hi , me and my girlfriend that i am engaged to lived together and we loved each other so much and told each other that everyday ,did everything together when we weren't together we would be on the phone talking ,we fit like a puzzle ,god brought us together as we both would say ,then one day she went to church with her sister that is a christian and was saved ,now she is staying at her moms house and won't come back home to me because she says we are unequaly yoked and she can't even though she loves me so much and wants to badly , what i don't understand is i never got a chance ,she hasn't asked me to be saved or anything ,i love and miss this girl so much and it hurts so bad ,can someone please tell me what i can do ? and pray for us that she will see we do belong together she just has to give me a chance with this ,thank you .
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what to do ?can someone help me please
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Is she also saved?
Whatever the case maybe, Christians are not supposed to be yoked with unelievers. You can probably figure out why: light and darkness don't mix. Even when you aren't trying, you will be tugging at her faith and relationship with God.
What to do: Love God, pray that He will save you. He is far more important than anything else, and He should be your priority. But don't follow God for the wrong reasons, for example just to get your girlfriend back. When you give your life to God, you will see more clearly. Maybe she isn't the girl for you, only God knows, and so put your trust in Him. If you have any more concerns post again to send a PM! I will pray for God to work in your life!
Whatever the case maybe, Christians are not supposed to be yoked with unelievers. You can probably figure out why: light and darkness don't mix. Even when you aren't trying, you will be tugging at her faith and relationship with God.
What to do: Love God, pray that He will save you. He is far more important than anything else, and He should be your priority. But don't follow God for the wrong reasons, for example just to get your girlfriend back. When you give your life to God, you will see more clearly. Maybe she isn't the girl for you, only God knows, and so put your trust in Him. If you have any more concerns post again to send a PM! I will pray for God to work in your life!
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You asked what can you do...
Be patient. That's a really hard thing to do but I'm sure that you knew someone would tell you that. I'm not advicing you to be patient just because that's an simplistic piece of advice, I'm telling you that because this is out of your hands (whether you like it or not). You have a non-denominational icon: do you know the Lord? Do you *want* to know Him? The fact that you and your gf were living together makes me think you don't really understand Christian living. So use this time to get to know God and yourself. I bet you anything, that's exactly what your girlfriend is trying to do right now.
From what you told us, it sounds like you two were pretty unseparable. Right? Just a thought: are you sure you two weren't co-dependent? Just think about that for a second. Although your gf still loves you, she needs to know more about God and 'catch up' on things between her and Him. You're going to have to accept that God is now #1 in her life... Please please please don't get defensive or bitter about that. God isn't replacing you. Don't feel like your gf is 'cheating' on you with Him (jealously). What she's feeling right now is most likely confusion and she wants to get to know God like a child who first meets their biological father does after years of seperation. That's what I meant by "she's playing catch-up with God."
One last thing, just something to think about if you want to get to know God now (I put the brackets-- I got this quote from settingcaptivesfree.com)... "Many times for married men with whom I've talked, their motivation (to change) is a desire to keep or regain their wife and family (or girlfriend). While this is a noble sounding motive, it is not a bedrock kind of motive, the kind that will withstand the trials and tribulations that inevitably come our way. Suppose the wife leaves anyway?... If the family's presence in our life is the only thing keeping us on track, where are we if they should suddenly not be there? Friend do you see the importance of having our motive be the unchanging rock of Jesus Christ?"
Simply put, just beware that you need to *personally* want to get to know God-- your girlfriend may very well be afraid that you either wont want to get to know the Lord or that you will only change because of her (a false conversion).
The BEST PIECE OF ADVICE I can give you is pray. Perhaps you don't know how to? Or may be you're still undecided about the whole "God thing" and don't know who to pray to--> that's okay. Take one step at a time. Pray to the unknown then. Pray to the skies and say "who ever is up there, help me. I need to know you. Make yourself known to me". The Bible tells us that who ever has the desire to know God, God will meet us. Jesus is knowcking, you just need to let Him in. You don't need to be "good" or smart in theology to know God or be a Christian--> you just need to have the right heart/motives.
You will be in my prayers. Keep coming back here and post!!!
Be patient. That's a really hard thing to do but I'm sure that you knew someone would tell you that. I'm not advicing you to be patient just because that's an simplistic piece of advice, I'm telling you that because this is out of your hands (whether you like it or not). You have a non-denominational icon: do you know the Lord? Do you *want* to know Him? The fact that you and your gf were living together makes me think you don't really understand Christian living. So use this time to get to know God and yourself. I bet you anything, that's exactly what your girlfriend is trying to do right now.
From what you told us, it sounds like you two were pretty unseparable. Right? Just a thought: are you sure you two weren't co-dependent? Just think about that for a second. Although your gf still loves you, she needs to know more about God and 'catch up' on things between her and Him. You're going to have to accept that God is now #1 in her life... Please please please don't get defensive or bitter about that. God isn't replacing you. Don't feel like your gf is 'cheating' on you with Him (jealously). What she's feeling right now is most likely confusion and she wants to get to know God like a child who first meets their biological father does after years of seperation. That's what I meant by "she's playing catch-up with God."
One last thing, just something to think about if you want to get to know God now (I put the brackets-- I got this quote from settingcaptivesfree.com)... "Many times for married men with whom I've talked, their motivation (to change) is a desire to keep or regain their wife and family (or girlfriend). While this is a noble sounding motive, it is not a bedrock kind of motive, the kind that will withstand the trials and tribulations that inevitably come our way. Suppose the wife leaves anyway?... If the family's presence in our life is the only thing keeping us on track, where are we if they should suddenly not be there? Friend do you see the importance of having our motive be the unchanging rock of Jesus Christ?"
Simply put, just beware that you need to *personally* want to get to know God-- your girlfriend may very well be afraid that you either wont want to get to know the Lord or that you will only change because of her (a false conversion).
The BEST PIECE OF ADVICE I can give you is pray. Perhaps you don't know how to? Or may be you're still undecided about the whole "God thing" and don't know who to pray to--> that's okay. Take one step at a time. Pray to the unknown then. Pray to the skies and say "who ever is up there, help me. I need to know you. Make yourself known to me". The Bible tells us that who ever has the desire to know God, God will meet us. Jesus is knowcking, you just need to let Him in. You don't need to be "good" or smart in theology to know God or be a Christian--> you just need to have the right heart/motives.
You will be in my prayers. Keep coming back here and post!!!
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I forgot to tell you-- feel free to pm me as well! Also, don't be afraid of asking questions! Whether they are about God, Christianity, or simply for more advice: ask away! Why not check out the Testimonies forum? May be you'll see that some of us have been in your shoes?
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