what should I say!

[Dyfed]

I have read such wonderful words from such eloquent people on this forum,I have a favour to ask,
This will be our first christmas without my husband,he died 14th Nov,I hope my son will be able to get a flight from England to be with me,there will also be one step son & daughter ,who are married with children ,we all get along very well ,I would like to say the pray before christmas lunch,but I am not so good with words,does anyone have any suggestions what I should say,thank you to anyone who takes the time to help me ,dyfed.

 

[Scaug]

In my humble opinion, it doesnt matter one bit what you say - prayer is about God, not about saying things that sound nice to other people around you, you should be consistant as to how you normally pray when you are alone with God.

If you differ in how you see things, so be it, but i'll leave it to others to advise as to what you could say.

Again, don't worry that you are not good with words, God did not care that Moses was not good with words, but because Moses was so scared to just obey God and speak, God gave him Aaron to speak on his behalf. Prayer is all about God, and im sure he will give you words to say if you feel you need them, and he alone can give whatever you say power whether the words sound eloquent or not.

Sorry to hear that your husband is no longer with you on this side of eternity, I hope you have a great Christmas and I hope your son can get that flight!

 

[Dyfed]

I agree I should speak from the heart as I normally would do but this christmas is such a sad time for us,are heart is broken,I wanted to reach out to the family with prayer and comfort them.I will pray and ask God to guide me,Thank you for your advise,dyfed.

 

[Scaug]

Ah, I do feel your pain, and with such a sensitive time.. here, have a hug:
I can see how you would definately want to comfort those you love in a really special way - which again, only God can do through your words. Keep praying about it, and im sure he will help you. I'll offer you some tips on what I might say in such a situation if you want to use them(though having never been through something quite so tragic with someone so close to me I might not be of much help), but ultimately make sure that its what God wants you to say.

I love to use scripture in my prayers. It lets me know that what I say is entirely true, and I can then hang onto the promises of God. When someone I know is in need of comfort and peace in their lives, i always reference Philippians 4:7 - And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
(I am not the most elegant with words, and i dont know who your husband was exactly, but I hope I can still be of assistance.)
You could also reference Revelation 14:13 "...Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord...they will rest from their labor, for their deeds will follow them." And mention that you know he's in a better place, safe with our Lord... and despite missing him and all that he meant to you, you have the freedom in Christ to give a sigh of relief knowing your husband is waiting for you in heaven, and you may even rejoice in that his battle is over, Jesus is his victor.. Thank the Lord that you still have other family members with you to enjoy this season, as you commemerate the birth of Christ together, and because of that birth your husband is born into eternal life..

I'll be praying for you