What Does This Mean?

[Raptor]

I like a girl from my youth group she talks abit but we are both abit shy when it comes to public speaking or whatever ect, we went on a bus trip to camp 2 months ago she asked me if i wanted to play a game of cards with her and we had 1 other guy and 2 girls playing with us on the bus drive home, when we were playing, she looked me right in the eyes and it seemed i could not get my eyes off her pupil we stared at each other for about 15 secs she had a smile on her face and i was so traped looking in her eyes i had to look away and refocus lol.

Then another time when we where at bible study at a friends house i went upstairs when you get to the upstairs you can look down into the living room she was siting on the couch and i was looking at her and i was thinking she did not know but she looked up and laphed and smiled at me i kinda made a joke about i would not want to fall off here so i would not look stupid looking at her lol

i was in the church on friday at youth she came where me and my friend was and we joked and said we were the bus boys because we allways take the bus home from youth , then she said most bus boys dont look that good but i think i would have to change my mind about u guys.

Then another time we were going in to a christian concert it was United Live there was a big line up from the door to the street so everyone was pretty close because people were trying to get inside the door. *She said this is the closest we have ever ben before* i said ya and kinda smiled at her and i think her face went kinda pinkish color, then she said i will hold on to the back of your shirt. i think she did that so we would not lose eachother i think.

So does it sound like she likes me? maybe i should try and talk to her more or try to sit next to her at youth or bible study to show her i like or what do you think i should do to show her i am interested ?

 

[Sketcher]

Either she likes you or she is just very flirtatious. But it doesn't sound like you've known her for that long. I've found that getting to know girls as friends first helps me weed a lot of 'em out. Some of them know how to make a great first impression, but when you get to know them after a few months, all kinds of red flags go up. Six months to a year is my personal rule.

This also helps me to guard my heart (Proverbs 4:23). It's easy to get unrealistic expectations for an attractive person who takes an interest in you. The truth is, you don't know whether she is really interested in dating you, just temporarily infatuated with you or just over-friendly to every guy she meets. If you don't guard your heart, she could well tear it to pieces and you could blame God when it wouldn't be His fault. This is especially true if you've been praying for a girlfriend.

 

[NeoTheOne]

i have known her for about 1 year but it was abit hard at first to talk with her because we were both shy as long as i was around her she does not do what she did to me to any other guy at youth

 

[Sketcher]

Known her for a year being you actually talked on a regular basis for a year, or recognized each other's faces for a year?

 

[Raptor]

i talk to her abit but not too deep conversations, i see her like 2 or 3 days a week and i talk on msn abit i sit next to her some times ect anytime i talk to her she allways laphes evan thou what i say is not funny lol

 

[JPPT1974]

i talk to her abit but not too deep conversations, i see her like 2 or 3 days a week and i talk on msn abit i sit next to her some times ect anytime i talk to her she allways laphes evan thou what i say is not funny lol

Well at least I am glad that you see her face-to-face two or three times a day. And not just over the internet all the time.

 

[BMan29]

2 or 3 days a week not a day lol

 

[seangoh]

Red lights for me there. She's obviously flirting at you and boy she does know how to flirt.Come on, looking into each other's eyes for 15 seconds! What else can that be besides flirtation? What you would want to do is find out more about her background. She must have had some sort of background where she has picked up all these flirting tips. Perhaps she's not stable emotionally or other areas or not confident that's why she has resorted to flirting so extremely. Bottom line is be careful and find out what kind of character she is. My wild guess is that she may be a pampered child.

 

[Peter_in_Christ]

Raptor,

Continue to get to know her better as a friend, discover what she likes and dislike, observe how she interact with others without any pre-judgements. Most importantly pray for the Lord's guidance in all that you observe and do, be patient and allow things to grow naturally. No one is ever perfect unless we're in the love of Jesus Christ, trust in the Lord and He'll guide you... if she's not the one for you you'll know.

God bless

Peter

 

[RED that's ME]

Too many people looks for....
[sign]Does he/she like me?

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You know what should you be doing instead?
[sign]Using good communication skills are important!

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If a couple is mature enough to have a relationship they should be smart enough to get to know a person really well as a friend then on to good friends to great friends and when you are at that stage in your relationship you should know for sure if there is chemistry or not.

Too many couple goes from acquaintances to romantic relationships which is not really smart cause it usually ends in broken relationships and scared emotions/hearts/people.

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Good communication IS important! Don't try to look for signs or give signs. Pray about it first and trust God first off.

 

[Raptor]

ya we were at the house of this guy for bible study that my friend said she liked and she did not evan talk to him she was siting next to me and another thing anytime the youth are playing sports she allways says *go my name*

 

[Sketcher]

Well, if she said she liked him, she probably does. Women are funny like that. A really socialable girl like the one you're describing can get really shy around a guy she likes. She also probably feels its "safer" to be around you because she doesn't like you in that way, therefore you don't make her all nervous.

 

[Raptor]

no my friend said he thout they liked each other but he does not know what hes talking about i dont think

 

[Sketcher]

Still, the being quiet around this guy could be an indicator. Believe it or not, they try to be subtle when they are around guys they like. Not necesarily the same kind of flirtatiousness she shares with you. You need to take a sober look at her life and see how she treats guys in general. If she treats one guy differently, ie being quiet around him, she may like him.

 

[Raptor]

hmm ok i will have to pay attenion to the way she acts more

 

[winglovesall]

Quote from twistedsketch:

Still, the being quiet around this guy could be an indicator. Believe it or not, they try to be subtle when they are around guys they like. Not necesarily the same kind of flirtatiousness she shares with you. You need to take a sober look at her life and see how she treats guys in general. If she treats one guy differently, ie being quiet around him, she may like him.

I agree with "twistedsketch" - you have to analyse how she acts.

But look, Christians never hate each other. We are supposed to treat each other like brothers and sisters - we're in a family together.

Raptor, It is important for you to meet her and talk to her - you need to be open and she needs to be open. If you want her to be interested in you, you should be telling her about who you are - like - a bit.

Looks is another thing. I think, by the sound of it, she is interested in you - she supports you, she is happy when she meets you - all those qualities show whether she is interested or not. But she certainly loves you. If she isn't interested in you - she would always be your friend no matter what happens.

The Lord loves you and he knows when is the right time for the girl to show interest in you.

 

[JPPT1974]

Still, the being quiet around this guy could be an indicator. Believe it or not, they try to be subtle when they are around guys they like. Not necesarily the same kind of flirtatiousness she shares with you. You need to take a sober look at her life and see how she treats guys in general. If she treats one guy differently, ie being quiet around him, she may like him.

You need to observe and see what she's like and that she is the same and not like the Dr Jeckell and Mr Hyde type with guys. If you know what I mean.

 

[RED that's ME]

hmm ok i will have to pay attenion to the way she acts more

Not to be rude but you are still keeping yourself in a guessing game doing that.

Again the most important thing in a relationship is COMMUNICATION a couple getting to know each other by talking to each other can tell definitely whether where you stand with a person by actually hearing it.
I've seen too many people who have assumed something only to find out it wasn't true. Don't push the feelings about other person but guard your heart, trust God to bring the right one in your life and get to know the person well BEFORE getting your emotions, physically involved.

 

[Tenorvoice]

Very well put Red!!

 

[winglovesall]

I agree! It is important that you express yourself and she express herself to you so that you can find out things about each other