what should i do on nov. 10?

[lostndown]

it was supposed to be my due date, but i had a misc., so its tough. i am making my baby who misc. a scrapbook, so i'll have something to hold onto. i never found out if i was having a boy or girl. i had a gut feeling i was having a girl even though it was early on, but no1 ever told me which. i named her Alexis Kayelyn.

i have a july stone (ruby red) heart necklace i am gonna wear all the time, b/c that's when my angel misc. it keeps her close to my heart. it's a pretty stone. i wore it to church today.

do y'all know what i could do to keep myself occupied on november 10 ??? that would've been my due date if the baby hadn't miscarried, so yeah. i was preg. by rape, but that doesnt change how much i loved/love my baby. i know i'll see my angel in heaven when i get there someday.

it's harder some days more than others, but im doing good today. *hugs* how have u ladies dealt with miscariage or losing your child? i know its really hard for me, being young, but i love my angel.

~michelle~ (alicia)

thanks for listening. im praying for you all.

 

[UnitynLove]

I praying for you lost

 

[momgreenlady]

My due date is coming up as well, Oct 28. I'm not sure what to do. I keep trying to not think about it but I think I better have a plan or else it could be a messy day. If there is something that you particularly enjoy doing maybe go and do that. Go to a spa and get a mesage. I'm thinking that we should go camping. That is one of my fave things to do. I'm just worried that it might not be a good idea. I m/c what I thought was everything one weekend only to find out the next weekend when we went camping that it was not near everything. So I spent about an hour in the trees. Not sure that going there would be a good idea or not. Like I said, a spa or something. Maybe go shopping for something to buy your angel. It all depends on how you handle things I guess.

 

[covenantwmn]

This may sound odd, and you would know if it is just too difficult, but truly, there is much healing in helping others. If you could find a place to volunteer for the day in memory of your precious little one, I think it's a beautiful way to honor her and a loving way to bring healing to yourself.

Father God, I pray for these who have lost the little lives that they so loved. I ask that You give them immeasurable comfort during these difficult dates. Let them feel Your presence and peace surround them I pray. Thank You LORD, for we know that You are holding these little ones for eternity, in Jesus' name, amen.

 

[lostndown]

awww honey, thats gotta be so hard. im sorry u went thru all that. our angels are probably playing with each other. yeah i'd go get a massage at a spa if i had some $, but i may just hangout with my best friend. i know i'd get really emotional if i just sat at home thinking bout it.

i m/c in 3 days. it was hard. i spent alot of time in the bathroom and cried the whole time, esp. at the end. im like, "sweetie, i dunno why this is happening. i LOVE YOU so much. you'll always be my angel baby. smile for me honey. I love you!" i was scared. it wasnt easy at all.

yeah i'll go to my friend's house or out somewhere or sleep late on purpose. i dunno yet. i have a necklace to remember her by. i wear it all the time now.

Lord, hold our babies in your everlasting arms of love. help them know how much we as mommies love them. Amen..

im here for u ladies. im praying for u.

 

[rambot]

I am very sorry for your loss and hope that God's and your power will help you through it.

I think that covenantwmn's advice is a really beautiful suggestion.

Might I suggest that you think about how you want the day to pass...do you want to dwell on your loss? Do you want to mourn? Do you want to totally forget about it? Or, as she suggests, do you want to do something FOR her?
I think that, depending on what you want the day to be, your answer will be clearer.

 

[lostndown]

i want to mourn, and do something for her (baby). i miss baby. i don't ever want to forget about her. i wanna finish the scrapbook im making in memory of the baby. it's hard, but im getting thru it.

im here if u all need to talk too, just pm me.

 

[mourningdove~]

i want to mourn, and do something for her (baby). i miss baby. i don't ever want to forget about her. i wanna finish the scrapbook im making in memory of the baby. it's hard, but im getting thru it.

Hi lostndown,
Maybe you could plan to spend the day quietly. Do you have a teddy bear? Maybe you could hold on to it tightly and just allow yourself to cry some. And maybe you could write your daughter a letter. Tell her how much you love her. And then maybe you could talk to God about her, asking Him to take care of her, and asking Him to help you deal with the pain. (You could write Him a letter, too!)

And maybe dear lostndown, you could buy some flowers for yourself for that day - maybe even like the small bouquets they sell at WalMart? (I like those very much!) If you are able, buy some flowers to help comfort your hurting heart. It might make you feel good, just to hold them close to you and smell their beauty.

And ask Jesus to heal your heart, lostndown. He loves you greatly, He knows your pain, He is the Heart Mender. He will heal your heart, dear one. Just ask Him to heal you. He will help you thru this time.

"God bless you"
{{hugs}}

 

[lostndown]

thanks. yes i have a teddy bear and a lil duck i cuddle with at night since the m/c. i hold them tight. i'll just hold them tight and cry and pray. it'll help. *hugs* i love her so much! God's holding her in his loving arms. i talk to her at night when i pray. it helps me some. God is good.

thanx for the ideas. november 10 is coming soon. im not looking fwd to it. *hugs* i can get thru it though. ill let myself grieve.

 

[UnitynLove]

lost. I can't even tell you how I am praying for you comfort your time of difficulty. I'm sorry once again.

 

[llghoney]

I am truly sorry fo your loss & pray that you find comfort & peace!

 

[lostndown]

thanks hon. i am doing ok. but nov. 10 is in 2 weeks so i know ill be emotional that day, i got a job so it keeps me busy. part time. i pray all day/at night. *hugs* im ok just having a rough day

 

[nessa]

i just had a m/c on November 1st. My due date was supposed to be May 22nd. We have a name for it since we weren't sure it was a boy or a girl, we named it Skylar. We have a tattoo planned for us to both get...it is a broken heart with a wing on each with SKY and LAR on each side. I know it sounds corny, but i don't know what else to do. All my fiance does it tell me that we can try again. Why isn't that very comforting?

I don't know what to do anymore though. I am so devestated, but i don't let myself cry during the day, instead i stay up at night and cry myself to sleep. is this normal?

 

[lostndown]

awww hun. im sorry u lost ur baby. *hugs* yeah its hard. i dont cry in day either. i cry in bed more so. and cuddle with my stuffed animal and pray. yes thats normal. i do it too. *hugs* if u need anything, just pm me. im here for u.