I need some guidance from some fellow Christians. I have found myself in a relationship with a Christian guy who I love and has a history with marijuana and hallucinogens. He is still not completely free from smoking marijuana. However, with good reason, I believe he wants to be free from this lifestyle and follow Christ. When I asked for advice from another Christian friend, she told me to run. If I decide to do this, how do I do this in a Christian manner? However, if I decide to stay and support him, is this decision backed up by the Bible?
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My boyfriend is a talented musician. He's on tour with a bunch of guys right now for 4 months. Of course, there's a drug scene with music. It's hard to not get wrapped up in it and also develop close relationships with those around you that decide to use drugs. I highly encourage him to follow his dreams and would never want him to quit playing music. He is a sweetheart, a positive spirit, and also Christian, but I will admit he is easily influenced by those around him. He says he doesn't like to smoke weed because it makes him paranoid and that it's not what God wants. But then he says he likes to smoke lesser amounts. I understand the difference between using and abusing...but I also understand that if you have an addiction, it's probably best that you stop it completely. He told me he would never want to have a girlfriend that would encourage him to do weed or drugs.
And his girlfriend is just that. I don't like that there are bad influences around him and that he's around people who encourage this kind of self-destructive behavior. But I've accepted that this is comes with the music community. My boyfriend has been to rehab for weed and hallucinogens (shrooms, LSD, Ex, etc.). And he's still fighting his addiction...probably always will. When we are together, we absolutely LOVE life and have so much fun (being sober). We read the Bible together, pray together, and learn together about Christ. We're still learning and he's still learning about how Christ will provide strength for him, especially with his drug habit. But now that he is away, it just makes me sick to see that he does this to himself when we are in a long-distance relationship.
I really never thought I'd be dealing with someone who has an issue with drugs. I understand the differences between weed, hallucinogens and crack and harder drugs. I have made the personal choice to never try anything, and am very committed to a sober and healthy life in following Christ. I am a musician myself and my boyfriend and I want to start a music project after he comes back from tour. But I am not sure what I'm really getting myself into. I don't like dealing with the drug issue, but I'm not the kind of person to give an ultimatum. I'm a very compassionate person, so unfortunately I've fallen for this boy and now I have to find a way to be at peace with it. But it stresses me out. I'm just wondering if there is any hope for this or if I am just wasting my time. I want to help, but I'm wondering if I should forget it and find someone who does not have this issue. Then again, I don't want to give up on him! Any thoughts would be much appreciated. Thank you and God bless.
If you want to know more about my story, read below:
My boyfriend is a talented musician. He's on tour with a bunch of guys right now for 4 months. Of course, there's a drug scene with music. It's hard to not get wrapped up in it and also develop close relationships with those around you that decide to use drugs. I highly encourage him to follow his dreams and would never want him to quit playing music. He is a sweetheart, a positive spirit, and also Christian, but I will admit he is easily influenced by those around him. He says he doesn't like to smoke weed because it makes him paranoid and that it's not what God wants. But then he says he likes to smoke lesser amounts. I understand the difference between using and abusing...but I also understand that if you have an addiction, it's probably best that you stop it completely. He told me he would never want to have a girlfriend that would encourage him to do weed or drugs.
And his girlfriend is just that. I don't like that there are bad influences around him and that he's around people who encourage this kind of self-destructive behavior. But I've accepted that this is comes with the music community. My boyfriend has been to rehab for weed and hallucinogens (shrooms, LSD, Ex, etc.). And he's still fighting his addiction...probably always will. When we are together, we absolutely LOVE life and have so much fun (being sober). We read the Bible together, pray together, and learn together about Christ. We're still learning and he's still learning about how Christ will provide strength for him, especially with his drug habit. But now that he is away, it just makes me sick to see that he does this to himself when we are in a long-distance relationship.
I really never thought I'd be dealing with someone who has an issue with drugs. I understand the differences between weed, hallucinogens and crack and harder drugs. I have made the personal choice to never try anything, and am very committed to a sober and healthy life in following Christ. I am a musician myself and my boyfriend and I want to start a music project after he comes back from tour. But I am not sure what I'm really getting myself into. I don't like dealing with the drug issue, but I'm not the kind of person to give an ultimatum. I'm a very compassionate person, so unfortunately I've fallen for this boy and now I have to find a way to be at peace with it. But it stresses me out. I'm just wondering if there is any hope for this or if I am just wasting my time. I want to help, but I'm wondering if I should forget it and find someone who does not have this issue. Then again, I don't want to give up on him! Any thoughts would be much appreciated. Thank you and God bless.
