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What is marriage, and why does it preclude homosexuality? (Moved from C,P&E to DOH)

Does Genesis 1 define marriage, or explain heterosexual marriage?

  • Genesis 1 defines what marriage is and cannot be.

  • Genesis 1 explains why marriage occurs between heterosexuals.

  • I am not sure; I will post my opinion once I decide.


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What you're basically saying is that if someone unintentionally sinned and isn't aware that they've sinned, that God won't forgive them. You are coming very close to condemning others, something Jesus warned against several times.
I'm not 'basically' saying anything. My brother is 43 years old. He 'found out' he was gay at 20. (maybe a little earlier) He has been told for YEARS that what he was doing was wrong. He also grew up in the church. He's not unintentionally sinning. He knows what he is doing is wrong. And another note. Ignorance is no excuse for sinning. God wrote His laws down in His book. But if we never take the time to read it or study it, we can't claim ignorance when we break His commandments. If you refuse to read the Bible, it's YOUR fault if you sin, whether you knew it was a sin or not.
 
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I'm not 'basically' saying anything. My brother is 43 years old. He 'found out' he was gay at 20. (maybe a little earlier) He has been told for YEARS that what he was doing was wrong. He also grew up in the church. He's not unintentionally sinning. He knows what he is doing is wrong. And another note. Ignorance is no excuse for sinning. God wrote His laws down in His book. But if we never take the time to read it or study it, we can't claim ignorance when we break His commandments. If you refuse to read the Bible, it's YOUR fault if you sin, whether you knew it was a sin or not.
He knows what he's doing is wrong? Or he knows that other people keep telling him it's wrong? There's a difference.

I agree with ignorance not being an excuse, especially in today's developed countries. But consider this: are your opinions on the matter from detached, exhaustive, prayerful study of the bible, or from what the Church believes?

What has your brother said to you, when you went to him in private and didn't tell him he was sinning, didn't mention he was wrong and going to hell, but asked him honestly what he felt, why he thought he felt that way, and whether he felt he was being condemned by God for it? When you open-mindedly asked him to help you understand the way he feels and the decision he has made?
 
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Some gay and lesbian firends I know, know that same-sex unions are not marriage and that marriage is between a man and a woman. The Bible makes it clear this is so in God's purpose.
He knows what he's doing is wrong? Or he knows that other people keep telling him it's wrong? There's a difference.
But those who tell him may know and he may be wrong.


I agree with ignorance not being an excuse, especially in today's developed countries. But consider this: are your opinions on the matter from detached, exhaustive, prayerful study of the bible, or from what the Church believes?
The Bible says man woman unions only however much one studies it or prays about it. Opinions are either in line with the Bible or contrary to it.
 
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But those who tell him may know and he may be wrong.

And, just as equally, vice versa.


The Bible says man woman unions only however much one studies it or prays about it.


Beg to differ. It generally mentions man-woman unions only, it doesn't say "man-woman only". My opinion was changed through study and prayer. Can God not do that? Change people and show them they are wrong?

Opinions are either in line with the Bible or contrary to it.


Opinions are either in line with your opinion or contrary to it. The bible is not black and white on this subject (or many, for that matter). It is easy to say "this is what the bible says and those who disagree are just being blind", it's much harder to be convincing enough to show people they are wrong and you are right. People both for and against homosexuality have evidenced that a hundredfold.

And if you look at the bible, one could probably come to the conclusion that you should have Weetabix for breakfast, if you wanted to. It is a book that is open not only to mistranslation, but personal interpretation and misunderstandings. This is intrinsic, the very nature of the thing.
 
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And, just as equally, vice versa.
Yes that’s my point. So surely a reason why one might be right would be better, we can at least subsequently debate it.

Beg to differ. It generally mentions man-woman unions only, it doesn't say "man-woman only". My opinion was changed through study and prayer. Can God not do that? Change people and show them they are wrong?
Yes it does say man woman only as it says God made woman for man. Gen 2 and the reason for man to be united with woman, Gen 2, Matt 19, Mark 10, Eph 5, etc. That’s the whole point. It would be impossible for God to have made man for man or woman for woman when it it says God made woman for man and the reason. And besides whether you beg to differ needs to depend on where the Bible differs not your opinion which I would say is merely disbelief and denial of what the Bible passages cited do say.

Opinions are either in line with your opinion or contrary to it.
No once again I have cited what the Bible actually says, not my opinion of what it says. My opinion happens to be that the Bible means what it says.

The bible is not black and white on this subject (or many, for that matter). It is easy to say "this is what the bible says and those who disagree are just being blind", it's much harder to be convincing enough to show people they are wrong and you are right. People both for and against homosexuality have evidenced that a hundredfold.
That’s still just baseless opinion. Where does the Bible say what you are proposing?


And if you look at the bible, one could probably come to the conclusion that you should have
Absolutely, but I have not only looked at it and what it says I have cited the passages and what they say, all you have done is say you don’t agree with what the Bible says under the guise that ist somehow my opinion.
 
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I never said life was idyllic. Never said there weren't issues. But look at the values of society since the 40's and tell me things have gotten better and not worse. This, in my opinion as well as scores of others (Dr Dobson immediately comes to mind) is a direct result of the breakdown of the family unit.
Every single generation I've heard of believes morals have worsened in the next. Just something to bear in mind when you consider an opinion to be fact. I don't know who "Dr Dobson" is.
http://www.slate.com/id/2097048/#Correct
Ugh. I'm trying to read this article, and I'm about halfway through it, but it's mind-numbing; it's extremely verbose. The author likes to hear herself speak.
 
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http://www.slate.com/id/2097048/#Correct ...

What I am talking about is best outlined here:

[/COLOR]Children raised by homosexual parents are more likely to experience gender and sexual confusion, more likely to become promiscuous and more likely to experiment with homosexual behavior. They are also at greater risk of losing a parent to AIDS, substance abuse or suicide.


Children raised in a stable, married, heterosexual home do better than children raised in any other type of household. They are healthier physically and emotionally, do better academically, experience less poverty and commit fewer crimes.


Children need both a mother and a father. Why? Sociologist David Popenoe of Rutgers University has done extensive research on the different functions that mothers and fathers play in their children's lives. His studies show that while fathers tend to stress competition, challenge, initiative and risk-taking, mothers stress emotional security and personal safety. When disciplining, mothers provide important flexibility and sympathy, while fathers provide predictability and consistency. By nature, same-sex couples are unable to provide one-half of this equation.
I've finished the slate.com article you've provided, and I'm those excerpts are not in it. Great job claiming things with absolutely no authority or evidence. That seems almost as if you're lying, more than being intellectually dishonest.

The article itself does a grand job of introducing the topic while saying almost nothing conclusive about it other than what I already knew: That not enough scientific studies have been done. From that article, "... until gay couples are allowed to marry, there can't possibly be decent studies of whether the honorable estate confers the same benefits on kids whose parents are the same sex as it does on those who have a mom and a dad."

Note: We are not talking about whether the union is sanctioned by God here: we're talking about the socioeconomic legal sanctions that are being denied to homosexuals.

So ... it seems you've just wasted at least five minutes of my time with your post that was almost entirely devoid of content. However, surely you realize the problems with what you've quoted:
Children need both a mother and a father.
Okay. That is the conclusion. Let us examine the logical arguments for making it.
Sociologist David Popenoe of Rutgers University has done extensive research on the different functions that mothers and fathers play in their children's lives. His studies show that while fathers tend to stress competition, challenge, initiative and risk-taking, mothers stress emotional security and personal safety. When disciplining, mothers provide important flexibility and sympathy, while fathers provide predictability and consistency.
We can assume this to be generally true, for the sake of argument.
By nature, same-sex couples are unable to provide one-half of this equation.
Where does this come from?! This is a non sequitur! This statement is an assumption, probably made from the biased belief that women cannot be firm, nor can men be gentle. (Such gender role assumptions are obvious nonsense.)

I think I'm through arguing with you, mattlock, because you are both illogical (as has just been demonstrated) and unreasonable (unwilling to provide sources for claims, and making culturally-biased accusations.) This is, of course, my opinion of you (not necessarily a fact); I'd hate to see this post deleted simply because you found it offensive. So please, understand that I have no less respect for you...
 
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I'm not 'basically' saying anything. My brother is 43 years old. He 'found out' he was gay at 20. (maybe a little earlier) He has been told for YEARS that what he was doing was wrong. He also grew up in the church. He's not unintentionally sinning. He knows what he is doing is wrong.
I wonder if you've thought about this thoroughly from his perspective. You say all of that as if your opinion that homosexuality is a sin is a fact. In his mind, your opinion -- what you consider to be fact -- is only your opinion. He doesn't believe it to be true. Therefore, he cannot "know" that what he's doing is wrong when he honestly doesn't think it's wrong.

And another note. Ignorance is no excuse for sinning. God wrote His laws down in His book. But if we never take the time to read it or study it, we can't claim ignorance when we break His commandments. If you refuse to read the Bible, it's YOUR fault if you sin, whether you knew it was a sin or not.
So ... ignorance is never an excuse? You actually believe that tribes still living in "the wilderness," still untouched by "civilization," God is going to punish eternally for never having heard of Jesus?
 
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Yes that’s my point. So surely a reason why one might be right would be better, we can at least subsequently debate it.


This is the brunt of why I believe I am right in saying homosexuality is not abnormal, not a sin, and homosexuals should be allowed to engage in relationships.

Yes it does say man woman only as it says God made woman for man. Gen 2 and the reason for man to be united with woman, Gen 2, Matt 19, Mark 10, Eph 5, etc. That’s the whole point. It would be impossible for God to have made man for man or woman for woman when it it says God made woman for man and the reason.


God made Eve for Adam. She was specifically tailored to him, to be his partner and helper.

Genesis 2:18 "Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him." (Amplified Version)

It is talking about "the man", ie Adam, not man in general. If it were talking about all men, then there is no excuse for anyone to be single, and there needs to be some serious re-thinking of what Paul says in 1Corinthians7 about not marrying if you can help it.

The reason God made Eve for Adam was, according to this, to complement him and help him, be a companion. Not just reproduce, not just give sexual pleasure, but to be a partner.

And if it is not good to be alone and homosexuality is wrong, why would a woman not be a suitable helper for me?

Mark 10, Matthew 19, Ephesian 5 are all quoting Genesis2:23-24

"Then Adam said, This [creature] is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of a man. 24Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh"


This gives the reason behind the idea of two partners becoming one flesh (ie two partners came from one flesh, and two partners would again become one flesh in marriage, which would also serve as an incentive for the man to leave his parents) not the reason God made the woman for the man. Verse 18 says why God made the woman.

In Mark 10 and Matthew 19 Jesus uses Gen2:23-24 not to say what correct marriage is, but why the Pharisees should not practice divorce in the way they were (ie the two partners had already been made one flesh by God; man should not try to separate that bond).

In Ephesians 5 the verse is quoted to emphasise correct attitude in relationships, not the correct type of relationship. The whole passage is about trying to get the Christians to be holy and stand out from their peers as such, and to treat each other with the honour and respect they deserve.

Incidentally, in the list of "sins" given in the beginning of Ephesians 5, very similar to other places Paul gives such lists, no mention is made of homosexuality (as there is claimed to be in other passages). Did Paul forget to write that one down this time?

That’s [the bible is not black-and-white, but there are grey areas] still just baseless opinion. Where does the Bible say what you are proposing?


1Corinthians10:23-31

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23"Everything is permissible"—but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible"—but not everything is constructive. 24Nobody should seek his own good, but the good of others. 25Eat anything sold in the meat market without raising questions of conscience, 26for, "The earth is the Lord's, and everything in it."[c]
27If some unbeliever invites you to a meal and you want to go, eat whatever is put before you without raising questions of conscience. 28But if anyone says to you, "This has been offered in sacrifice," then do not eat it, both for the sake of the man who told you and for conscience' sake[d]— 29the other man's conscience, I mean, not yours. For why should my freedom be judged by another's conscience? 30If I take part in the meal with thankfulness, why am I denounced because of something I thank God for?
31So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. 32Do not cause anyone to stumble, whether Jews, Greeks or the church of God— 33even as I try to please everybody in every way. For I am not seeking my own good but the good of many, so that they may be saved."

So, there are no hard rules to follow; we have to use our own judgement in matters. If I can partake with thankfulness and joy, bringing glory to God, working for the good of others, I should. I should not press anyone to do something they think is wrong, but neither should I care that they think it is wrong when the question of whether I should do it arises; it is my own conscience, not theirs, that rules what I view as sinful.

Absolutely, but I have not only looked at it and what it says I have cited the passages and what they say, all you have done is say you don’t agree with what the Bible says under the guise that ist somehow my opinion.

But you cite passages based on words of ambiguous original meaning and use them to say they mean what you believe, and ignore when others give other, equally valid, representations of the passages that DON'T support what you believe. Polycarp1 puts it very well.

Therefore what you state is the bible speaking, is actually you speaking through the bible, because you refuse to accept and address issues with translation that would completely refute your views.
 
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I wonder if you've thought about this thoroughly from his perspective. You say all of that as if your opinion that homosexuality is a sin is a fact. In his mind, your opinion -- what you consider to be fact -- is only your opinion. He doesn't believe it to be true. Therefore, he cannot "know" that what he's doing is wrong when he honestly doesn't think it's wrong.

So ... ignorance is never an excuse? You actually believe that tribes still living in "the wilderness," still untouched by "civilization," God is going to punish eternally for never having heard of Jesus?
"For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse", (Romans 1:20)

People are made aware that there is a creator by the things around them. Even the people who are seperated by civility and are living in the wilderness are made aware that there is a Creator. They may not know His name, they may not know what His purpose is for their lives, but they know He is there. So they are without excuse.

And I find it somewhat humorous that you appear to know more about my brother than I do. I think I would know better than you if my brother knew his actions were wrong.

I am amazed that people seem to be able to twist the scriptures so well. People can use a distorted translation of scriptures to justify anything. It has been used to justify slavery, justify genocide. (Hitler's holocaust) And now abominations like homosexuality. I am literally brought to complete confusion when the scriptures can say that homosexuality is an abomination, say homosexuals will not inherit the Kingdom of God, and people like you close your eyes, cover your ears and shout I'M NOT LISTENING. LA LA LA LA LAAAAAAAAAAAA.

At this point, nobody can claim they are genuinly deceived. The facts have been presented. The reason people keep fighting ferociously to explain away simple refutations to their arguments is because they don't want to accept truth. You believe homosexuality is right, not because it is, but because you WANT it to be right. You are choosing to remain in unbelief and disobedience. I beseech you to change that notion, because Revelation 21:8 states that the 'fearful and unbelieving will have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone'. Wishing away the truth won't work. At the end of the day, and at the end of time, God's word will still remain.
 
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I've finished the slate.com article you've provided, and I'm those excerpts are not in it. Great job claiming things with absolutely no authority or evidence. That seems almost as if you're lying, more than being intellectually dishonest.

Those excerpts came from a different article, but I didn't save the link. I will see if I can find it again an post the link as I thought I did the first time around. Sorry for any confusion.

Note: We are not talking about whether the union is sanctioned by God here: we're talking about the socioeconomic legal sanctions that are being denied to homosexuals.

And like I said, I have no issue with legal unions granting the same socioeconomic and legal benefits and punishments to to homosexual couples as to heterosexual married couples. Lets just call it what it is, a legal union not a marriage.

So ... it seems you've just wasted at least five minutes of my time with your post that was almost entirely devoid of content.
That was certainly not my intenet, and there are some facts in that article that you seem to be dismissing out of hand. But that's nothing new.
We can assume this to be generally true, for the sake of argument.
Where does this come from?! This is a non sequitur! This statement is an assumption, probably made from the biased belief that women cannot be firm, nor can men be gentle. (Such gender role assumptions are obvious nonsense.)
It is not a non sequitur. Logically we know that men and women are different, just check your local bookstore in the relationships section and see how many books detail the subject if you doubt me. They bring different aspects to the family, especially in the case of parenting. Obviously I am not making the conclusion that women can't be competitive or men cannot be nurturing, but as a general rule of thumb, these things are more prevelant in one gender or the other.

I think I'm through arguing with you, mattlock, because you are both illogical (as has just been demonstrated) and unreasonable (unwilling to provide sources for claims, and making culturally-biased accusations.) This is, of course, my opinion of you (not necessarily a fact); I'd hate to see this post deleted simply because you found it offensive. So please, understand that I have no less respect for you...

I have a thicker skin than that. I think your analysis is incorrect, I have provided logical arguments and have posted sources, and have backed up my assertions with scripture. If you want to twist the scripture to read the way you want it to read, that's fine with me, no skin off my back, but remember that we will be called to account for our actions one day at the bema seat of Christ.

Peace
 
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Dear AetheriusLamia,

You are certainly advancing a Protestant way of arguing; but only your priest can say whether it is compatible with that which the Catholic Church says on this very important matter.

Certainly within my own Church it would be very simple. I can advance whatever view I care to advance, but cannot claim it is compatible with the teaching of the Church if the Church has pronounced contrary to that; in the final analysis, for us, it is the combination of Scripture and Tradition which offer the only certain guide to orthodox faith.

I don not, as I say, disagree with what you suggest, but would have difficulty with the notion that my own reading of Scripture was so inspired that it could prevail against the Spirit-guided Church.

I'm sure your priest will have something helpful to say.

In peace,

Anglian
I think as Protestants do: They trust that the Holy Spirit lives within them, praying to God and trusting that if they entrust their thoughts and actions to God, doing their best to honor and glorify God, that God will not let them be led astray.

A key ingredient to this is actively thinking. If one does not actively consider everything one does and compare it against the models in the Bible, which one must also actively read with an open mind (one willing to follow the Holy Spirit's guidance), one may become confused.

It's tough, though, to have this sort of faith. It's kind of like jumping from a cliff and praying God will blow you onto a bed of pillows, rather than of nails.

I'm going to schedule an appointment with my priest. You may be correct: I may not be able to continue calling myself a Roman Catholic. If that means accepting every Church teaching ... I must resolve this issue, because I do not wish to profess something false, if I am in fact not Catholic.
 
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Dear Lord-Barthok,

Thank you for what you say here, much of which I would not dissent from; and I do understand that you make a general argument about the way Tradition can be taken; it is indeed sometimes misused the way you describe.

It is interesting that you think Tradition less important now so many are educated; in a sense it that not just why a proper understanding of Tradition is even more important. If we can all read Scripture and pronounce on it, how can we be sure we are not preaching 'another Gospel'?

The whole reason He founded a Church was surely to answer your last question; He left us with Apostles and successors who could, indeed, help interpret aright what the Scriptures are and how we should read them; since they originated within the usage of the Church and were declared canonical within it, it is not unreasonable, is it, to suppose the Church and its Tradition might offer some insight greater than our own unaided efforts?

Doctrines are those things the Church has declared in its creeds, opinions are those opinions which may be held but which do not appertain to salvation.

So, for example, it is doctrine that one believes that Christ is fully human and fully divine and that He is of one substance with the Father and with the Holy Ghost; it was never doctrine that slavery was OK.

Tradition is, after all, a living and developing thing, it need not conflict with thinking for oneself; but in the end if we are asked by what authority we speak, and we say 'by the Spirit within me', we have a terminal problem when someone speaking the opposite says the same; this discussion here is an example of what can happen.

If what we say is with the authority of the Church He founded, then there we have all the sanction anyone can need. But, of course, the understanding of the Church does develop, and it may be necessary for those of us with a different view to wait another generation before we are seen to be onto something; but patience is a virtue, and the world can, perhaps, get along well enough without my opinion, or it having to prevail because I am sure the Spirit is in me. There are many Spirits in this world, and many claim to be of God; not all are.

But I can see how an experience of the way Tradition is read in some parts of Orthodoxy might make one take a very different point of view. I have, perhaps, been fortunate in my experience of it.

In peace,

Anglian

Having been brought up in the Greek Orthodox church, and after spending my teenage years in an officially G.O. country, I have a fair idea of what Tradition means to them. Whilst it can be a very good defence against the faith being wrongly swayed by the fads of passing generations/societies, that was more important a couple of centuries ago when people were uneducated and illiterate. Nowadays I see too many people getting lost in the Tradition and forgetting about a relationship with God, or that thing they have between their ears. (Please don't read any offence in this; I have no one on this forum in mind when I write that)

I am unfamiliar with your particular branch of orthodoxy. But most of the 'opinions' were held by entire denominations, not just individual churches and christians. Nowadays, the majority of denominations have moved on and it's only the individuals that hold onto those beliefs.

How are you differentiating between what you consider "church doctrine" and "church opinions"?



How does one know anything is God's will or God's work? Through it's fruits. God works for the good of His people, mankind generally has a far more selfish agenda.

Is there ever an Ultimate answer to any question? And who can ever prove beyond human doubt that something is God's will, short of Him paying us another visit?
 
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Dear Lord Barthok_Soc,

This is the brunt of why I believe I am right in saying homosexuality is not abnormal, not a sin, and homosexuals should be allowed to engage in relationships
Having read it I can see it is about your feelings, which I cant dispute, and your opinion and disbelief about what the Bible says though your don’t specifically address the passages.


God made Eve for Adam. She was specifically tailored to him, to be his partner and helper.
Genesis
2:18 "Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him." (Amplified Version)
It is talking about "the man", ie Adam, not man in general. If it were talking about all men, then there is no excuse for anyone to be single, and there needs to be some serious re-thinking of what Paul says in 1Corinthians7 about not marrying if you can help it.
Nope that’s simply not correct. It si talking about a man and a woman, you have ignored the bit I posted and the passages that affirm this and looked at something else. The passages I cited tell you that this isn’t just one man.

The reason God made Eve for Adam was, according to this, to complement him and help him, be a companion. Not just reproduce, not just give sexual pleasure, but to be a partner.
That’s incorrect as well see Genesis 1:28 “God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it.”

And if it is not good to be alone and homosexuality is wrong, why would a woman not be a suitable helper for me?
Depends on what you are thinking being alone means. You are thinking of sex, people are not alone when they can friends, this is the heart of Christian fellowship, what this is talking about is man and woman being in union for reproduction and that doesn’t fit same-sex sex desires.

This gives the reason behind the idea of two partners becoming one flesh (ie two partners came from one flesh, and two partners would again become one flesh in marriage, which would also serve as an incentive for the man to leave his parents) not the reason God made the woman for the man. Verse 18 says why God made the woman.
Nope it doesn’t say partners it says man and woman. If you want to say partners know it means man and woman. Your error then leads to further error.

No, the Bible says God’s purpose in creation is man and woman and thus describes man and woman relationships, so in the link you gave your doubts about the passages that condemn same-sex union and their interpretation are based on you don’t addressing what the Bible actually says elsewhere. You argument is based on a false assumption. Not only that , your argument is based on denying all the passages that exclude or condemn same-sex unions, you have provided none that countenance it.
So if we go back to your original statement that you may beg to differ, your reason is begging to differ is without any evidence except denial of what the Bible says.
Now as to 1 Corinthians 10:23-31. Where does this say anything about same sex sex? Read the whole chapter especially verse 8 where it says do not commit sexual immorality. The verse you cite are about eating food with non-believers dedicated to idols. Have you also ignored where Jesus NT teaching says homosexual offenders along with other sexually immoral shall not inherit the Kingdom 1 Cor 6? Or that men with men instead of with women is error Romans 1, that adultery and fornication outside marriage break it.? Matt 19. Or that it doesn’t matter what food we eat Mark 7, Romans 14?
No sorry 1 Corinthians 10:23-31 has nothing to do with it.
So yes one can think one brings glory to God is one lives thinking what they are doing brings glory to God, but if it is offensive to God they are deluded.
But you cite passages based on words of ambiguous original meaning and use them to say they mean what you believe, and ignore when others give other, equally valid, representations of the passages that DON'T support what you believe. Polycarp1 puts it very well.
No I have given what the Bible says, it is you and others who deny what it says, give an opinion of what it says which denies what it says and the accuse others of doing what you have done when they haven’t.

Alas Polycarp1’s post just gives a biased incomplete gay and lesbian view and doesn’t cover very much of the debate at all. Indeed such a one sided view belies an individual motive far removed form seeking God’s revelation. For some of the debates over the words see Gagnon – Fink debates.
Therefore what you state is the bible speaking, is actually you speaking through the bible, because you refuse to accept and address issues with translation that would completely refute your views.
I think I have shown it is you doing that and you who has failed to provide any evidence to countenance same-sex unions whatsoever but you have ignored several Bible passages.
 
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The terms of this discussion, and the citing of texts as proof of one's position, are all familiar. It may be doubted whether anyone is going to change their mind as a result.

As someone from a Church where Tradition and Scripture are held to be divinely inspired and the twin foundation of our reading of His word, and yet who has some sympathy with what I suppose one might call, for the sake of convenience, the liberal position on this, I find myself having to assess how one can go about this sort of discussion.

Of course, reading Lord_Bartok's first post through the link provided above. it is clear that his own position inspires his position; it does in some ways for many of us. I have a friend who, when we were both young, was an ardent Christian. He then met and fell in love with a woman whom he wanted to marry; the problem was she was someone else's wife. He thought it was very unfair of the Church not to let him do what he wanted. He was 'sure' she was 'the one', and she had married when young and was very unhappily married to an unfaithful husband; how, my friend asked, could it be 'wrong' to have a relationship with her and, when she was divorced, marry her? People, he pointed out, did it all the time. Why could the Church not wise up and come to terms with the way this society was.

I don't know if we have all had such feelings as circumstances change in our lives; I certainly have and know others who have.

But what is it we are asking? For the Church, whose witness is to preach repentance and amendment of life to us all as we are all sinners, to change what it has always taught because we are personally made uncomfortable by it; because it causes us sorrow and pain; because we know we are Christians and think the Church should accommodate itself to our frailties. Is that not rather self-centred and arrogant of us?

Is the Faith a form of personal therapy or the revealed Truth of the Risen Lord? He told us we would have to take up our cross and follow Him. He did not tell us it would be pleasant or easy, or that our personal needs would be met.

So on subjects such as this, where I am uneasy with the position the Church has always read from the Bible, what to do? Who am I that my personal position, however well-worked out I may feel it is, and however much in line with what I feel ought to be the Christian position, should prevail against the wisdom of the Church. Might my unease not be a symptom of my own sinfulness? Might my urge to persuade others of how right I am be no more than a manifestation of the sin of pride and contumaciousness?

To expect, nay, to demand, that the Church should alter what it has taught because my own personal position is made sorrowful by it, is not uncharacteristic of modern mankind. Many young people, and older ones, no doubt feel that the Church should alter its stand on fornication and even adultery; it is not just homosexual activity which conflicts with the teaching of the Church.

All such activities are declared to be sinful in the teaching of the Church and its reading of the Scriptures. So is the activity of hating anyone who commits those sins. Those of a homosexual nature within the Church who are obedient to its teachings are called to a lifelong ascetic struggle and to the celibacy the Catholic Church asks of all its priests. This is a heavy cross to bear, and those who carry it deserve our love and respect.

Those who demand that the Church change because they think it should do so say what all we sinners have said down the ages, and show, yet again, that the sin of our first parents was willfulness and disobedience. In the modern west, where we seem to have tendency to elevate our own views to a form of personal infallibility, we have a problem with obedience.

Those who argue this one out through scripture will continue so to do, convincing no one who is not already of their persuasion. Those of us whose personal view on this differs from what our Church teaches have a self-discipline of obedience to which we must attend.

All of us who call ourselves by the name of Christian have a duty to love and respect our brothers and sisters; if they sin, so do we, and if we judge them, surely we shall be judged too. The hatred which is properly directed towards the sin will, if misdirected to the sinner, make the cross carried that much heavier. That is a grave sin.

In peace,

Anglian
 
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It is interesting that you think Tradition less important now so many are educated; in a sense it that not just why a proper understanding of Tradition is even more important. If we can all read Scripture and pronounce on it, how can we be sure we are not preaching 'another Gospel'?

After reading your post, I think the only possible way we disagree is in our definition of "tradition".

To use an awful expression, when I think of tradition it is in a more traditional sense :p What I mean, is people saying "This is what we've always done, so it must be right, so we must keep doing it." This is what Tradition has become in my eyes; the mindless and unwavering continuation of a belief or act, often beyond its initial intended purpose. This was understandable when people didn't have the education to think for themselves on many matters, or needed enforced habits/traditions to maintain and sustain their faith. But today that is not so necessary, and besides which, many are still holding on to traditions that were set up for past generations, not today's.

A humorous example is this:

A little girl asks her mother, "Mum, why do you always cut the end off of the Sunday roast?" Mother replies, "Because that's what my mother always did."
So the little girl goes to her grandmother and asks, "Grandma, why do you always cut the end off of the Sunday roast?" Grandmother replies, "Well, that's what my mother always did."
So the little girl goes to her great-grandmother and asks, "Great-Grandma, why do you always cut the end off of the Sunday roast?"

And Great-Grandma's reply?

"Tin's too short."

However, I think your version of Tradition I can thoroughly agree with. If I am reading correctly, it is a set of guideline beliefs and practices, commonly accepted and upheld by the church, for people to look at and compare their personal beliefs against. What I think is important to keep in mind, though, is that people should beware of taking these Traditions as their own before they examine the reason behind them, and the results of them. Raising questions should be encouraged and being able to challenge these Traditions allowed, if they see fit to do so. That is how we learn. Also, should the need arise, Traditions should be open to change (just as the people challenging them should) so that they do not become outdated and worthless. And the only way for that to happen is for people to start asking "Why do we do this?"

It has happened in the past, as far back as in the bible, and I believe it will continue to happen. The only thing that does not change is God, because He is perfect and has no need of change. We are far from perfect, and therefore have great need of constant change, both as individuals and as a whole. But the flesh hates change, fights change, and change rarely happens on its own.


The whole reason He founded a Church was surely to answer your last question; He left us with Apostles and successors who could, indeed, help interpret aright what the Scriptures are and how we should read them; since they originated within the usage of the Church and were declared canonical within it, it is not unreasonable, is it, to suppose the Church and its Tradition might offer some insight greater than our own unaided efforts?

It is not at all unreasonable in the least. Indeed many of my beliefs were guided by what the churches believe. Their insight is frequently greater, and through study of how they came to decisions, we can grow as Christians. But don't forget the other side of the coin; a lot of Tradition and doctrine certain churches have nowadays were set by blokes who left this earth a long time ago.

But my last question, which you refer to, was more to do with the way some people like to have "Ultimate Answers" they can just copy out of the bible and paste over every problem in existence. No consideration given to individual problems, just generalisations. And to then say it is God's Will, absent of any solid evidence that God did command it, as if we can talk for God.

Don't forget it was God's Will that we slaughter the Infidels and conquer the East...

Doctrines are those things the Church has declared in its creeds, opinions are those opinions which may be held but which do not appertain to salvation.

So, for example, it is doctrine that one believes that Christ is fully human and fully divine and that He is of one substance with the Father and with the Holy Ghost; it was never doctrine that slavery was OK.

But it was doctrine, then, that interracial relationships were evil. Not many hold that view any more. Just an example.

Tradition is, after all, a living and developing thing, it need not conflict with thinking for oneself; but in the end if we are asked by what authority we speak, and we say 'by the Spirit within me', we have a terminal problem when someone speaking the opposite says the same; this discussion here is an example of what can happen.

Very true, I cannot fault you, nor would I even want to disagree. The only way out of this problem is for people to stop shouting at each other about the rules as we see them, and to look at the results of our viewpoints. Jesus and others spoke many a time on 'examining the fruits of teachings to distinguish good from bad'. This is what lead me to change my views on homosexuality and to challenge the tradition.

If what we say is with the authority of the Church He founded, then there we have all the sanction anyone can need.

If they are part of the Church. And authority, whilst usually working for the good of people, isn't infallible.

Note also that the Church Jesus founded is a body, with many different parts. Some churches are stronger in certain areas, other churches in other areas (eg worship, or liturgy, or prayer, or fellowship etc). Not all churches agree. No church is perfect. All churches are necessary and usable by God. But is it right to claim one church's authority over another?

I'd like to take this opportunity to thank you, Anglian, for an interesting discussion that hasn't fallen to flaming from either of us. It's nice to have those once in a while.
 
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The terms of this discussion, and the citing of texts as proof of one's position, are all familiar. It may be doubted whether anyone is going to change their mind as a result.

As someone from a Church where Tradition and Scripture are held to be divinely inspired and the twin foundation of our reading of His word, and yet who has some sympathy with what I suppose one might call, for the sake of convenience, the liberal position on this, I find myself having to assess how one can go about this sort of discussion.

Of course, reading Lord_Bartok's first post through the link provided above. it is clear that his own position inspires his position; it does in some ways for many of us. I have a friend who, when we were both young, was an ardent Christian. He then met and fell in love with a woman whom he wanted to marry; the problem was she was someone else's wife. He thought it was very unfair of the Church not to let him do what he wanted. He was 'sure' she was 'the one', and she had married when young and was very unhappily married to an unfaithful husband; how, my friend asked, could it be 'wrong' to have a relationship with her and, when she was divorced, marry her? People, he pointed out, did it all the time. Why could the Church not wise up and come to terms with the way this society was.

I don't know if we have all had such feelings as circumstances change in our lives; I certainly have and know others who have.

But what is it we are asking? For the Church, whose witness is to preach repentance and amendment of life to us all as we are all sinners, to change what it has always taught because we are personally made uncomfortable by it; because it causes us sorrow and pain; because we know we are Christians and think the Church should accommodate itself to our frailties. Is that not rather self-centred and arrogant of us?

Is the Faith a form of personal therapy or the revealed Truth of the Risen Lord? He told us we would have to take up our cross and follow Him. He did not tell us it would be pleasant or easy, or that our personal needs would be met.

So on subjects such as this, where I am uneasy with the position the Church has always read from the Bible, what to do? Who am I that my personal position, however well-worked out I may feel it is, and however much in line with what I feel ought to be the Christian position, should prevail against the wisdom of the Church. Might my unease not be a symptom of my own sinfulness? Might my urge to persuade others of how right I am be no more than a manifestation of the sin of pride and contumaciousness?

To expect, nay, to demand, that the Church should alter what it has taught because my own personal position is made sorrowful by it, is not uncharacteristic of modern mankind. Many young people, and older ones, no doubt feel that the Church should alter its stand on fornication and even adultery; it is not just homosexual activity which conflicts with the teaching of the Church.

All such activities are declared to be sinful in the teaching of the Church and its reading of the Scriptures. So is the activity of hating anyone who commits those sins. Those of a homosexual nature within the Church who are obedient to its teachings are called to a lifelong ascetic struggle and to the celibacy the Catholic Church asks of all its priests. This is a heavy cross to bear, and those who carry it deserve our love and respect.

Those who demand that the Church change because they think it should do so say what all we sinners have said down the ages, and show, yet again, that the sin of our first parents was willfulness and disobedience. In the modern west, where we seem to have tendency to elevate our own views to a form of personal infallibility, we have a problem with obedience.

Those who argue this one out through scripture will continue so to do, convincing no one who is not already of their persuasion. Those of us whose personal view on this differs from what our Church teaches have a self-discipline of obedience to which we must attend.

All of us who call ourselves by the name of Christian have a duty to love and respect our brothers and sisters; if they sin, so do we, and if we judge them, surely we shall be judged too. The hatred which is properly directed towards the sin will, if misdirected to the sinner, make the cross carried that much heavier. That is a grave sin.

In peace,

Anglian
I just saw this post after I posted above. That was very well put.

I think we hold different views on what Church is and was originally intended to be. I don't wish to challenge your views; I respect them and shall be giving some thought to my own, taking into consideration what we've discussed. Thank you :)

Phinehas2 - I have had confirmed the suspicion that you don't actually read, or at least comprehend, entire posts. Rather it appears you select phrases you can take and fabricate an answer to. I'm going to politely call it quits. Sorry.
 
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Dear Lord_Barthok_Soc,

First, can I echo your thanks for the tone in which you are carrying on this discussion; it is a pleasure to engage with your mind and spirit here, and from both I learn much.

You write:
After reading your post, I think the only possible way we disagree is in our definition of "tradition".
but in fact go on to offer a definition I would entirely agree with. It is dreadful when people use 'Tradition' as some slam-dunk argument against something they dislike, disagree with but can't quite argue it out! That does no one any favours, and does, indeed, bring the whole notion into disrepute; the same with the idea that the Church Fathers are 'infallible'.

Few Christians have read all the Church Fathers, and I've never seen a canonical list of them. My own Tradition draws lovingly on the insights of St. Isaac of Nineveh who was termed a 'Nestorian' at the time. Who's a 'Father' and who defines it?

That said, we do need some authority within any ecclesial body, and my own Tradition's use of 'tradition' and Scripture seems to get the balance right most often; which is why, when I find myself in disagreement with it, I hope I am humble enough to ask whether it is not myself who has erred!:bow:

So I think we do agree when you write this:

However, I think your version of Tradition I can thoroughly agree with. If I am reading correctly, it is a set of guideline beliefs and practices, commonly accepted and upheld by the church, for people to look at and compare their personal beliefs against. What I think is important to keep in mind, though, is that people should beware of taking these Traditions as their own before they examine the reason behind them, and the results of them. Raising questions should be encouraged and being able to challenge these Traditions allowed, if they see fit to do so. That is how we learn. Also, should the need arise, Traditions should be open to change (just as the people challenging them should) so that they do not become outdated and worthless. And the only way for that to happen is for people to start asking "Why do we do this?"

On this,
But it was doctrine, then, that interracial relationships were evil. Not many hold that view any more. Just an example.
I have to confess an ignorance; I wasn't aware the Church had pronounced on that in any doctrinal way.

When you write:
Very true, I cannot fault you, nor would I even want to disagree. The only way out of this problem is for people to stop shouting at each other about the rules as we see them, and to look at the results of our viewpoints.
I say :amen:

On this
I think we hold different views on what Church is and was originally intended to be. I don't wish to challenge your views; I respect them and shall be giving some thought to my own, taking into consideration what we've discussed. Thank you :)
I can only reciprocate. I think the way in which you put your views ought to command respect from all of us. Those who have not been through the sort of struggle you have can only admire you and continue to hold you in our prayers.

In peace,

Anglian
 
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But it was doctrine, then, that interracial relationships were evil. Not many hold that view any more. Just an example.
I have to confess an ignorance; I wasn't aware the Church had pronounced on that in any doctrinal way.


Depends a bit on what you refer to by "The Church", but around about the time slavery was abolished, it was seen fit to introduce "anti-miscegenation laws" (ie laws forbidding interracial marriage), often using arguments based upon twisting the Curse of Ham to justify the racist view. Same story was used to justify slavery.

I can only reciprocate. I think the way in which you put your views ought to command respect from all of us. Those who have not been through the sort of struggle you have can only admire you and continue to hold you in our prayers.

Thank you, once again. The respect is mutual. Once I've finished mulling all this over, I might start a thread on the nature and purpose of the Church...I'm interested to see your views.


This has all gone slightly off topic :sorry: I suppose homosexuality issues and views are too intertwined with marriage to be debated separately. It boils down, once again, to those who are for it seeing scripture one way, those against it seeing scripture another way, and no one being convinced the other is right.
 
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