What would you do if you found out your child was gay?

[Ave Maria]

What would you do if you found out that your child was gay? Please vote in the poll and discuss.

 

[Ave Maria]

I would accept my child as he/she was and accept any relationships he/she might have. They'd still be my child and I'd still love them as much as I did before if not more.

 

[BelindaP]

I am not going to sit in judgment of my adult children, just as I hope that on the last day Jesus will not sit in judgment of me. My children will grow up knowing my views on things, but when they are adults, I won't own them.

 

[Ave Maria]

I am not going to sit in judgment of my adult children, just as I hope that on the last day Jesus will not sit in judgment of me. My children will grow up knowing my views on things, but when they are adults, I won't own them.

So you wouldn't care if your children were in a same sex relationship with someone?

 

[tecjr]

hmm, none of the above.
a and b are out
c and d need something else between.
I don't think I could actively condone the relationship, but nor would I condemn--not my place.
my children are my children. I love them unconditionally and would welcome anyone they love. If asked, I would tell them I feel the relationship to be in error, but if not asked, I would simply be a loving parent.

 

[skipper]

hmm, none of the above.
a and b are out
c and d need something else between.
I don't think I could actively condone the relationship, but nor would I condemn--not my place.
my children are my children. I love them unconditionally and would welcome anyone they love. If asked, I would tell them I feel the relationship to be in error, but if not asked, I would simply be a loving parent.

I agree with with you there needs to be something in between. My children have values and morals and I hope that they stand on them.

 

[ChaliceThunder]

I would accept them as they are.

I would make sure they were educated about sexual issues, and caution them that sexual activity outside of a committed relationship is far from optimal, and that it's best to wait until they were certain they could make an informed, mature commitment.

Of course, they are going to do what they are going to do...they are youth!

But the WORST thing a parent could do is disown their own child...especially out of their own fear of an angry, vengeful god. (I know a couple who kicked their son out when he was 15 because he was gay. Their reasoning was basically, "God won't countenance this, and he's not going to bring God's wrath down on our home.") It was pathetic.

He is a minister in a church now, by the greace of God.