What Is Going On?

[dayhiker]

Yes, black I know all that. Its a very valid point. I guess right now I don't see myself being in a long term relationship again. If I do, I'd tell me boys to treat her right and I'm sure they will do it as they are that type. I'll rethink my position if that ever happens.

I totally agree with your about society and how they view the money of their dead relatives. Its when ones hearts is truly revealed. It proves that quite a few only have a facade of niceness.

Dayhiker...If you moved in with a woman and lived in her home for say...25 years (yes, you are still young enough for that to be a reasonable expectation)...and you invested in the house through maintanence and upgrades...you really think that this is more "inheritance" material for her kids and not really your "home"?

I know I watch the mess that went with a 94 year old man who was dying and his "significant other" of 35 years was not the person who could legally make his end of life decisions for him. That actually fell to the daughter who lived states away and had no relationship with her father. The woman who loved him most and knew him best had not legal right to express what she knew to be his final wishes.

There is a real reason for that legal "piece of paper"....too bad that most people don't realized it until it is too late.

If you are married and your social security benefits are higher (since the man usually has paid more into the system), the wife can choose to collect at that higher rate. If they aren't married, not only does his contribution to the expenses disappear but she can only collect based on what she earned.

And really...there has to be a point where taking care of your live-in love is more important that leaving an inheritance to your children. We have total screwed up society that views death of a relative almost like winning the lottery.