Well, I´d say fire is a process, and we don´t recognize processes by their form, of all.
I have read descriptions of it and looked at it and yet have a difficult time conceptualizing what it really is.
It may sound like a nit-picking question, but anyway:
What do you mean by "
really" here?
Have you ever run into communication problems involving the word "fire"?
Have you ever encountered a situation when it was important to distinguish "fire" from "non-fire" yet you were unable to tell the two apart?
Are you unable to recognize "fire" when you see it?
My son (he's 10) said the other morning "if dogs and people see color differently, which of us sees things the right way?"
Who told him there was a "right" way of perception?
I told him I had wondered this question myself because even as humans we may all see different colors and yet call them the same names.
And since this is just about names, it seems to work quite fine for communication purposes.
I wonder about fire like this I think. Not simply as a relative entity like color may be, of course (because with color, you have the objective source of light and the blue glove which is only reflecting blue light), but i think of fire in one way, as matter perhaps, and yet it exists as a form of matter in transition to a new form.
Form? I keep wondering about this term in the given context. I´m not sure what you mean by it here.
Anyway, where I come from, we consider *everything* as being in permanent transition. Wherein some transitions are so slow that they allow for the (erroneous) idea of there being permanent objects.
And when I've conceptualized it this way, it seems almost useless to think of at all and yet there it is dancing. In truth, I don't know what I mean by the question. Maybe its a silly question
I am inclined to the notion that using the questions "What is [x]?" and "What do we mean when saying ['x']?" as though they were synonymous is the source of quite some confusion.

Now, if - on top - we ask "What is [x]
really?" (as though it would be somehow useful to substract our perception and pretend that the immediate, unperceived nature of our environment would be of any interest to us) things get even worse.