what would u give?

[mama2one]

damaging winds came thru & 2 trees from two different neighbors fell in our yard
insurance doesn't pay if tree not on house

one neighbor is paying for tree removal from our yard which they don't have to do
it will save us a lot of money
(thick tree from their yard all the way up to our house)

going to send a thank you & thought we should put a restaurant gift card in it
husband doesn't think gift card is necessary

I think it's the Christian thing to do
as I said they didn't have to pay for it cause if a tree falls on one's yard, it becomes your problem

would you give gift card & how much?
thanks in advance for advice

 

[ByTheSpirit]

If it were me, I'd get a gift card to a nice restaurant so they can have a nice dinner. So depends on if they are married, single, have kids. Probably $20/adult, $10/child would be a start point.

 

[sandman]

It's a win win for both of you. They are giving and will be blessed back... and you, showing your appreciation for their deed (which is can be very costly) will get blessed back by giving.
I agree with ByTheSpirit on the $ denomination.....just don't do it grungily....

 

[mama2one]

my idea
it's husband that doesn't think it's necessary

 

[com7fy8]

Well, I would say you want to get into agreement with your husband, however this works out with prayer.

And you can send them a card, at least, since you both agree on this

And then perhaps in time something can develop. How about having them over for dinner or a barbecue party out back? What do your neighbors enjoy? They might not go for restaurant stuff, for all I know.

By the way . . . do they plan to keep the firewood? That can be an included benefit of cutting up the part of the tree on your property.

 

[sandman]

my idea
it's husband that doesn't think it's necessary

I understand ….It is too bad that sometimes we view through the senses as a condition for reciprocation.

I am sure the neighbors don’t expect anything….but that should have nothing to do with your husbands giving…..this should be giving because you have been blessed by an act of kindness. The only condition God puts on giving is not to do it grudgingly or out of necessity.

Viewing people’s lives through the senses is very deceiving….You have no idea what goes on in others lives ….unless you are getting revelation from God. Who knows ….by giving them a dinner gift card ….it might be just the moment they needed together for a marriage that is falling apart on the inside. Maybe an alternative to the gift card would be to invite them over to a BBQ…Just a thought.

 

[com7fy8]

my idea
it's husband that doesn't think it's necessary

Maybe it's a guy thing . . . neither guy wanting to go out.

But you and the wife could appreciate something like a lunch out with each other.

She should know what would mean something to her husband or not.

 

[2PhiloVoid]

... cause if a tree falls on one's yard, it becomes your problem

This 'legal rule' strikes me as one of the more asinine pieces of supposed rational thought that a ruling body could define and/or arbitrate... In my view, despite the varieties of so-called "acts of Nature," I've always been of the mind that where a tree is situated and rooted, that's the where the locus of the ongoing legal and moral responsibility resides. Not on the neighbor.

But, I know, a number of city codes and laws are funky like that.

would you give gift card & how much?
thanks in advance for advice

Do what you feel is appropriate, I guess.

 

[turkle]

my idea
it's husband that doesn't think it's necessary

Generosity is never necessary. Kindness is never necessary. Appreciation is never necessary.

However, being generous, kind and appreciative builds relationships and community. Jesus said "love one another". We love by doing things for others, as your neighbors are doing for you. I think it's sad that your husband has this attitude. In this situation, I would absolutely show my appreciation.

 

[JAM2b]

I wouldn't give a gift card without the husband's agreement. I like the idea of a BBQ, but if you invite one neighbor, then the other neighbor might notice and wonder why they weren't invited.