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What to do???

Romans5

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Ok...so my husband wants a divorce one day...then doesn't know what he wants the next...then wants to stay together the next day...but the next day realizes he has to work at fixing and maintaining the marriage in order to make it work...so once again, back to the D-word again! ...and so on and so forth...

He doesn't want counseling.
He doesn't talk much so I don't know what he's thinking.
He is a mama's boy...well...that's a major understatement, but if you read my previous thread, you understand.
He has no goals in life, no job, no money, no faith in God.
He acts more like a babysitter than a father.
He acts more like a son than a husband.
He acts like he has everything all figured-out...but complains because his life is so depressing.

...and so on and so forth...

WHAT DO I DO???

~lei
 

heartnsoul

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Southern Cross said:
Love Must Be Tough by James Dobson sound like it was written just for you. Love him, but don't put up with all the B/S.
Hey Southern Cross, what does B/S stand for?? ;) :D I don't know if my virgin ears can take that kind of language! :p ...just kidding!
 
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heartnsoul

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Romans5 said:
...ummmmm...how bout Bad Stress??? :thumbsup: sounds good to me:holy: ! lol
~lei
Sounds good to me too...I like your Christian-like answer! LOL!! Although I don't know if that's going to excuse Southern Cross' original intent from God's disapproval?! ;) :D
 
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heartnsoul

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Romans5 said:
Ok...so my husband wants a divorce one day...then doesn't know what he wants the next...then wants to stay together the next day...but the next day realizes he has to work at fixing and maintaining the marriage in order to make it work...so once again, back to the D-word again! ...and so on and so forth...

He doesn't want counseling.
He doesn't talk much so I don't know what he's thinking.
He is a mama's boy...well...that's a major understatement, but if you read my previous thread, you understand.
He has no goals in life, no job, no money, no faith in God.
He acts more like a babysitter than a father.
He acts more like a son than a husband.
He acts like he has everything all figured-out...but complains because his life is so depressing.

...and so on and so forth...

WHAT DO I DO???

~lei
Because your husband is an adult (even though he may act like a child), you still need to treat him as an adult. So, that "Tough Love" book will help you constructively deal with your situation and hopefully give you encouragement and strength to set healthy boundaries. After that, it will be up to your husband whether he wants to interact with you on a mature, adult level or not. This crossroad you're both at will help your husband get one step closer to maturity because he will need to decide whether to finally grow up or remain a child with his mommy. You sound like a strong and loving wife. Your strength and perseverance will help you through this crossroad. Good luck and keep us posted. :angel:
 
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Have you had an open discussion with him on what you are feeling? I would continue to pray that he may seek wisdom, that you may know what to do in such a predicament. Satan is having a ball and he shouldn't have a place. Satan is at work here. He needs to lose. Ask the Lord for strength to fight off him.
 
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