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About 4 months ago a girl i liked from youth asked me to remember to call her like 4 times one night when i was at youth she gave me her number and said she wanted to get to know me more, well i kinda blew it and regret just calling her one time for directions to go to a youth event because i was so afraid i would mess up on the phone so i did not call her.

we had like thing going for like 1 month where she she kept saying hi to me all the time like one time 3 times one night when a girl allways sas hi to you does that mean she likes you ?

I realy like her but i just dont know the words to express it to her and not look stupid, i realy want to show her i like her but i dont know what to say i am going away to camp with her and the youth for 10 days so we will have allot of time to talk and get to know each other better because its like a 10 hour drive there and back, when we where all standing together "she said are you going to camp like in a loud and excited voice i said yes and she said cool, I feel this is my last chance to show her i like her plz tell me what to say or how to express it thanks
 

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Hey Raptor,

Expression -- well, I have problems with expressing myself -- but my advise is that, just be yourself and don't be shy -- be more confident (pray and ask for confidence) -- and like Peculiarone said, be honest about yourself.

Look directly into her eyes when you speak -- I know, it may seem too immature to say that to you -- but, some people don't and sometimes, confidence lets that down.
 
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She sounds like she likes you. Well, at least she likes you in a friend way, if not more, right.

Anyway, I am a pretty outgoing person, but if it is a guy I like... different story. I am so shy... saying Hi to a guy I like is a big deal. I used to be really, really outgoing with guys I liked and ended up messing everything up.
 
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Raptor said:
About 4 months ago a girl i liked from youth asked me to remember to call her like 4 times one night when i was at youth she gave me her number and said she wanted to get to know me more, well i kinda blew it and regret just calling her one time for directions to go to a youth event because i was so afraid i would mess up on the phone so i did not call her.

we had like thing going for like 1 month where she she kept saying hi to me all the time like one time 3 times one night when a girl allways sas hi to you does that mean she likes you ?

I realy like her but i just dont know the words to express it to her and not look stupid, i realy want to show her i like her but i dont know what to say i am going away to camp with her and the youth for 10 days so we will have allot of time to talk and get to know each other better because its like a 10 hour drive there and back, when we where all standing together "she said are you going to camp like in a loud and excited voice i said yes and she said cool, I feel this is my last chance to show her i like her plz tell me what to say or how to express it thanks

It sounds like she likes you. You don't have to worry about impressing her, because it sounds as though she's already impressed by you.
 
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It sounds like she likes you. You don't have to worry about impressing her, because it sounds as though she's already impressed by you.

Take it one step at a time. Don't rush into things. Be friends first and foremost. Because that is far more important than rushing into a relationship just to do that.
 
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And she might want to see you more to see who you are -- to identify your personalities and what she likes and dislike about you --

And for you, you're doing the same as well -- you're figuring out the things you like about her and the things you dislike about her.
 
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Sounds o me like she might like you. But then yet, I'm not exactly the most discerning of crushes or things of that nature, except if I am watching someone else, or I am told by one party that they have a thing for the other person. But crushes toward me? Nope. I tend to not pick them up, so if I was in your shoes, I'd be just as confused.

But this much I can say, as a word of advice: Be yourself... which I think was already mentioned. It's okay if you trip over words or mess things up. And you don't have to hand your heart to her on a silver platter at this time necessarily. She may already know of your feelings toward her. Having "the talk" could work, if the timing was right, and if you have an idea of what to say. But if you want the safe and easy route, you could always write down what you feel into a letter or something like that, then slip it into her bag or her Bible at one point or another. It could serve as a bridge for future conversations, and it will also be discrete, which could be a good thing. Main weakness with that approach, though, is that you'd have to wait on her response, and it likely won't be immediate, and you won't get to see her face as she reads it...
 
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winglovesall said:
And she might want to see you more to see who you are -- to identify your personalities and what she likes and dislike about you --

And for you, you're doing the same as well -- you're figuring out the things you like about her and the things you dislike about her.

People know you more for your character and personality rather than your looks because those two things count more!
 
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Yes -- I agree -- I look totally opposite to what I look -- some people comment that I am evil but in actual fact, it is totally opposite -- I mean --

My look certainly doesn't tell me about my personality -- I look very immature (People guess that I'm 14 but I'm actually not) but I am very mature.
 
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