Thanks, I'm relieved to know this. I was thinking I might be partially responsible for what my grandfather did or what my dad did. My dad was the most angry person I ever knew but he started turning it around for the better in his last years. He was much like his dad I'm told. I don't remember his dad but I was told what he did & I saw a clipping of the newspaper article.
On my father's side my grandfather was a narcissistic drunk. This wasn't something most people in the family knew, not even my dad or aunts and uncle. My grandmother protected the family from my grandfather's darker side, she was able to keep him under control. But as they got older, her mind began to wane, when she finally left us to be with the Lord Alzheimer's had all but taken her mental faculties away. It began with her Alzheimer's, my grandfather started going out of control, and after my grandmother passed the worst parts of him came to the surface. My uncle is a (now retired) pastor, and he and the elders of his church had to confront my grandfather on more than a few occasions because he was coming to church absolutely intoxicated and being incredibly rude and unbelievably inappropriate, especially toward the young women of the church. Eventually they had to tell my grandfather he couldn't come to church because he refused to even take the smallest amount of accountability for his actions. My grandfather lived with my uncle, which made it all the more difficult. And when my grandfather finally passed away, he still had never really taken accountability for the verbal and emotional abuse he put people through. He was a narcissist right until the end.
So for what it's worth, I am familiar with having those ugly family demons (not literal demons, I mean them in a figurative sense here). Here's the thing, my dad was a good father, he was a caring and loving man, and who was there for my younger brother and I even when our mother wasn't; often serving double duty as both mom and dad. He taught me to be a man of principle, character, compassion; to not be afraid of showing weakness, but demonstrating through his own character that one can be strong in weakness because a Christian is to exemplify the love and mercy of Jesus Christ. My father's character and strength is something that can be attributed to my grandmother, her own strength, her faith, her love for her family, her devotion to Jesus.
So there are no generational curses, there is no God punishing us for the sins of our fathers and forefathers. We have a God of unconquerable love toward us sinners, who sent His only-begotten Son. Our Lord Jesus is the Lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world. In Him we have the invincible, undefeatable, unconquerable love of God, the grace of God, the mercy and heart and compassion of God who looks upon us not in His wrath, but in His joyous mercy as a loving Father. The Father of our Lord Jesus has become, by so great a salvation as this, our Father as well; and we have received the Holy Spirit, who living in us has converted our hearts and made us children, to cry out to God, "Abba! Father!" And He hears us, and knows us, and is compassionate upon us. This is why our Lord Jesus taught us to pray:
Our Father in heaven, Hallowed be Your Name.
Your kingdom come. Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread
And forgive us our sins even as we forgive those who have sinned against us..
Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
For Yours is the kingdom, the power, and the glory, forever and ever.
Amen.
See how the Lord invites us not to pray only to His Father, but invites us to call Him our Father. To join with Him in calling His Father, our Father. See how the Lord invites us to see His Father as our Father, whose will and kingdom come, not only in the future at the end of the age; but even now--to give us all that we need.
The phrase "give us today our daily bread" is itself fascinating. Literally it can be translated "give us today our super-substantial bread". Here is not just the regular food for our bodies, but everything we need, our spiritual and physical wellbeing. He is the giver of every good gift, as St. James says in his letter, "Every good and perfect gift is from above, from the Father of lights". Our good Father cares for each of us, knowing the number of hairs on our heads, He knows the sparrows by name and cares when even one of those little birds dies. He adorns the fields with flowers. For this reason we can trust Him, as the good and bountiful gift-giver, to provide for us--in life and in death, when we are well and when we are sick, when things are going good in life and when thing are bad. In our weaknesses, in our sufferings, in everything we have a good and loving Father who cares more for us than we could ever possibly conceive. Whose love and care is so great that He sent Jesus, to bear the full weight and burden of a dying sinful sick world on His shoulders, to bleed and suffer on a Roman cross, and to be the Reconciliation between God and man--to restore what was broken and destroyed in Eden, and to bring many sons to glory. And He will not only restore us, from our sin and death to the forgiveness of our sins and the life of the resurrection. All of creation shall be redeemed and healed on that Last Day. New heavens and new earth.
"Your kingdom come, Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven."
For the will and kingdom of our God is that we should be reconciled to Him through His Son, and that all things should be given to His Son, in whom there is redemption and restoration of all things; and in the end it is the will of the Son that all should be in the hands of the Father. God shall be all in all.
Therefore,
Glory to the Father and to the Son and to the Holy Spirit, as it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be, unto the ages of ages. Amen.
-CryptoLutheran