hi all. im new to this board. i just recommitted my life to jesus a few weeks ago. im currently seperated and believe that god has plans for me in ministry, i know divorce and seperation does not quite go with all this, therefore ive given all my probs to him and laid them at his feet, my wife believes in god but does not go to church, i was needing someone to talk to tonight is all.
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I understand the position you are in. I am recently divorced myself. My marriage really fell apart and after years of trying I didn't want to try anymore. I met someone on-line who gave me strength that go me to finally say I'd had enough. I know the bible says marriage is forever yet I do believe we are forgiven when we can't always carry the load. My X was a person who read the bible every day and believe is God. Yet like the saying goes he might talk the talk but never walked the walk. I have since fallen in love with someone else. I don't know if anything will become of it. I'm trying to leave that in God's hands although I will say it is not always easy. This 2nd time around it was this person on-line who this happened with but I can honestly say that I fell in love with the person before ever knowing what they looked like. Oh well, enough about that. Just know that you are forgiven for any mistakes and trust in him for things to work out the way they should. Maybe a ministry with marriage counceling or pre-marital counceling after what you are going through.
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I'm just recently divorced myself. Turns out I was never in love with her to begin with. We married as non-Christian drug addicts. I asked her to marry me because I had been rejected all of my life and then I finally (age 21) found some one to sleep with me. After 16 years of marriage I called it quits. In the past 2 years I've been in love twice.
Actual love not lust. The first one flat out rejected me says that I was to young 22 years. The next one was a friend of my wife (call her Trish) and I. I thought that we would actually become a couple. I still am hoping. She has distanced herself from me lately. We are both Christians but we didnt act like it. We're both trying to get our lives right with God now.
Any way I'm sure that God will Forgive me, but meanwhile I'm going through major depression. I miss Trish not only as the object of my affection but she is my only Christian friend. My other friends are not close friends so basically I feel totally alone in the world.
I hope that things get better for you soon. I know how it feels.
Actual love not lust. The first one flat out rejected me says that I was to young 22 years. The next one was a friend of my wife (call her Trish) and I. I thought that we would actually become a couple. I still am hoping. She has distanced herself from me lately. We are both Christians but we didnt act like it. We're both trying to get our lives right with God now.
Any way I'm sure that God will Forgive me, but meanwhile I'm going through major depression. I miss Trish not only as the object of my affection but she is my only Christian friend. My other friends are not close friends so basically I feel totally alone in the world.
I hope that things get better for you soon. I know how it feels.
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Don't settle for less than God's best!
I am sorry to hear you are currently separated with your wife. I think the first priority in your life should be to do everything you can to save the marriage. You can always work on getting more involved in the ministry after you fix your marriage problem. So if your wife doesn't go to church right now, maybe you can find a marriage counselor for both of you to go to. If she won't go, then you go by yourself and learn more about yourself, about her, and how to constructively deal with the marriage problem so that you can help improve/strengthen it.
Also, take this separation time to draw closer to God and be the best husband you can be for her. Start over anew again with your wife. Treat her like you did when you were dating. Learn how to love her again and focus on restoring the marriage. Through your commitment and love for God, I believe someday she will believe in God too. Be patient and trust in Him. Do those things that draw her CLOSER to you, not farther away. Good luck and I will keep you in my prayers.
Also, take this separation time to draw closer to God and be the best husband you can be for her. Start over anew again with your wife. Treat her like you did when you were dating. Learn how to love her again and focus on restoring the marriage. Through your commitment and love for God, I believe someday she will believe in God too. Be patient and trust in Him. Do those things that draw her CLOSER to you, not farther away. Good luck and I will keep you in my prayers.
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