What should I hope for

[Bork]

My sister is pregnant, she is 24 and currently has a 4 year old daughter. She is currently getting a 2nd divorce, and the father is not the man she is divorcing. The father is a tattoo artist with an 8th grade education, who currently hangs out with my biker unlce (not to mince words, my uncle is not a good person) Depsite the fact that she is 2 months along, the baby has tried to abort twice. The doctors say it has a 25% chance of survival- and she does want to keep the child. After coming home from the hospital recently, the baby's father broke up with her.

I love my sister, but she is not a stable girl. I suspect this is why the fetus is having problems- she tried to kill herself 2 months ago- which would be near the time of conception.

Here is my dilema- I don't want the fetus to die, but at the same time I suspect my sister cannot take care of another child, let alone one that may come out with a disability. So, to be blunt: What do I hope for?

I think either way, if the child is born I would help take care of it- my family is closely knit and we help each other alot. My mom says God knows best, and what happens happens. I am not quite a theist, so I don't know about her optimism/realism look.

This is blunt, and maybe a tad personal, but I think it'll be okay here. So, to reiterate: What do I hope for?

 

[dvd_holc]

Hope for the best and work for it. The best is not the death of the child but that child will live in a full life. Everyday children are born into very tough places and to horrible people...however, hope shines through to them in people who remain in hope and teach them what to put their hope in. Hope in love, respect, and mercy...every good things to begin with...

 

[rocklife]

I think either way, if the child is born I would help take care of it- my family is closely knit and we help each other alot. My mom says God knows best, and what happens happens. I am not quite a theist, so I don't know about her optimism/realism look.

This is blunt, and maybe a tad personal, but I think it'll be okay here. So, to reiterate: What do I hope for?

that's very loving for you to offer to help your sister and her children. I'm sure they appreciate it very much too. I don't know if your mom is a christian, that's kind of personal and you don't say, remember not all who believe in God are Christian, christians follow Jesus Christ's teachings (muslims believe in God but don't follow Jesus, etc). I like dvd holc's reply. and you aren't sure yet if the baby has a disability, it is best not to ponder what if's so much. My fears have been taken away about such things after I started reading the Bible, New Testament first and stories like Joseph who suffered a lot but God helped. The Bible does have many encouragements about life, and God teaches us we can have hope and not fear if we follow God. that is what gets me through these hard times, Jesus' ways, God's words, prayers. I'll pray for you and your family. I hope things work out.

 

[Godslilgurlalways]

Hope for the very best and know that God will work it all out.Hope for the best for the child,your sister along with your nice. Hope that God will protect the baby and at the same time hope that your sister will become stable and all

 

[littleredkiss484]

I think the important thing is to make sure the child will be loved and well-cared for. Sounds to me like you would be a great person to help your sister out like this. You seem to be very kind and compassionate.

I will keep you and your family in my prayers, Bork!

 

[Sketcher]

Hope for the best. Hope that the child will be healthy. If the child is not healthy, that life is still valuable - would you go to someone born with cerebral palsy or some other such serious disease or defect and tell them they should not have been born?

As far as your sister's relationships are concerned, I don't know what the best would be. But God has an idea of what it would be, and if I were you, I would pray for that. That's something my family has had to do with my cousin - she had a baby out of wedlock with an abusive boyfriend who already had two kids, but not by her. And they're getting back together. I still don't know what the best would be, but God knows, and I have to trust Him with that.

 

[salida]

Bork -

Pray and give this to God. This does work.

 

[ShyMuslim]

You stated your family is close knit so ideally they could all help raise this child. If there is no one willing to care and raise this child within the family then she could place the child for adoption.

I hope that everything works out for you and your family, you sound like a good brother and she is blessed to have you in her corner.

~Sarah

 

[BeautifullyImperfect]

Put your hope in God. He knows what's best for your family and the baby, and He'll do only what's best for you.

I suggest that you pray for your neice and sister. I often feel much better about a situation after I talk to God about it. You don't even have to pray formally, just tell God how you're feeling about the situation and just 'let it all out'.

I will be praying for strength for your family.

 

[HolyGuardianAngels]

'I" have got a good friend
who is a Skin Head and we were discussing the BLESSING of sister . . .

Haven achieved HER divorce; me myself I'll never
never get a divorce from "hubby" butt you know them Ls
they are a real joker card . . .

 

[porterross]

Absolutely, put all hope and trust in God. Pray for mercy, whatever His will may be.

 

[heron]

What do I hope for?

That the child was not injured during the suicide attempt, or from any second-hand toxins that came his/her way during the pregnancy.

That your sister puts her kids as her first priority, not a desire for affirmation by a man or a despair for living. Hope for enough energy and determination to give her kids the most loving childhood she can make for them.

Sometimes people see no way out because they are only looking at their surroundings. Encourage your sister to step out of this circle more, to pursue things she used to be interested in and see herself in a different setting.

Imagine what would happen to the baby if it dies. Do you think it will be offered grace and comfort after death? That is how many of us resolve our torn hearts about miscarriages and early deaths... there is a better place.

I heard someone speak on near-death experiences last week -- they reported the number in the millions, of recently-recorded experiences. They concluded that whether the brain creates a state of paradise or the souls actually relocate, the experience is so universal that we can ("scientifically") count on some form of afterlife.

I appreciate your concern, your worrying over your sister. You are probably a wonderful uncle!