What would Jesus do?

[CarolineBlue]

Hello. I have been trying to be a good Christian and sometimes it is very hard because many people I know don't seem to be very Christian at all.
A young man I like very much had a birthday recently and a woman who is married gave him as a present a Sex Game like a sex board game with dice. I am sure she thought it was a great gift she is not a Christian or anything.
He mentioned to me and some others that he hasn't had anyone to play with.

I know I cannot make a person celibate like me or make them suddenly believe in God but I am very very very angry and hurt and sad that this woman would give him a gift that his friends seem to be ribbing him about and that he may feel compelled to use. His other friend is into strip clubs and so on and I know many young men are and it doesn't mean they're bad people but I am very sad about this because I believe God really wants us to wait and this guy is not a Virgin I dn't think.

I am very jealous-very very sad, angry and jealous of whoever this young man likes. And what really hurts is that any girl that comes onto him he will probably "get" with. I could do that but I don't think he'd be happy with a GF who was celibate we're both about 24 years of age.
I just HATE that being me is what is keeping me from having relationships. There are no nice guys around who are Christians I have looked and I have tried not looking. I've tried being provocative. Tried being just me. Tried being nicer than I know I am.
I really like someone and they once again will probably not be the one for me I am so fed up with being like this if being a Christian is so great why is it so lonely?
I know even Jesus had no friends at one point but He was Jesus I'm an ordinary girl and I have done and am doing my best for others I think maybe I could do more but I just am sick of the World and its' heathen ways. Are we really living in the "last times"? If we are I hope Jesus comes tomorrow. People have been saying it is the end times for years.

There's got to be more to life than helping others and being nice and Christian yet totally alone. I don't want just anyone I want this young man I have been good don't I deserve a little happiness?I could totally help save his soul I just want someone to hold for once I mean it's not like I want a whole harem of young hotties I just want one guy. The right guy. I don't date because I am a Christian and I know the guys' will want more than I can give them.

They want a promiscuous girl, not someone who will hold their hand when they're sick and hug them when they feel down. Sexy girls are never alone. Christian girls have God but we don't get our reward until we die and that means meantime life sucks. I am happy I can help others when I am well enough to. I am not happy that I am not happy.

Look at all the times I wrote "I". It appears I am a little selfish too.

Just wish I could make everyone a Christian.

 

[Irenaeus]

Caroline,

The real people who are sick of spirit are them. They need your prayers.

When the pleasures of this life fade away, and the pretended light of wordly delights dims, and the Sun of Righteousness shines upon those he justified with his own blood, it is they who will gnash their teeth in regret.

Many seek endless pleasure because they are empty inside. After time, food and drink turn to ashes in the mouth of a glutton, rest becomes wearisome to the slothful, envy and pride poison the heart, wrath destroys in a flash of wanton passion, and lust consumes itself in its inferno of unreasoning desire.

The people who truly can't have a relationship are them, Caroline...they can't get past the flesh and into the spirit. Many of these guys friendships may be based on the pursuit of pleasure, but what substance is in them after the pleasures fail them, or bodily illness visits them?

I bet they can't stand silence, because in silence one tends to think about who and what they really are. That thought must horrify them, so they run about to a million sexual spectacles and wicked fantasies. None of them have heard what Augustine experienced, "The wicked have told me of delights, but not such as thy law has to tell."

I see you are a Messianic Jew. I don't know where you stand on the religious life, but many "sexy girls" and "hot guys" give their lives totally to Christ in complete chastity...why?

It is because they are ensnared by a love that will never pass away. The path to Christ is laid with thorns that bear fruit to the healing of the soul.

Pray to God that he will send you a kind, righteous man, if you believe it is your calling to be married. If you feel attracted to this guy, okay. But do not make it an occaision of sin for you. God does want you to be happy, but he wants you to be truly happy, eternally happy. Even natural human relationships have their flaws. A friendship or marriage bound in God however, and the love it brings endures forever, even into eternity...where we are like the angels, no longer giving in marriage.

Consider how Lot was vexed, the only righteous man living in Sodom. I also can understand how painful that must feel.

But do not be desperate. Do not look at false happinesses. Look to God, and find your refuge in his heart.

I will pray for you. I hope this helps.

 

[Benedicta00]

. Irenaeus is right, we all suffer from a illness we call sin, original sin. We all have these big gaping wounds of sin, lust being one of them that causes us to have disordered passions. To desire what is wrong and immoral and bad for our soul. The good news is Jesus came to not only forgive us but to heal us of these wounds, "By his stripes we were healed." Pray for your friends who are in bondage to their own disordered passions and pray that they will renew their reprobate minds and turn your own wounded nature (the jealousy and anger) into a sacrifice that you can offer to God on their behalf for their conversion. Pray for them and make sacrifices for them that they will come to the light of Jesus where there is forgiveness and healing and during the process you can find healing for your own fallen nature- the source and cause of your sadness and pain. We are all sinners and in need of deliverence.

 

[St_Joseph_Cupertino]

When the pleasures of this life fade away, and the pretended light of wordly delights dims, and the Sun of Righteousness shines upon those he justified with his own blood, it is they who will gnash their teeth in regret.

Many seek endless pleasure because they are empty inside. After time, food and drink turn to ashes in the mouth of a glutton, rest becomes wearisome to the slothful, envy and pride poison the heart, wrath destroys in a flash of wanton passion, and lust consumes itself in its inferno of unreasoning desire.

Hi Caroline

I agree with what Irenaeus said above. We have to remain focused on the End prize. On God. This life is very temporary. Our only lasting happiness and satisfaction is in God. We must seek Him first.

I do know what you mean though, I also prayed for someone to love, just like you are now. I prayed that prayer a long time ago, I remember since school times. And since then I have had a few really bad relationships. But our God is faithfull and in the end, and also in His time, he gave me the perfect wife. I have never been happier. And looking back, I know now that his timing was perfect. So, there is hope. Keep praying!

But more specifically, do you see yourself marrying this guy? Is he a match for you? Even in religion? You'll have to think very carefully before entering into a relationship with him. If he will influence you to make the wrong descisions, don't do it! It might cost you your salvation.

I'd say the best thing would be to keep praying for him. Prayer is very powerfull and really works!
My wife and I have been praying for a guy to come closer to our Lord an in the last while, I can really see the imporvement. He is not there yet, but our prayers are definately being answered.

Good luck and keep in his ways!

Peace in Christ!

 

[CarolineBlue]

Hello again. Thankyou for your kind words and advice. I can indeed see me Marrying this person and no-can't see him persuading ME to lead a sinful life. It be more the other way around-me helping him become a Christian.

I will continue to Pray for him and Pray for health for me and those I Love aswell. Been a rough decade or so and need to get to the bottom of some things that seem hopeless. Need some miracles indeed.
I pray for you all.
Oh and I am a Catholic I don't know why it says I am a Jew.

 

[Anthony]

Hello again. Thankyou for your kind words and advice. I can indeed see me Marrying this person and no-can't see him persuading ME to lead a sinful life. It be more the other way around-me helping him become a Christian.

I will continue to Pray for him and Pray for health for me and those I Love aswell. Been a rough decade or so and need to get to the bottom of some things that seem hopeless. Need some miracles indeed.
I pray for you all.
Oh and I am a Catholic I don't know why it says I am a Jew.

CarolineBlue

Guard your heart.

If you "were" to marry him, would you be equally yoked?

 

[CarolineBlue]

It says in The Bible that you shouldn't NOT marry someone you Love just because you are not equally yoked.
In fact these days it is extremely hard to find someone "equally yoked" and I would certainly never date a young man just because he was Catholic.

In this town a lot of the Catholic young men play for the Catholic football team and they are all about the drinking and the sex.
As a younger woman I did indeed yearn for one young man in particular who played baseball-he was a good upstanding young man and for many years I believed he would be "The One.

I was on good terms with his Mother, my brother was a good friend of his, and he was Catholic. He used to pray the Rosary every morning apparently so his Mum said.

Long story short-he got with someone else and although I am not 100% sure, I think he was sexually active with her.

Either way-I was crushed. Loving/Liking someone since I was 11 o 12 only to grow up and at 18/19 see him with a perfect blonde opposite of me was heart wrenching. I have never trusted my heart since which is why I feel betrayed by my Faith. I looked for a so-called "good guy" and where did it get me?

Maybe it is different in other places, maybe there are wonderful young Catholic guys out there but they are certainly not at all where I am. Then again I am hardly a catch but still-I don't believe there are any guys around who care to wait for marriage.

I believe that I have feelings for this person I like for a reason. I am praying to always do the right thing and not have feelings for the wrong person. I Pray every day that God guides us all by the hand so that everything I do-every decision I make-is for Hid Glory and for the happiness of me and mine.

I can't "stop" feeling things for someone without Gods' help so I beg him to steer me correctly. Meantime I am Praying for the best and hoping my Prayers will convert this young man and that we CAN be together somehow.

And if that is not in Gods' plan well, I hope he is converted anyway and that I can somehow bear the pain and loneliness I have grown accustomed to and live a happy single life working for God and to help others.

What more can I do other than place it all in His capable hands?

 

[CarolineBlue]

I am feeling especially angry, bitter and sad today. Just got some recent photos back rom the lab and it aint petty.
I know beauty is only skin deep and some are far worse off. Please help me to see that Lord. In Jesus' name I Pray. Amen.

Boy oh Boy am I angry. Tried putting it in context.

 

[stray bullet]

Hello again. Thankyou for your kind words and advice. I can indeed see me Marrying this person and no-can't see him persuading ME to lead a sinful life. It be more the other way around-me helping him become a Christian.

I will continue to Pray for him and Pray for health for me and those I Love aswell. Been a rough decade or so and need to get to the bottom of some things that seem hopeless. Need some miracles indeed.
I pray for you all.
Oh and I am a Catholic I don't know why it says I am a Jew.

You need to adjust the faith option under OPTIONS in the USER CP

 

[Rising_Suns]

In this town a lot of the Catholic young men play for the Catholic football team and they are all about the drinking and the sex.

The best way to meet great Catholics in your area is to call up your local diocese and ask about their young adults minstry. Usually there is stuff going on all the time, like Theology on Tap, Eucharistic Adoration, house partys, etc. Get active with the Catholic community in your area and you will no doubt meet people who are more in line with yourself.

Go to daily Mass too.

 

[CarolineBlue]

Rising Suns see above-I have tried all that. The majority of youh groups in my area consist of young teens only.

 

[Paul S]

Oh and I am a Catholic I don't know why it says I am a Jew.

Well, Catholicism comes from the Jews and is its fulfilment.

stray bullet's right - click on User CP, then "Edit profile".

 

[Rising_Suns]

Rising Suns see above-I have tried all that. The majority of youh groups in my area consist of young teens only.

No, not youth groups. Young Adults Ministry (YAM). There should be one in every diocese.

http://www.yam.org/

 

[CarolineBlue]

I have never heard of that. Are they all over the world? Or just America?