- Jun 13, 2012
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I recently lost both my parents, within a few years of each other. We have had these past couple months of coping and getting the kids through the reality of not having grandparents any more. But I still have the challenges of the estate. Neither of my siblings live nearby, so I have the sole task of sorting out 30 years of possessions.
They were truly hoarders, and I knew that, but what complicates things is this. When my dad died, my mom abandoned their fixer upper home (and everything in it) and used his life insurance money to build a new home in the middle of nowhere. And even though the common areas of the home were always presentable, it seems she went into overdrive hoarding, filling up every corner of this new home with things. The sheer volume of stuff is so overwhelming to me. And it isn't just a Walmart shopping spree: she was burning rapidly through her retirement, buying luxury items that make absolutely no sense for a middle class person to ever own. She bought heavy machinery that she never used, clothes she would never fit, furniture that far exceeds the capacity of her space. Things that just make no sense at all. I know I will have to clear this out to ever sell the home, but I don't want to dedicate the next year of my life to this! And the re-sale value isn't going to be what she paid... such waste. Furthermore, I can't imagine who would buy this home in the middle of nowhere. I worry that it won't even sell after I get it emptied. (Not to mention trying to sell the fixer upper.) It seems a waste to just scrap it all and let it go into foreclosure... but I just don't know if I want to invest all this time into a hopeless cause. Not to mention I can hardly go through their things without crying.
Has any one else faced this?
They were truly hoarders, and I knew that, but what complicates things is this. When my dad died, my mom abandoned their fixer upper home (and everything in it) and used his life insurance money to build a new home in the middle of nowhere. And even though the common areas of the home were always presentable, it seems she went into overdrive hoarding, filling up every corner of this new home with things. The sheer volume of stuff is so overwhelming to me. And it isn't just a Walmart shopping spree: she was burning rapidly through her retirement, buying luxury items that make absolutely no sense for a middle class person to ever own. She bought heavy machinery that she never used, clothes she would never fit, furniture that far exceeds the capacity of her space. Things that just make no sense at all. I know I will have to clear this out to ever sell the home, but I don't want to dedicate the next year of my life to this! And the re-sale value isn't going to be what she paid... such waste. Furthermore, I can't imagine who would buy this home in the middle of nowhere. I worry that it won't even sell after I get it emptied. (Not to mention trying to sell the fixer upper.) It seems a waste to just scrap it all and let it go into foreclosure... but I just don't know if I want to invest all this time into a hopeless cause. Not to mention I can hardly go through their things without crying.
Has any one else faced this?