Is it strict rules and regulations? I was spoiled growing up. However, I always knew who was running the show. I never rebelled against my parents by staying out late, cussing, and other things. I guess it was the fact they gave me freedom to chose. When I got out of line, I got a strong hand (literally) of discipline. What's your opinion?
-
Starting today August 7th, 2024, in order to post in the Married Couples, Courting Couples, or Singles forums, you will not be allowed to post if you have your Marital status designated as private. Announcements will be made in the respective forums as well but please note that if yours is currently listed as Private, you will need to submit a ticket in the Support Area to have yours changed.
-
CF has always been a site that welcomes people from different backgrounds and beliefs to participate in discussion and even debate. That is the nature of its ministry. In view of recent events emotions are running very high. We need to remind people of some basic principles in debating on this site. We need to be civil when we express differences in opinion. No personal attacks. Avoid you, your statements. Don't characterize an entire political party with comparisons to Fascism or Communism or other extreme movements that committed atrocities. CF is not the place for broad brush or blanket statements about groups and political parties. Put the broad brushes and blankets away when you come to CF, better yet, put them in the incinerator. Debate had no place for them. We need to remember that people that commit acts of violence represent themselves or a small extreme faction.
What makes children rebellious?
- Thread starter super_mog
- Start date
HeatherJay
Kisser of Boo-Boos
- Sep 1, 2003
- 23,050
- 1,949
- 49
- Faith
- Nazarene
- Marital Status
- Married
- Politics
- US-Others
I think that either end of the discipline spectrum can lead to rebellion. If parents are too strict, or if they're way too lenient. I think it' important to find a healthy middle ground. Kids just want to feel safe and loved.
Upvote
0
countrymousenc
Dances With Mop
- Jan 26, 2004
- 1,838
- 19
- 70
- Faith
- Eastern Orthodox
- Marital Status
- Married
Good question. We all come into this world wanting our own way, but past that, the playing field sure isn't even. Some children are just naturally more headstrong than others, and have to learn almost everything the hard way. I have one of those. He's still alive at 19 only by the grace of God. Parenting styles play into it, too, and I'm guessing what makes the biggest impact is whether a child feels loved or not. Every one of them (hey, we did it too!) is going to test the limits, and there are basically two ways to go wrong for parents: Either to not care enough to enforce the rules, or to enforce the rules in such a way that the kids know it's about our convenience rather than their well-being. Kids have a way of knowing that.
Upvote
0
BeanMak
Veteran
- Feb 7, 2002
- 1,715
- 105
- 68
- Faith
- Protestant
- Marital Status
- Married
ummm... the nature that they inherited as part of the human race?
I think it is just part of growing up. If they stayed as sweet natured as they were at 10, you would never want them to move out. But God in his infinite wisdom allows them to turn into snarly 15 year olds so that by the time they are 18 you are glad to have them gone for a while
I am a firm believer that kids grow up because of or in spite of any parental involvement.
I think it is just part of growing up. If they stayed as sweet natured as they were at 10, you would never want them to move out. But God in his infinite wisdom allows them to turn into snarly 15 year olds so that by the time they are 18 you are glad to have them gone for a while
I am a firm believer that kids grow up because of or in spite of any parental involvement.
Upvote
0
It is a natural part of the process of maturing that children will, starting in their teen years, usually, begin to seperate from their parents. With some children, in some families, that process goes somewhat smoothly. Another child in the same family may have a major time of rebellion. All children in the same family are not the same.
Some young people feel (rightly or wrongly) that they have to fight their way to their own lives and have to reject their parent's choices, whatever they were. Others feel they can make their own choices and changes without having to trash their parent's lives. I've seen rebellion from strict families, and from "normal" families (whatever they are) and from families with no rules, and I've seen smooth transitions from all of the above. (Rather than mindless rebellion, I find the biggest problem kids from super-strict families have is not rebellion as much as the fact they they often have very poorly developed decision making skills.)
I think, like countrymousenc said, that kids who feel truly loved and accepted, loved for who they are, for their unique personality and gifts and interests, probably rebel the least. (That's from working professionally with hs and college age folks professionally for the last 30 years and observing my kid's friends.)
Some young people feel (rightly or wrongly) that they have to fight their way to their own lives and have to reject their parent's choices, whatever they were. Others feel they can make their own choices and changes without having to trash their parent's lives. I've seen rebellion from strict families, and from "normal" families (whatever they are) and from families with no rules, and I've seen smooth transitions from all of the above. (Rather than mindless rebellion, I find the biggest problem kids from super-strict families have is not rebellion as much as the fact they they often have very poorly developed decision making skills.)
I think, like countrymousenc said, that kids who feel truly loved and accepted, loved for who they are, for their unique personality and gifts and interests, probably rebel the least. (That's from working professionally with hs and college age folks professionally for the last 30 years and observing my kid's friends.)
Upvote
0
i'm not a parent but i'd like to say that there's a difference between rebellion and dishonouring your parents. rebellion is when you find yourself in a position that's counter-intuitive to where you need to be, and you're rising up against the norm; you can still honour your parents and the fact that they've raised you up this far, figuratively and literally, while still wanting to do things differently.
Upvote
0
Melbelle
Deadheadmakeup
- Mar 22, 2004
- 28,986
- 1,570
- Country
- United States
- Gender
- Female
- Faith
- Baptist
- Marital Status
- Married
- Politics
- US-Republican
Me I was a rebellious teenager, I was this away because my parents told me I can't do this and I wanted to prove to them that I could do it if I wanted to, I have always been hard headed but now I see what I did wrong and I'm trying not to make the same mistakes with my son. I believe telling a kid no you CANNOT do this then there gonna do it just to prove you wrong, I believe you tell them no you cannot do this then explane why they shouldn't do it then maybe it'll be a little different. It also depends on the child. Satan attacks kids just as much as he attacks us.
Upvote
0
no, but the reverse is my point. to grow in depth in a person doesn't mean that you can't respect those who came before and made the way; i see the underlying need to experience the world in a new way, to do things differently, and to have a kind of exhileration to see your horizon open and beckoning you to things anew as completely natural. we're different and we will express that.bliz said:
Upvote
0
Zoomer
Well-Known Member
- Jun 29, 2004
- 3,500
- 229
- Faith
- Lutheran
- Marital Status
- Married
- Politics
- US-Libertarian
I believe we all have a part of us that wants to be rebellious, it's human nature. It is the parents job to teach children how to make good choices, and to show that choices have consquences that must be dealt with.
Upvote
0
It's not only children that are prone to being rebellious. I know a lot more adults who are rebellious than children. The only difference is, adults can articulate or justify or obfuscate our rebelliousness as something else.
Upvote
0
Similar threads
