What Would You Do ?

[BAFRIEND]

assume (if you are not) that you are a gay homosexual male and that you are on a forum and read a new post that says:

i am 14yo male and so confused. i think i might like other guys but i am not sure. my parents are very religious so i am afraid to tell them.... please help me !!

What would you do ?

 

[Brieuse]

assume (if you are not) that you are a gay homosexual male and that you are on a forum and read a new post that says:



What would you do ?

I'd tell him to relax, he'll figure it out for himself.

 

[BAFRIEND]

I'd tell him to relax, he'll figure it out for himself.

That would be option number three:

INFORM/ENCOURAGE HIM BEHIND HIS PARENTS BACK.

 

[Brieuse]

That would be option number three:

INFORM/ENCOURAGE HIM BEHIND HIS PARENTS BACK.

Inform implies giving information

 

[ChaliceThunder]

I would refer him to a gay positive counselor and/or minister, AND I would give him info if he asked for it.

 

[Ave Maria]

I'd refer him to a counselor or minister.

 

[UberLutheran]

I'd give the kid information if he needed it/requested it; and I'd refer the kid to a gay-accepting/gay-friendly counselor and minister.

If the kid had been thrown out of his home and had no place to stay (and that happens more frequently than people might imagine), I'd let him stay in one of our guest bedrooms until we could get him properly situated, make sure that he stayed in school, had clean clothes, food to eat, etc. (Matthew 25:31-46).

 

[BAFRIEND]

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[BAFRIEND]

I'd tell him to relax, he'll figure it out for himself.

Inform implies giving information

Support implies comfort; as in "relax".

 

[invisible trousers]

Who's up for some LINE CROSSING?

 

[ChaliceThunder]

Who's up for some LINE CROSSING?

Thanks for bringing in the sunshine!

 

[BAFRIEND]

Who's up for some LINE CROSSING?

Thanks for bringing in the sunshine!

Oh man.

 

[mont974x4]

a mix

1. encourage him to talk to his parents and honor them as commended
2. show him passages about sexual immorality and choosing to walk in the Spirit and not in the flesh
3. throughout make it clear that God loves Him, we love him, and that I'd be praying for him

 

[ChaliceThunder]

Oh man.

Bro - you seriously have to lighten up!

 

[white dove]

a mix

1. encourage him to talk to his parents and honor them as commended
2. show him passages about sexual immorality and choosing to walk in the Spirit and not in the flesh
3. throughout make it clear that God loves Him, we love him, and that I'd be praying for him

The only problem I see with that is that parents can get pretty freaked out over their child's sexuality -heterosexuals, muchless homosexuals. Telling their parents that they feel confused might further confuse and/or irritate them, depending on how understanding the parents are to begin with. I've watched a few documentaries on how difficult it can be for children to "come out" to their parents and witnessing the confusion stirring within the parent...when it is the child who is in torment over what to feel vs. what not to feel, what's right, what's wrong. It's not about the parent, it's about the child's well-being (spiritual, mental and physical).



Otherwise, I'd agree with your entire post.

 

[BAFRIEND]

It's not about the parent

Why is not about the parent ?

I disagree that anyone should take the liberty to do anything more than refer the kid back to his own parents. Nobody has any business (especially strangers) meddling with kids online over a sexual orientation issue, period.

 

[white dove]

If children were allowed to come to their parents with their every concern (esp. with one of this magnitude) without getting chastised for questioning, then absolutely they should feel compelled to share with their parents. Parents should provide a safe haven where children feel welcome to share their thoughts and questions without feeling as though they are condemned to do so.


The question is: How many parents are willing to put aside their own prejudices in order to help their children overcome their confusion? Many times, it is the parents who feel as though it is all about them: What did we do wrong? How could this happen to us? What about our future grandchildren?

Um, excuse me. It isn't their sexuality that is called into question here. It's their son/daughter's.


It has been my own experience that parents (especially christian ones) are the first ones to gasp at the mere thought of their children questioning certain things. How can confronting such parents on such a fragile issue make the child who is struggling want to discuss anything with anyone, for fear of being branded as something less-than a human being?

 

[DMagoh]

assume (if you are not) that you are a gay homosexual male and that you are on a forum and read a new post that says:



What would you do ?

I'd refer him to a Bible believing minister/counselor that would not judge him, but lead him to see that ANY sexual immorality is sin. If the situation lends itself, I might be willing to share how I almost destroyed my life giving in to those desires myself, and how God has blessed me since I have repented and following his Word.

 

[TheFathersDaughter]

I agree. I have many homosexual friends who are afraid to come out to their parents. Several of them are afraid it could go so far as to be kicked out of the house for just CONFUSION over their sexuality, let alone being near positive.

 

[BAFRIEND]

I'd refer him to a Bible believing minister/counselor that would not judge him, but lead him to see that ANY sexual immorality is sin. If the situation lends itself, I might be willing to share how I almost destroyed my life giving in to those desires myself, and how God has blessed me since I have repented and following his Word.

AND DON'T MESS AROUND WITH OTHER PEOPLE'S KIDS ON LINE. THAT GOES ESPECIALLY FOR PEOPLE WHO WANT TO OFFER HELP BY ADVISING KIDS IN MATTERS OF ALTERNATIVE LIFESTYLES THEIR PARENTS MAY NOT AGREE WITH.

IF YOU DO THAT (INTERFERE WITH THE CHILD'S RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS PARENTS) YOU ARE VIOLATING ONE OF THE TEN COMMANDMENTS !

AND I HOPE THAT CONFUSED KID ACCUSES YOU OF SOMETHING YOU DID NOT DO, BECAUSE YOU WERE ASKING FOR IT !