what helped you?

[traceyy]

I lost my precious daughter due to cancer, I was really lost in the world, but my best friend told me that she has created memorial website for her father and that it has helped her a lot. At the begining I was reluctant to create memorial website for her. But I have checked the website and I have found out that many people think of this as of good way how to cope with the grief. So I have also created website for my girl and it is helping me. I can visit the site anytime i feel sad, and I can tell you it really helps.The name of the website is last-memories.com Please let me know if this helped you.
yours tracey

 

[womanofvalor]

When our daughter died, we were just in shock for so long. People who just sat with us, taking care of our everyday needs , and were just there for us helped the most. Long conversations are too tiring for families who are in grief. And, like the others, you want to talk about your loved ones and have others talk about them, keeping their memory alive.
In a hospital setting, having someone help make calls to family members would help tremendously, also.

 

[goodwife2be]

My mom and dad are dead. I am lost without them.
They were not the perfect parents. But, They were always there in the way that they could honestly be.

I don't have that now. All I have now is a husband and children that expect me to be perfect, which I am not.
Neither is my husband. But, I love my family.

I have become an alcohoic because of neglect of my husband.

Before I became an alcohlic. I could blame my husband for everything that went wrong in the family, because he was truely negective. But, Now after asking for help from his family, his friends and him to clear out the discusting garbage pit that my poor children call home because my husband is an obsessive compulsive hoarder I am an alcoholic and don't have anywhere to turn but this discusting pighole of a house that my children would never bring any of thier friends to.

 

[ladyt28]

Right after my mom died, a hospice nurse showed up. I am an only child and Mom was my best friend. I kept pacing and worrying about all kinds of things. She told me to sit down as I was making her nervous - indeed! Don't make you're needs paramount to those who have just lost someone. Any advise or help should be done for their benefit and not your own - at least cover up the intentions if it is more for yourself than others.