Before I start out, please don't let my age effect how you feel about the story. This has destroyed me and crushed my soul.
We are super young; I am 23, he is 21. We have been married for 10 months, both each others first loves. I thought he was the best guy ever. We have known each other for 4 years and started dating at 3 years. We NEVER were apart, out of the 3 years of dating. We both saved each other from really, really bad times when we first met and became bonded over that. We were best friends, did everything together. We didn't really have any other friends (not by choice, it just didn't happen.) We were such goofballs and just truly felt like soul mates. I could see the love in his eyes for me and so could EVERYONE!
Last week, he abandoned me. When I say abandoned, I mean ABANDONED. I have no job because he always told me he likes taking care of me and that he's "the man." I was left in the apartment with no water, hardly any food, he took my debit card (I didn't know it at the time), and he took off with the car that my parent's helped get us (since I sold mine before we got married to support us because we moved away to another state..)
What happened you might ask? I can't answer that because I have NO answers. All I have is speculation of either medication, overwhelmed with work, or possibly cheating.
Everything had been JUST FINE until we both just started college last Monday (he left me on Friday) and we were both REALLY stressed out. That whole week he kept talking about his friends at work how happy they made him and how I wasn't nice to him when he comes home... We bickered pretty bad all week and then he burned his arm on accident and got put on Vicodin last Thursday. So the next day on Friday, he wanted to go hang with his buddies and I ALWAYS go with him and he was super mad at me yelling at me when I was crying and I told him "All I want to do is be around you..." Then he freaked out, packed a bag, said he needed space, that he would be back tonight.
He never came back, never answered his phone. The next day on Saturday he stops by and was even MORE mad (his mom I believe was yapping in his ear about me, influencing him since she hates me). He said he was only there to get the college books (that my mom spent $200 on for him) and that he would be back later that night and not to worry and he hugged me, kissed me, said he loved me and that I can call him and text him. He still had anger and pain in his eyes though so I said "Please, don't go. I feel like this is the end if you go." And he said he HAD to, and asked if he could take the dog and I said no because I was worried about him not coming back.... And later when more stuff happens, it turns out I was right, he would have taken the dog for good.
An hour after he left on Saturday, he text me saying "I don't think this is going to work." and I literally fell apart because of the MIND GAMES!! I begged him for marriage counseling, as I did when he first left on the Friday. He never responded. I fell apart in the apartment and my mom sent her cousin from 2 hours away to get me. The next morning he texts "Can you pack my stuff?" I didn't reply. The next morning he says "Hey are you there?" I didn't reply. I waited for him to come to me until Wednesday which was 5 days after he left, but nothing.
I went onto our bank online and saw he had spent $200 in two days. He went to the tattoo shop, the gym membership, and the tanning salon, and 711 numerous times. So I hurried and transfered all the money I could and he quickly caught on and tried to say it was fraud but I got it taken care of.
So I returned to the apartment a few days ago on Thursday and found his stuff all cleared out and he told the apartment manager he wants ME to pay the rent. I have no idea what I did to him to cause such hate.
I have learned a lot from this experience. For one, never be dependent on someone else. And two, for me to not stress over the tiniest things with your spouse. But for them to up and abandoned you over that is crazy. That's why it was probably cheating or something but I will never know.
Everyone tells me I am so young and I will love again but in my mind I don't see how I can EVER trust another guy. This wasn't teenage puppy love. This was a marriage. Granted, we are so young but I really thought I knew this guy....
Now I have to start a new life by moving 12 hours away to my brother's house. I haven't worked in 3 years. I know it's my fault for that but he told me and promised me all these things.....
I will never, ever know what happened to him. I am done crying over him but I am in the midst of trying to figure out how to fight for the car...It is worth $13,000 and only has $1500 left to pay off. I just have no idea if a judge will see that I have a right to half the value....
Please pray for me guys and please respond. I am not the best writer so I probably left a few things out.
Edit: Forgot to include that 2 weeks ago was my birthday and he wrote me a card saying "You are the love of my dreams. If I had the chance to marry you 1000 times again I would. I hope you have fun today my sweet love. I love you so much!" It hurts so bad.
Edit: Also forgot to include that I had no friends or family living anywhere near by. My parents were literally across the country when this happened and drove back to come get me.
We are super young; I am 23, he is 21. We have been married for 10 months, both each others first loves. I thought he was the best guy ever. We have known each other for 4 years and started dating at 3 years. We NEVER were apart, out of the 3 years of dating. We both saved each other from really, really bad times when we first met and became bonded over that. We were best friends, did everything together. We didn't really have any other friends (not by choice, it just didn't happen.) We were such goofballs and just truly felt like soul mates. I could see the love in his eyes for me and so could EVERYONE!
Last week, he abandoned me. When I say abandoned, I mean ABANDONED. I have no job because he always told me he likes taking care of me and that he's "the man." I was left in the apartment with no water, hardly any food, he took my debit card (I didn't know it at the time), and he took off with the car that my parent's helped get us (since I sold mine before we got married to support us because we moved away to another state..)
What happened you might ask? I can't answer that because I have NO answers. All I have is speculation of either medication, overwhelmed with work, or possibly cheating.
Everything had been JUST FINE until we both just started college last Monday (he left me on Friday) and we were both REALLY stressed out. That whole week he kept talking about his friends at work how happy they made him and how I wasn't nice to him when he comes home... We bickered pretty bad all week and then he burned his arm on accident and got put on Vicodin last Thursday. So the next day on Friday, he wanted to go hang with his buddies and I ALWAYS go with him and he was super mad at me yelling at me when I was crying and I told him "All I want to do is be around you..." Then he freaked out, packed a bag, said he needed space, that he would be back tonight.
He never came back, never answered his phone. The next day on Saturday he stops by and was even MORE mad (his mom I believe was yapping in his ear about me, influencing him since she hates me). He said he was only there to get the college books (that my mom spent $200 on for him) and that he would be back later that night and not to worry and he hugged me, kissed me, said he loved me and that I can call him and text him. He still had anger and pain in his eyes though so I said "Please, don't go. I feel like this is the end if you go." And he said he HAD to, and asked if he could take the dog and I said no because I was worried about him not coming back.... And later when more stuff happens, it turns out I was right, he would have taken the dog for good.
An hour after he left on Saturday, he text me saying "I don't think this is going to work." and I literally fell apart because of the MIND GAMES!! I begged him for marriage counseling, as I did when he first left on the Friday. He never responded. I fell apart in the apartment and my mom sent her cousin from 2 hours away to get me. The next morning he texts "Can you pack my stuff?" I didn't reply. The next morning he says "Hey are you there?" I didn't reply. I waited for him to come to me until Wednesday which was 5 days after he left, but nothing.
I went onto our bank online and saw he had spent $200 in two days. He went to the tattoo shop, the gym membership, and the tanning salon, and 711 numerous times. So I hurried and transfered all the money I could and he quickly caught on and tried to say it was fraud but I got it taken care of.
So I returned to the apartment a few days ago on Thursday and found his stuff all cleared out and he told the apartment manager he wants ME to pay the rent. I have no idea what I did to him to cause such hate.
I have learned a lot from this experience. For one, never be dependent on someone else. And two, for me to not stress over the tiniest things with your spouse. But for them to up and abandoned you over that is crazy. That's why it was probably cheating or something but I will never know.
Everyone tells me I am so young and I will love again but in my mind I don't see how I can EVER trust another guy. This wasn't teenage puppy love. This was a marriage. Granted, we are so young but I really thought I knew this guy....
Now I have to start a new life by moving 12 hours away to my brother's house. I haven't worked in 3 years. I know it's my fault for that but he told me and promised me all these things.....
I will never, ever know what happened to him. I am done crying over him but I am in the midst of trying to figure out how to fight for the car...It is worth $13,000 and only has $1500 left to pay off. I just have no idea if a judge will see that I have a right to half the value....
Please pray for me guys and please respond. I am not the best writer so I probably left a few things out.
Edit: Forgot to include that 2 weeks ago was my birthday and he wrote me a card saying "You are the love of my dreams. If I had the chance to marry you 1000 times again I would. I hope you have fun today my sweet love. I love you so much!" It hurts so bad.
Edit: Also forgot to include that I had no friends or family living anywhere near by. My parents were literally across the country when this happened and drove back to come get me.
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