What to do? Is it signs from God?

[jcc42]

I started dating this guy a little over a year ago. He had been in the process of getting a divorce, which was expected to be over just a couple of months after we met. However, it is still dragging on. I have asked him if he wants to get married and have more children, but he doesn’t seem to want to that any time soon. I have never been married and I am hoping to have a marriage and children soon if it is Gods will. However, my boyfriend said he’s not even ready to get married 6 months from now either... I had been struggling with all of this. I keep praying for God to let me know whether this is the one I am meant to be with it not. Then, this other man appeared out of nowhere and is trying his best to talk to me even though I don’t message him back. It is someone that I have always been curious about. Even before I met my current boyfriend. Is this a sign from God?

 

[eleos1954]

I started dating this guy a little over a year ago. He had been in the process of getting a divorce, which was expected to be over just a couple of months after we met. However, it is still dragging on. I have asked him if he wants to get married and have more children, but he doesn’t seem to want to that any time soon. I have never been married and I am hoping to have a marriage and children soon if it is Gods will. However, my boyfriend said he’s not even ready to get married 6 months from now either... I had been struggling with all of this. I keep praying for God to let me know whether this is the one I am meant to be with it not. Then, this other man appeared out of nowhere and is trying his best to talk to me even though I don’t message him back. It is someone that I have always been curious about. Even before I met my current boyfriend. Is this a sign from God?

well, the only way you will know is to get to know the 2nd one. No offense, but you really shouldn't be dating a married man at all.

God Bless.

 

[jcc42]

well, the only way you will know is to get to know the 2nd one. No offense, but you really shouldn't be dating a married man at all.

God Bless.

How do I get to know the second one without it being considered cheating?

I completely understand that I shouldn’t be until his divorce is final, but would it still be a sin after his divorce is complete?

 

[eleos1954]

How do I get to know the second one without it being considered cheating?

I completely understand that I shouldn’t be until his divorce is final, but would it still be a sin after his divorce is complete?

Reason for divorce biblically is only in the case of infidelity in the marriage. If for any other reason(s) ... then it's not acceptable.

Cheating? Is there a commitment? And .... ummmm .... isn't he and yourself already cheating ... and now think about that .... if he is cheating now (on his wife) ... you think it will be different with you? Maybe .... maybe not. Does a leopard chance it's spots?

 

[jcc42]

Reason for divorce biblically is only in the case of infidelity in the marriage. If for any other reason(s) ... then it's not acceptable.

Cheating? Is there a commitment? And .... ummmm .... isn't he and yourself already cheating ... and now think about that .... if he is cheating now (on his wife) ... you think it will be different with you? Maybe .... maybe not. Does a leopard chance it's spots?

I’m almost certain that was he reason for his divorce due to his wife’s issues. They’ve been in the process of getting divorced for quite a while. I would assume there is a commitment in every relationship?

 

[Tolworth John]

Then, this other man appeared out of nowhere and is trying his best to talk to me even though I don’t message him back.

Talk to him.

You are dating a guy who has said he doesn't want children. You want children.
If guy no 2 is a Christian and unattached drop guy 1 and start dating guy 2.

Simple reason if you want what he doesn't want, you have to part.

Basic fact. To keep guys interested there is no sex untill you are married.

 

[Andrew77]

I started dating this guy a little over a year ago. He had been in the process of getting a divorce, which was expected to be over just a couple of months after we met. However, it is still dragging on. I have asked him if he wants to get married and have more children, but he doesn’t seem to want to that any time soon. I have never been married and I am hoping to have a marriage and children soon if it is Gods will. However, my boyfriend said he’s not even ready to get married 6 months from now either... I had been struggling with all of this. I keep praying for God to let me know whether this is the one I am meant to be with it not. Then, this other man appeared out of nowhere and is trying his best to talk to me even though I don’t message him back. It is someone that I have always been curious about. Even before I met my current boyfriend. Is this a sign from God?

So I'm going to be blunt with you darling, but I'm not mad. I am just telling you like it is.

Let us pretend for the moment that Guy #2 does not exist.

You are doing something evil, and sinful, and G-d will not bless your life while you are doing this. There is no 'sign from G-d' for people who are committing evil acts.

You are messing around with a married man. It does not matter that he is getting divorced, sooner or later. He is married NOW. And you should have nothing to do with him NOW.

Is that clear enough? You have no business being a home wrecker. Don't be "that woman", that the ex-wife cites in the divorce.

You dump this guy, and you do it today. That is my advice.

Also, right now he is cheating on his wife, with you. If he can cheat on his current wife with you, he can cheat on you with someone else. You dump this guy.... TODAY.

Lastly, this guy is a divorcee with kids. You do not want a guy like this. You are begging to have your entire life ruined. Get away from him, and any guy like him.

Now about this guy #2.... who knows. Maybe you see what he wants. Maybe you date. Maybe you don't. I don't know.

What I do know, is you need to stop what your doing with guy #1. You get away from him, and never talk to him again for any reason. You ghost. Disappear. Have nothing to do with this unfaithful man, that doesn't keep his promise to his wife. And don't give me excuses. He has no business screwing around with other women, until the divorce is final, finished and done. You can not trust this man.

Sorry if that sounded harsh. It was not meant to be. But it was the honest truth.