So the ones who realize that they aren't in control and that the world doesn't revolve around them and that they have to live for others are what, smarter, more holy, less prideful?

Why do they realize it when those who never embrace the Lord don't?
Ummm..with all due respect Telrunya, man's choice to love or deny Him isn't even mentioned in that passage. It says that
GOD is not willing that any should parish. I would say that it is imperative to avoid isolating this passage from context if we wish to have a proper understanding of what Peter is saying. We need to ask ourselves which of the following Peter is proclaiming:
2 Peter 3:9 (universal application)
The Lord is not slack concerning His promise, as some count slackness, but is longsuffering toward us, not willing that any
(person without exception) should perish but that all
(people without exception) should come to repentance.
*bolded additions are mine
Or, in this manner:
2 Peter 3:9 (limited application)
The Lord is not slack concerning His promise, as some count slackness, but is longsuffering toward us, not willing that any
(of us) should perish but that all
(of us) should come to repentance.
*bolded additions are mine
There are some very important issues at the heart of the Gospel here. To whom does the Lord make the promise? Toward whom/to whose benefit is the Lord longsuffering? What does it mean that God is not
willing that any should perish? What does it mean that the Lord
wills that someone should come to repentance?
Care to address any of those?
First, who is purporting that man is a robot or that he doesn't make a choice? Second, what you've said here clearly indicates that the efficacy of the Lord's offer is subjegated to whether the recipient opens the door. That means that God, who sovereignly intends for His "offer" to bring someone to salvation is impotent to do so unless they agree to it. Additionally, the logical end to what you've stated here is that those who are saved are masters of their destiny and their choice is the causal agent in determining their salvation. Not one iota of such a belief is found anywhere in Scripture.
As you didn't answer my question, I'll ask it again, "Is the efficacy of God's knock to cause someone to turn to Him regulated by whether the individual answers the door?"
Doing my best. I look forward to your response.
God bless