What should I do? (SORRY! Its a long 1!)

[Jun_Canada]

Hi there
I had this great friend but he just lets say changed. Last year was supposed to be our last year of High School but some of us got held back because we didnt have all the requirements to get into University/College. So I have this great "girl" friend....just a friend!!!! not a girl friend!! ....and they're sorta not talking to eachother (along with some others of my friends). He said something to her that I guess really made her sad. We have this great group of friends and he said that "I dont wanna talk to any of them anymore, they are useless to me now.....whats the point, im not gonna see them anyway" and all this stuff that made me and my girl friend think that he didnt take any of his friendships too seriously. I guess what he said really hurt me too because he was a great friend to me. So now he has his own friends at school and he ditched all the friends that he had b4. Refering back to this post .....

http://www.christianforums.com/t74376

I tried to put our friendship back together but now it just feels like he doesnt care about our friendship at all.
I tell him to go apologize to my girl friend but he just says "no, i dont wanna look stupid" cause hes a guy and all....he has his stupid prode to take care of so. I tried everything but I guess after everything I dont wanna do anything because I dont wanna hurt my girl friends feelings anymore...cause when I tell him to apologize to her, I know hes not gonna mean it. I tried every possible way to help him but it just didnt work and I dont wanna bother my girl friend anymore. Anyways , what do I do? It really hurt me when he said all those things and now, im just stuck in the middle btwn him and my other friends. It just feels like now I cant trust him for anything and whatever he says to me, I dont know whether hes lying or telling the truth because he says different stuff every single time.
Im trying to be the best friend to him but I just have this feeling in my heart that I shoudnt be near him anymore because hes really I guess sorta I dunno what the word is...I guess hindering or maybe causing a rift in my walk with Christ cause im really devoted and intimate about getting it right with Him, and this issue is really causing confusion for me.
Sorry bout this, it was LONG!

 

[drdeancrosby]

Hey Jun I'm sure glad you have figured out what to do already so that no one here has to figure out what's going on.("I have just have this feeling in my heart that I shouldn't be near him anymore") What an emotional relief!Let me just comment on three words in your message that really jumped out at me.Your angry semi-friend couldn't be a Christian because he has a huge problem with pride and lying.Here's the straight scoop - God hates pride and deceit in us.They are both extremely severe sins. In fact dishonesty is a deadly sin that condems people to hell.And as far as pride - it's one of the most important reasons that Christians should never enter military service.Military trainers have discovered that they can turn recruits into professional killers more quickly if they fill them with false pride for their country,their military unit and even their flag which they regularly worship in idolterous ceremonies.The third word which struck me was "confusion"This is a symptom of depression which interfears with all relationships,including your relationship with God.So just confine your friendships to Christians and only those Christians who don't depress you.Your relationship with Jesus should never be hindered by a human.If it is,you now know who you need to be set free from.

 

[Jun_Canada]

But how bout where the bible says that we should love every1, and iits not the good that need help but the sinful ppl....something like that...i 4got the exact quote. sorry
95% of my friends are non-christians so
Refer to this thread

http://www.christianforums.com/t71145

so
Thank you

 

[Sharky]

Hey Jun.

I'm not entirely clear on the situation but i do have a relatively good idea. Sorry if it sounds a little harsh but this is based totally on what i'm seeing here so i apologize if i took things out of context.

First and foremost, you watch your walk with God. That is the number 1. prime target, attribute, mother of all things you gotta keep watch for. REMEMBER there is no way you're going to get results if you're spiritual walk is screwed up so keep that in mind.

Next. Your friend (the one who's apparently lying etc) should know alot better. NEVER drag yourself down to his level to get into his head. You cannot afford to be unequally yoked with them ever. You've been open the whole way which is good because you're going to need to stay open in case he comes out of it, that's when you've won him back.

Now chances are that he's got some problems that he refuses to address and seriously, one of the stupidest things to do is to not address a problem. This goes for christians especially even me. This is my suggestion so don't take it as a total rule, be gentle with him when you talk with him. If he insults you and your girlfriend, just treat him like you treated him before all this started.

If all else fails, well, there's not much you can do about it. Sorry to break it to you. If people continue downwards, that's their choice. Seriously, you can talk to them, even tie them up but the ultimate choice is theirs not yours.

For now, it's important you keep your walk with God safe. So protect yourself. And your girlfriend (if she's a christian, i'm not saying don't protect her if she's not!). And don't always expect results soon. I try not to either.

I've been in situations similar to the one you're talking about so i can definetely relate (unless i misunderstood everything you said). Hope that helps. Dude everything there is all MY SUGGESTION (except the part of keeping yourself spiritually fit, that's the Truth ).