I feel like the general direction, is to pray on this to forgive in order to let myself go from the situations..and not go back into it.
if they repent and can meet me where i am in the boundaries i have, then we can move forward in a relationship. however, i cant go back wards with all the drinking smoking / drinking with kids smoking with kids. its 100 percent not me. im not being self righteous im just saying that these are the things i taught my kids were wrong since they were old enough to talk. so it's a contradiction to my house rules.
in fact heres an example of the last time my mom popped up on me in church. the pastor was talking about tithing and offering for the year., as well as the other little projects going on. he suggested that some people can contribute if they want to. so i filled out my check for my tithes. my mom seen that and demanded to know what im writing, how much and commanded me to contribute to all of the events suggested. i said no, and that my tithes are between me and God. she threw a fit that im disrespectful and rude etc..got her things and left the church. it was quite a show.
these people are sick. and make me upset that because im odd man out doing the right things (school, church etc) im kinda made out to be less than everyone else.
we are planning a wedding and im conflicted as to even invite them. It's hurtful that it even comes down to that. I always teach my kids that how YOU treat people is a reflection of your integrity not what the person has or hasnt done. however this is also my wedding day and i dont want these folks ruining it. it's such a conflict
if they repent and can meet me where i am in the boundaries i have, then we can move forward in a relationship. however, i cant go back wards with all the drinking smoking / drinking with kids smoking with kids. its 100 percent not me. im not being self righteous im just saying that these are the things i taught my kids were wrong since they were old enough to talk. so it's a contradiction to my house rules.
in fact heres an example of the last time my mom popped up on me in church. the pastor was talking about tithing and offering for the year., as well as the other little projects going on. he suggested that some people can contribute if they want to. so i filled out my check for my tithes. my mom seen that and demanded to know what im writing, how much and commanded me to contribute to all of the events suggested. i said no, and that my tithes are between me and God. she threw a fit that im disrespectful and rude etc..got her things and left the church. it was quite a show.
these people are sick. and make me upset that because im odd man out doing the right things (school, church etc) im kinda made out to be less than everyone else.
we are planning a wedding and im conflicted as to even invite them. It's hurtful that it even comes down to that. I always teach my kids that how YOU treat people is a reflection of your integrity not what the person has or hasnt done. however this is also my wedding day and i dont want these folks ruining it. it's such a conflict
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