what have you learned?

[vibrant]

we all have parents or model adult relationships in our lives that set an example for us and how we will conduct our own relationships.

good or bad, do you mind sharing what you've learned?

 

[joeman1]

I have learned from my parents that hugging and kissing and holding eachother is a good thing. I have also learned from my parents that its not a good thing to let anger fester and that you need to deal with things when they happen and not let the situation go on for days because thats when anger begins to take control and that can lead to bitterness and bitterness can destroy a relationship. I have also learned from my parents that it is a good thing to pray with one another and minister to one another.

 

[winglovesall]

Great topic for a post - first of all -

I have learnt from my parents that you can have friendship or long-term relationships with a person that has a big age difference. It closes the gap.

 

[mina]

This coming from parents that aren't Christians , I've learned that divorce is not an option, that marriage is about serving each other and sacrificing for your spouse and your family. I praise God for my parents who model a good marriage even when my christian friends had parents divorcing.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

"don't panic"

most important thing pops ever taught me.

 

[jonnylove]

Umm Not sure really? Discipline I suppose.

 

[Angel_Delight]

never go to sleep on an argument and always treat other people how you wish to be treated

 

[crimsonxbeauty]

I have learned to only worry about what you want... that its dumb to not have sex before you're married.. because then you don't know if you two will work out together. I have learned that yelling usually does good because it helps you get your way. Ignoring each other and insulting each other daily helps the time pass... and emotionally abusing your children/stepchildren is a great idea.

 

[covenantwmn]

I've learned from my brother and his wife that there is no back door to marriage, and if you maintain a level of respect and caring thru the rough times, the payoff is a profoundly sweet and intimate relationship.

 

[BlackRain]

I have learned to only worry about what you want... that its dumb to not have sex before you're married.. because then you don't know if you two will work out together. I have learned that yelling usually does good because it helps you get your way. Ignoring each other and insulting each other daily helps the time pass... and emotionally abusing your children/stepchildren is a great idea.

i'm sorry!

 

[findinghope06]

from my parents, i have learned that fighting in front of you children is not okay.

i have learned from my father that attitude gets you no where. it only makes me upset with you but he taught me how to discipline myself and work for what i want.

i have learned from my mother to not let people walk all over me. she has taught me how love people b/c she has shown me over and over again how to love.

something else i have learned (sort of b/c of my parents) that divorce is not an option for me. their divorce caused a lot of problems for me and my sister. not that we wanted them back together but b/c they had joint custody of us. it was going back and forth every other day. i had 2 phone numbers and 2 addresses. i hated having to give out both to friends or to teachers in teh beginning of the school year. and then we would get yelled at for leaving something at the others house. i dont want to ever put my kids through what i went through when i was a child.

 

[JPPT1974]

To learn to express your feelings. As well as love and express emotions and touching people. Showing your true feelings to one another is like being honest with one another.

 

[Tumbleweed64]

I didn't learn much from my parents, my Dad was an alcoholic and my Mom was very reserved and quiet, but one thing I did learn was it is okay to just be YOU, and the most precious thing you can give a relationship is time and Communication, I guess you could say I learned from their mistakes

 

[fishstix]

I've learned from my family that people don't have to get married at the 'perfect' average age range, but that lots of people get married for the first time in their 30's or 40's or later and some people stay single for life and that any of those scenarios are perfectly ok.

 

[winglovesall]

I've learnt to have more friends and socialise more

 

[Pyrogenesis]

My parents always prayed together every morning; I look back on it now and I realise that it was one of the main securities in my life, knowing that Mom and Dad loved each other and God. Because of their examply I have learned the reality of 1 Corinthians 13:13 - "And now faith, hope, and love, these three things remain; but the greatest of these is love."

 

[Pyrogenesis]

I have learned to only worry about what you want... that its dumb to not have sex before you're married.. because then you don't know if you two will work out together. I have learned that yelling usually does good because it helps you get your way. Ignoring each other and insulting each other daily helps the time pass... and emotionally abusing your children/stepchildren is a great idea.

Sometimes God makes me cry when I hear something; He totally wasted me right now. It was almost as if I could feel His sorrow for what has happened. I just get the feeling that He wants you to know that He cares so much for you, and that it totally breaks His heart.

 

[WITNESS8]

Hmmm...From my parents...I have learned to give to others...I have learned not to get in debt for any reason...I have learned to serve in the church...Other than that although I love my parents, I think they are very much hypocritical...Hmmm...:l

 

[hazeleyes80]

These are things that I've learned mostly from observation. My parents weren't very vocal when it came to letting me know what made a relationship work or not work.

1. Don't marry someone who allows too much input from his family of origin.
2. Don't marry someone whose personality and/or interests are too different from your own.
3. If there is a problem, speak up (respectfully) rather than letting it fester and/or letting your spouse/boyfriend walk all over you and think it's ok.
4. When it comes to marriage, have a financial plan from the very beginning and don't marry someone whose financial goals are very different from your own.
5. Have a mutually agreed-upon plan from the beginning of a marriage regarding who is responsible for which household chores (both inside and outside).
6. Listen to each other rather than dismissing your partner's opinions/ideas because they conflict with yours.
7. Compromise/don't be a big crybaby if you can't have things exactly your way.
8. Both people need to put an equal amount of effort into a relationship (and a high amount of effort, at that) in order to make it work.