I'm Scrawny and need to gain weight, completely different thread...

Who are you calling Vain anyway, Mrs... I'm too perfect to enter any fitness competition =þ

Great thanks alot, Now i'm going to have that song stuck in my head all day...

What's the point in competing in a fitness competition that is only looking at the removal of fat when there's not much to remove, at least not except at the expense of my health What I need are long endurance muscles..... I think we should meet and compete in a 5k guys v. guys, girls v. girls.... THAT is a competition.

Leanna · Feb 9, 2006

4jacks said:
Yes, I'm 26... Another thread got me thinking about this, and this is something that me and my wife have talked about. She insists that if she starts to get out of shape, that I put a gun to her head and drag her to the gym and dump her on the treadmill.

And not all old people get out of shape, we have seen several older people who we aspire to age as gracefully as.

Then you better not only focus on your exercise but also your diet.

4jacks · Feb 9, 2006

Leanna said:
What's the point in competing in a fitness competition that is only looking at the removal of fat when there's not much to remove, at least not except at the expense of my health What I need are long endurance muscles..... I think we should meet and compete in a 5k guys v. guys, girls v. girls.... THAT is a competition.

I've already explained, it's not just Weight Loss, it's Most improved in what ever your goals are, I'm trying to Gain Weight, most are trying to lose weight, you could also go for toning up. Or you go from just begin skinny and undefined to being toned up and sculpted that would do it =þ

And I'm not snorting no 5 kilo's of Coke, That's crazy even if we all did get together

Leanna · Feb 9, 2006

4jacks said:
I've already explained, it's not just Weight Loss, it's Most improved in what ever your goals are, I'm trying to Gain Weight, most are trying to lose weight, you could also go for toning up. Or you go from just begin skinny and undefined to being toned up and sculpted that would do it =þ

And I'm not snorting no 5 kilo's of Coke, That's crazy even if we all did get together

Wha?

I'm talking about a run ...........

Redguard · Feb 9, 2006

No matter what changes your spouse goes through, always give the most reassuring answer if they ask you how you feel about them physically.

christalee4 · Feb 9, 2006

4jacks said:
Yes, I'm 26... Another thread got me thinking about this, and this is something that me and my wife have talked about. She insists that if she starts to get out of shape, that I put a gun to her head and drag her to the gym and dump her on the treadmill.

And not all old people get out of shape, we have seen several older people who we aspire to age as gracefully as.

Right - ideally, we should all strive for perfection in our exercise and eating habits. Even so, genes have a lot to do with it, metabolism, general health. Someone with a prediliction for heart disease and weight gain the family struggles all the harder. But that's not the point - say even if one worked out really hard every day, and ate right, and kept one's body thin and as taut as one could manage - the sags and wrinkles still happen. I don't care if the guy was Jack Lalanne (remember him, folks - the fitness guru from the 1950's and '60's), when the older man or woman gets a certain age, NO amount of exercise is going to remedy saggy butt, arm-wings, falling chin wattle, or a wrinkly belly. Only plastic surgery takes care of that.

alwaysyoung · Feb 9, 2006

If it goes back to the simple question, "am I still physically attractive?" , then I think it should be answered honestly. In every other aspect of our relationship we should strive to be open and honest if questions are asked...this is no different. I've asked my dh this before and I had to draaag the truth out of him He answered kindly and didn't insult me but basically I figured out that he liked it when I wore "cute" clothes. I had been wearing sweats, etc for awhile after having one of my babies...I was so grateful for his open honesty. As his wife, I want to please him and it wasn't any trouble to be dressed cute for him again so he could find me physically attractive. I would always want the truth...wrapped in love of course.

However, if he always made commets and held me up to some high supermodel standard, that would be out of line and not loving. I think issues should usually only be brought up IF the spouse asks.

Lena75 · Feb 9, 2006

Ugh, I'm passing on this one.

seamonster · Feb 9, 2006

I asked my husband, "what would you do if I got fat and asked you if I was still attractive?"

He said he'd cut right to the point and ask me if *I* thought I was attractive, because obviously if I'm asking I wouldn't find myself attractive, and we'd find a solution to the problem.

Mirelys · Feb 9, 2006

I face this almost on a daily basis.
I tell him that I definately think he is attractive, but that I know he doesn't feel good about his weight (just a tiny bit extra, btw...can hardly notice). I let him know that if he wants to start eating healthier, I will help him, but if he stops eating again and starts with those scary diet pills, I will be turning him in to his superiors so that he can get counseling before he damages his health.
Oh, how he answered this when I was pregnant:
"You have a really lovely face."
Wrong answer.

4jacks · Feb 10, 2006

Mirelys said:
Oh, how he answered this when I was pregnant:
"You have a really lovely face."
Wrong answer.

Oh my Goodness!!! lol

I should of made that one of the choices !!

that's classic material.

I'll never understand the women who are pregnant think that Males think they look fat thing... Men think your are pregnant not fat.

Hopefully I'll never have to deal with that one though.

GutterRat · Feb 10, 2006

Run away...fast!

4jacks · Feb 10, 2006

Ya know I really thought this would be the Popular answer not "Lie to your Spouses Face" ... ahahah I guess everyone just likes the way I worded that one better.

I should of put more Ghetto Slang in the other choices as well.

What would you Say..... ???

Spouse asks "Do You Still Find My Physically Attractive?"

TRICK QUESTION ~~ RUN AWAY

Politely try to change the Conversation

Well Dear.... You have gained a couple pounds

Did I ever find you Physically Attractive?

Yeah From the Neck Up and Ankles Down!

Yeah! You're still Sexy, But Maybe we Could work on ....

Physical Beuaty is Shall and Worthless, I don't ever look at that

*Crosses Fingers Behind Back* Yeah Baby, You still my Wild Thang, You Da Bomb For Really Yo!

Well I've been Thinking about that, and I'm getting you a gym membership

Well I've thought about that a lot, And I'm running off to Michagan to Be a Nun/Preist, Goodbye!

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