Whew, I feel like my ministry over the last five years or so has been one long "difficult thing" after another. Let's see if I can put it in a nutshell (don't hold me to that! lol)
We had fantastic worship in the church we went to in Arizona. Even our Wednesday night rehearsals were worship times. Then my family moved to Texas (my home state, so it was nice to go "home"). We joined a very small church (partly because my dad goes there and we love the pastor), and this church had had music issues for YEARS. They had only an interim worship minister who basically did choir and Sunday morning and that was it. He didn't even write up the worship order, just did what the pastor told him to. So it started out with me "secretly" writing up the worship orders ("to avoid any controversy over a woman doing this"), then finally I was allowed to "go public". Then another musical young woman joined the church and she and I became a "praise team". Then we merged with another church, and their worship leader became our worship leader for the first six months (part of the "deal"). After those six months it became Lead-by-Committee, with me, the young woman I had started out with and the other church's leader (another female!) rotating who led. Then she got pregnant and had to step down, so we got a guy in for the third place. Then our church decided we could afford to actually pay a part-time worship minister, so the guy and I both put our resumes in, as did someone from outside the church. They hired the guy from outside (even though the pastor claimed I was really the first choice) because he had some other skills ("Emerging Church" stuff) that our church was interested in. By this time I was exhausted, wounded and bleeding from all the horrific controversy I had lived through in bringing our church from 99% hymns and 1% praise songs to a more even mix. We had older people leave (partly from the merger, partly from the music, because the other church's worship team was more "contemporary" -- gasp!), we had criticism from one quarter in particular that STUNG. I mean, it was a battlefield for three years solid. So at first I was hurt about the new guy. He was a little hard to get used to for our formerly-Baptist church -- he had a shaved head, his eyebrow was pierced (and he said he had many other piercings "we knew not of" -- in fact, he had been in a band that had won a Dove award for "Industrial Metal" Christian music) and he hadn't grown up in the church so he didn't know many hymns. He also didn't know many of the praise songs we did. But as I got to know him, I just thought he was the neatest guy! His heart for the Lord was bigger than Texas, and he was so right-on in his theology. Well, I got very used to him, and was finally beginning to relax and just WORSHIP the Lord, really praise Him instead of worrying about who was gonna rip into me after church. Mr. Piercings brought an amazing energy to the worship, too, that the majority of our church members loved.
AND THEN one day in October last year, right after we'd just had a meeting about the future of our worship team and what the future held for us, he announced that he and his wife were leaving, that God had called them to go plant a church in Tennessee. I was devastated. I could just see us descending again into the maelstrom of Lead-by-Committee that we had only been out of for a year. So I told the pastor that I was NOT interested in leading again. I meant the interim, Lead-by-Committee thing, but he thought I meant as the Official Worship Leader. So they hired the other guy who had put in his resume.
Since then, things have been very different. Different worship style, not the same energy. He's a great guy -- we definitely do more hymns now. And he plays the guitar beautifully (I don't play anything except the piano, and that badly). But it's SO different.
So, for me this whole past five years -- well, minus the one when Mr. Piercings was the worship leader -- has been super difficult. I've almost quite several times, but God won't let me. He keeps reminding me He gave me my voice for a reason.
Sorry this was so long! To really tell it would've taken several pages, so I DID spare you! lol Guess I just needed to let that out! Thanks for "listening".