I know.
As such, He cannot be spiritually connected with a sinner (this is the spiritual death that separates us from God).
We aren't spiritually one with God, obviously - at least, not until we have been reconciled through the death of Jesus. The point is that babies aren't in a position to know, or accept, that. But neither do they know, or confess, that they are sinners.
The whole question is; does God have mercy on those who have not known, or been able to know, him? Or does he say, "too bad, not my problem; you will spend eternity without me even though you did not know - or what'smore have a chance to know - me when you were alive."? I say he has mercy because he is merciful - and compassionate, and love.
In the same way that I believe that he judges people who had/have never heard the Gospel according to what they DID know and how they lived and behaved. Could be wrong and can't prove it - but God is merciful and loving, so that's how I believe he acts.
God didn't "create" human beings to be sinners (they became sinners on their own).
I know. We will all sin, choose to sin and turn away from God at some point in our lives. But babies/toddlers can't make that choice - either to sin, or to repent and call out to God if they do sin.
What do you think of Romans 9:10-15?
And not only so, but also when Rebekah had conceived children by one man, our forefather Isaac, though they were not yet born and had done nothing either good or bad - in order that God's purpose of election might continue, not because of works but because of him who calls - she was told, "The older will serve the younger." As it is written, "Jacob I loved, but Esau I hated."
What shall we say then? Is there injustice on God’s part? By no means! For he says to Moses, "I will have mercy on whom I have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion."
I think that the commentary/book I once read on this is correct; that in Hebrew thought, if you were chosen by God, it meant he loved you, and if you weren't chosen by God, they believed that this meant that he hated you. Jacob was chosen to be the father of the 12 tribes of Israel; Esau wasn't.
God doesn't hate; he is love (1 John 4:8), and love is kind, patient, does not envy, keeps no records of wrongs, is not rude,
does not delight in evil, always protects, always hopes, always perseveres, (1 Cor 13:4-8). Love never fails. God is also light, and there is NO darkness in him; at all, (1 John 1:5,7).
God hates sin and evil - because as you rightly say, he is holy and cannot tolerate it. He shows anger towards those who constantly, and persistently, reject him - you only need to read the OT, and Jesus' words to the Pharisees to know that. But he doesn't hate sinners - he died for them! He could have destroyed Adam and Eve when they sinned, but he didn't. He could have killed Cain for murdering his broither, but he didn't. When humans got SO sinful that they couldn't and wouldn't repent, he destroyed them in the flood - all except 8, who he spared so that the human race would continue. Those who WERE destroyed had had many warnings, and had much time to repent while Noah was building the ark. They didn't; they constantly refused.
Babies, if they are born sinners at all, are not aware of this and are not able to repent. Therefore, I believe that God shows mercy and kindness.
I could be wrong; I could get to heaven and find that God is meaner than I believe him to be - but I'm sticking to what I know of him, which is revealed in Scripture.