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Posted this question on another forum, and thought I'd present it here. How do you define ''friendship?'' Have you ever severed a friendship and why? Are you a good friend to people? Look forward to your answers.

There are two things here: friend and friendship. The first one is skipped.
A friendship to you is a relation to a friend, who will always help you when you need it under any possible circumstances.
If you do not have such a situation, then you do not know if you have a friendship with that person.
 
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Posted this question on another forum, and thought I'd present it here. How do you define ''friendship?'' Have you ever severed a friendship and why? Are you a good friend to people? Look forward to your answers.
One thing I value about friendships is that they typically needn´t be as strictly defined as e.g. a partnership or a marriage.
My friendships are of very different nature.
I don´t know if I am a good friend to my friends. You would have to ask them.
I have never formally ended a friendship (I have never started one formally, either.) Some friendships have slowly dissolved, though.
 
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@juvenissun - thank you for your comments, are you saying i should define what a friend is, before i can define what a friendship is? if so, i like that way of processing it.

@quatona - thank you as well for your thoughts to this...you're right, some friendships have slowly dissolved. one or two ended abruptly when i left Christianity (Christian friends severed the friendships when I left the faith). I like your thought about not strictly defining a friendship.
 
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@juvenissun - thank you for your comments, are you saying i should define what a friend is, before i can define what a friendship is? if so, i like that way of processing it.

I may extend my help to anyone who needs it but the person may not be my friend. In that case, my action does not fit my definition of friendship. Yes, a person has to be a friend first, then a friendship may develop. In my definition, a true friendship is a very very serious commitment which one does not make lightly. Acquainted people (friends) have a happy time or having other activities together, but there may not be any friendship. A common symptom is that when you are in trouble or in need, no "friend" would show up.

In the Book of Job, Job has three good friends and has good friendship.
 
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Posted this question on another forum, and thought I'd present it here. How do you define ''friendship?'' Have you ever severed a friendship and why? Are you a good friend to people? Look forward to your answers.

Someone who will tell you the truth even if it hurts. And love you no matter what you've done, or what you're doing. Faith works by love, so when you love someone you will have faith that they'll make it through, even those things you might consider wrong, or evil. It's never giving up on them!
 
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Peoople think that you can have one or two friends, but really it takes a gene pool of hundresds of individuals to keep us healthy (or even more), so freiendship is always part of a larger community. If there were only a few people genetic defects would be more common and thus we wold die out.
 
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In the old days frendship may have been a philosphic issue, now its more of a scientific one...



http://psypress.co.uk/smithandmackie/resources/topic.asp?topic=ch11-tp-02
Ask Yourself?

  • What turns acquaintances into friends?
  • What roles do exchanging rewards and self-disclosures play in developing relationships?
 
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Posted this question on another forum, and thought I'd present it here. How do you define ''friendship?'' Have you ever severed a friendship and why? Are you a good friend to people? Look forward to your answers.

I have recently severed friendship with someone who looks at women like women are born to obey men. It actually felt great doing it.

I generally am a good friend but I carefully choose my friends and if I need to severe a friendship, it is usually for a very good reason, I don't think twice.
 
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I have no friendships & I never will, because of this one verse.

Jas 4:4 Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.
I don't think that the verse means to not be friends with anyone, I think in this context it rather means that we shouldn't favor the world over God.
 
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I have no friendships & I never will, because of this one verse.

Jas 4:4 Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.
I have a friend that is a real estate agent. He went through open heart surgery and I wondered why so I prayed about it. The answer I got was because he was so friendly or as the Bible says friends with the world. Of course that is all a part of his job, agents are very friendly people. I even told his wife that was his downfall, that he was so friendly. She did not know the meaning of that and I did not offer to explain it to her because actually I do not understand it myself. Jesus said: "I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master's business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you."
 
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Posted this question on another forum, and thought I'd present it here. How do you define ''friendship?'' Have you ever severed a friendship and why? Are you a good friend to people? Look forward to your answers.

Off the cuff: Friendship is to mutually share a common love with another person and through that love to allow them to become part of yourself. The common love could be sailing, painting, hiking, religion, or life together (in the case of a husband and wife). If a true friendship comes about, then that common love creates a situation something like the symbiotic relationship of siamese twins: what is good for them gives me joy, what is bad for them gives me sorrow. The two lives become fused.
 
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