What should I do?

[naitsir]

When I met my boyfriend, we were not seeking the Lord. A couple months into our relationship I decided to give my life back to the Lord. This has been an ongoing process, and I have made big changes to our relationship. We have stopped having sex (recently), and I am doing my best to honor God in my life and get closer to him.
Here is where my insecurity arises. I'm not sure if I should stay with him. On the one hand, where he is at spiritually causes me to object to marrying him. And if I am not willing to marry the man I am dating, should I be dating him at all? He also has a tendency to bring me down. On the other hand, he says he wants and needs God, has made significant changes in his life, and seems to be making progress. I am deeply uncertain where his spiritual life will lead him. I also feel like I am applying this pressure to him to follow God, or that he is trying to please me and that his attempts are not genuine. This all has me very confused. Any advice would be appreciated.

 

[Blessedj01]

"Whoever does not hate her father and her mother and her...boyfriend, cannot be my disciple..." - Jesus (to paraphrase).

It comes down to this. You don't have to literally "hate" your boyfriend, but if he at all stands in the way of a relationship with God then you have to treat him as though you "hate" him to the effect of that you would be willing to give him up if that's what it meant for you to be obedient to God and to have God instead of him.

It's your call as to whether or not your boyfriend represents an obstacle between you and God. Whatever you do, don't compromise your relationship with God just to advance your relationship with your boyfriend.

I suggest if you see something in him that you continue to love him and to date him as long as it is harmless. You absolutely cannot have sex though. You can't try to make him believe in God either, but you can be honest about how God's working with you.

It's up to you girl. I recently had to stop a girl from txting me flirtatiously because I knew she represented a stumbling block between me and God (and her and God, by talking to me about the things she was trying to talk to me about).

I didn't cut her off though and we can still be friends. In your situation, I think you should just continue the relationship on a non-physical level as long as you don't feel that he is somehow disconnecting you from God. If ever you do, then you should perhaps tell him you need to break up until it becomes clearer as to whether he shares your beliefs and can carry that on into the future.

 

[Yonarick]

The best thing you should do is get away for a while. If he really needs God, he goes looking for him, but otherwise he will go. Both must understand that God is first.

2 corintians 6:14-15 14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? 15 And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?

So I recommend you comment this with your church leader too.