What to do with myself....

psychedelicist · Sep 25, 2004

I'm gonna graduate(or drop out of) high school soon, and I guess I gotta start looking towards my future. It doesn't really look too promising, really. Having to shave and cut my hair, get a 40 hour job doing something I don't really want to do, all to pay off my apartment/car/whatever.

Some may say, "it doesn't have to be like that", but I'm not so sure. I have no hobbies that I can make a career out of, and I can't really convince myself that I'm happy with a job that I really don't like.

College is probably not an option, for financial reasons, as well as the fact that I don't really need a college education to be happy, I know of a couple of my friends who are only HS grads, and they seem fine.

I look at my parents, sister, and the vast majority of my friends who have a full time job(except the ones mentioned above), and quite frankly it scares me. They claim to be so happy with their jobs, but when they come home, they are irritable, and too tired to do anything but veg out in front of the TV. Nothing scares me more than ending up like that. I'd like to think that I won't end up like that, but I have seen very little to convince me otherwise.

I think I will be taking a trip soon. Don't really know where, but me and my girlfriend think we just need to get away for a while. Probably we will be hiking around, seeing stuff, living out of our backpacks, doing odd jobs for money, for a little while until we decide to come back and do the whole college/job thing.

Anyone have any suggestions or questions for me, the would be appreciated.

LegomasterJC · Sep 25, 2004

heh. at least graduate HS.
and Pray about your trip with your GF.

Rafael · Sep 25, 2004

Sonce this is a Christian forum, the Bible says to seek first the kingdom of God and then all the other parts of life and blessings will be added to you life. The first commandment of the Bible is to love God with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength, yet how many of us a wise enough to do that? I know I wasn't when I first started off in life, but now I know better and see how thing manage to get us older and standing in the gardens we plant for ourselves with the short life we are given. Whatever we have planted is what we will have when we are finished.
Much depends upon you background and upbringing, but my advice is to read the Bible and seek God at an early age so that the rest of your life will be blessed by the Creator and giver of life. There are promises and covenant made by God to those that seek Him. I've found them to be the most truthful things I have ever found in fifty three years of life.

Picture.Of.Obedience · Sep 25, 2004

i too suggest at least graduate first before you do anything, pray for God to reveal what He wants you to do with your life. Ask someone else to pray for you too...its nice knowing someone is praying for you.......
Life is wonderful.....with or without college it can be great....

Archangel590 · Sep 25, 2004

Well dont drop out of HS,but I do believe that God has you on the earth for a reason

Riddick · Sep 25, 2004

You must make high school work, finish it. Things only get worse after high school, responsibility wise.

You could serve in the military for a few years, they will pay for your college education. At least, I think they still have that option available.

TearsOfTheDragon · Sep 25, 2004

My advice: Graduate high school. and either (A) try to find a cheap community college or (B) just get a job. Praying about it won't do much good I'm afraid You can't count on prayer for everything.

Krazeekkc · Sep 25, 2004

TearsOfTheDragon said:
My advice: Graduate high school. and either (A) try to find a cheap community college or (B) just get a job. Praying about it won't do much good I'm afraid You can't count on prayer for everything.

Actually praying can do amazing things for you. And you can always pray and rely on God.

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Caelum · Sep 26, 2004

I dropped out when I was 16, got my GED when I was 17. Went to community college and majored in CIS, decided it wasn't for me and found a field I absolutely love(never even minutely predicted). The key was giving myself a chance, I know it seems like the biggest thing ever, just live your life day to day and something great can always happen.. ..

TheMainException · Sep 26, 2004

TearsOfTheDragon said:
My advice: Graduate high school. and either (A) try to find a cheap community college or (B) just get a job. Praying about it won't do much good I'm afraid You can't count on prayer for everything.

this makes me sad...please do not discourage others from prayer just because things didn't happen the way you wished them to. Prayer works if it is in God's will...that doesn't mean that you should sit by and let it all happen by God's power, but that you should know that God has a hand in it too.

psychedelicist · Sep 26, 2004

LAWise520 said:
this makes me sad...please do not discourage others from prayer just because things didn't happen the way you wished them to. Prayer works if it is in God's will...that doesn't mean that you should sit by and let it all happen by God's power, but that you should know that God has a hand in it too.

She's not the only one prayer doesn't seem to work for... I was a christian most of my life... if it has taught me anything, it's that I need to get by on my own merits, not by gaining the favor of some invisible deity which may not exist...

Sorry if I seem irritable, its been a long week, that really hasn't been too great. In fact it has sucked tremendously.

All4THALORD · Sep 26, 2004

LAWise520 said:
this makes me sad...please do not discourage others from prayer just because things didn't happen the way you wished them to. Prayer works if it is in God's will...that doesn't mean that you should sit by and let it all happen by God's power, but that you should know that God has a hand in it too.

I totally agree with you LAWise. Just b/c you pray and God doesn't answer like you expected doesn't mean prayer doesn't work. Prayer always works. You just have to be in His will for it to happen.
All4THALORD

Caelum · Sep 27, 2004

psychedelicist said:
She's not the only one prayer doesn't seem to work for... I was a christian most of my life... if it has taught me anything, it's that I need to get by on my own merits, not by gaining the favor of some invisible deity which may not exist...

Sorry if I seem irritable, its been a long week, that really hasn't been too great. In fact it has sucked tremendously.

Prayer doesn't grant you wishes, it makes you stronger. If that were the case, all Christians would be driving lamborghinis and flying to remote islands every other weekend. Christianity has nothing to do with fortune, and everything to do with endurance.

TearsOfTheDragon · Sep 27, 2004

It didn't make my daughter stronger....now she wants to kill herself because "god" doesn't seem to want to listen to her prayers. AND they aren't for something stupid like a new car...all she wants is for the pain she feels after losing her child to be become bearable. Has God listened? No. So sorry prayer doesn't work and you can't count on it for everything.

Monica02 · Sep 27, 2004

psychedelicist said:
I'm gonna graduate(or drop out of) high school soon, and I guess I gotta start looking towards my future. It doesn't really look too promising, really. Having to shave and cut my hair, get a 40 hour job doing something I don't really want to do, all to pay off my apartment/car/whatever.

Some may say, "it doesn't have to be like that", but I'm not so sure. I have no hobbies that I can make a career out of, and I can't really convince myself that I'm happy with a job that I really don't like.

College is probably not an option, for financial reasons, as well as the fact that I don't really need a college education to be happy, I know of a couple of my friends who are only HS grads, and they seem fine.

I look at my parents, sister, and the vast majority of my friends who have a full time job(except the ones mentioned above), and quite frankly it scares me. They claim to be so happy with their jobs, but when they come home, they are irritable, and too tired to do anything but veg out in front of the TV. Nothing scares me more than ending up like that. I'd like to think that I won't end up like that, but I have seen very little to convince me otherwise.

I think I will be taking a trip soon. Don't really know where, but me and my girlfriend think we just need to get away for a while. Probably we will be hiking around, seeing stuff, living out of our backpacks, doing odd jobs for money, for a little while until we decide to come back and do the whole college/job thing.

Anyone have any suggestions or questions for me, the would be appreciated.

There is no gaurantee that you will like your job. It would be nice, for sure. You should get your HS diploma as most jobs require that much. Life is not necessarily easy, you might have to work and go to college at night. You might have long hours and very little time for fun. This is just how life is. If you want to go hiking for awhile--okay, but at some point you must just accept the fact that life is not always easy or fun. I hope you do find a job you like.

Monica02 · Sep 27, 2004

TearsOfTheDragon said:
It didn't make my daughter stronger....now she wants to kill herself because "god" doesn't seem to want to listen to her prayers. AND they aren't for something stupid like a new car...all she wants is for the pain she feels after losing her child to be become bearable. Has God listened? No. So sorry prayer doesn't work and you can't count on it for everything.

God has listened. I will pray for your daughter and departed grandchild. I will ask Mary, who also lost a child to pray for them.

TearsOfTheDragon · Sep 27, 2004

Oh really he listend when? When my grandchild was on life support? When he was being lowered into the ground in his casket? When my daughter slashed her wrists??

I don't think so.

psychedelicist · Sep 27, 2004

Wasting away 1/3 of my life doing mediocre jobs all my life does not give me much reason to want to keep living. I understand that there are things I will have to do that I do not like in my life, but to live half of my waking life for someone else? No thanks, not for me.

But thats not a problem anymore. I found a job that I can support myself on, I would enjoy doing, and can help people all at once. Plus, I only need 1 year of community college. It probably sounds like something a little kid would say, but I'd like to be a firefighter. I wanted to be one as a kid, but unlike most people, it never really left me. True, it is a 56 hour work week instead of a 40 hour workweek, and its not a whole lot of money, but if I enjoy it, that makes it all worth it.

BornAgainChristian · Sep 27, 2004

I would say graduate first. Life won't go to well if you don't have a HS diploma. Jobs won't accept you, and neither will you get some money for your basic needs.

Also, try looking for colleges after you graduate that mainly foucused on careers. Gibbs, for example. Just check through yourself deeply and look for something that sparks even the tiniest fuse. Then, foucus on a career for that.

Graduate from HS, that's a basic. Praying may also help. Pray to God that he'll let everything go well. And also believe that He can, and He will.

BornAgainChristian · Sep 27, 2004

TearsOfTheDragon said:
Oh really he listend when? When my grandchild was on life support? When he was being lowered into the ground in his casket? When my daughter slashed her wrists??

I don't think so.

That's not God's doing. Don't blame him. He can't control other's free-will. He gave us free-will. Therefore, unfortunatly, those things weren't God's doing, it was their own doing.

If you have any questions or need some comfort, PM me. I know that it's hard to loose a loved one. I've lost a lot of beloved family members myself.

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