What does it mean when a girl gives you her number?

[Timyone]

i know a girl that doesnt think numbers mean any thing

 

[Fatolia]

I have that number on my phone. I saved it as "my cell #". Its hilarious.

Good idea. That'd be an interesting prank.

 

[Irascible]

Cut Keri some slack Fatolia. There ARE creepy guys out there. When they have their shirt unbuttoned way low, get too close, say risque things and then ask for a phone number all inside of a couple minutes I'd say that was creepy. A rejection hotline is better than they deserve. If it's a little humiliating, all the better.

I'm not trying to "attack" you here. I just have a differing perspective on what a creepy guy is, which is more or less the obvious one.

Since you're apparently hot stuff and have never been rejected, I don't get the defensive reaction. Nor do I get the thread. It was you that wrote the long winded advice column on how to approach women. I rather enjoyed it. Now you can't figure out what a phone number means. You might want to learn more about dissociative identity disorder.

 

[Fatolia]

Yeah, I understand what you're saying man.

But I've had my share of instances of being called "creepy," when I was just being myself, wearing modest clothes, trying to get to know a girl over several weeks...you know, following the standard etiquette . Some women are just way oversensitive and automatically label a guy a "stalker" if 1) she finds him unattractive and 2) he pursues her.
And regardless of if a man is actually creepy or not, we have a responsibility and a privelege to treat him with love and respect just as anyone else.

And as far as the dating technique thread. Just because you understand dating technique doesn't mean you understand the complete of female psychology. ;-)

 

[sweetlambofgod]

well I would never give a guy my number if I didn't want him to call me, if he asked and I didn't wnat to give it to him, I'd give him my email or something.

 

[intricatic]

"Creep" is generally a reference to guys who refuse to back off after it's been made clear, in one way or another, that the girl is not interested. I've never been in that position myself, but I've had girls come to talk to me about guys who were doing it. Heh. They've never seemed "creepy" to me in the sense that I guess is natural for me to consider it to be.

 

[joanna1]

If you ask for the number, and there's no obvious excuse available to refuse, you're likely to get it! I mean can you imagine someone answering "no sorry i don't give my number to guys" (i would only resort to that if i thought the guy was dodgy). It doesn't mean anything for me - but by giving your number you are saying "i won't be totally infuriated if you dare call me". So you might as well try...

 

[Fatolia]

"Creep" is generally a reference to guys who refuse to back off after it's been made clear, in one way or another, that the girl is not interested. I've never been in that position myself, but I've had girls come to talk to me about guys who were doing it. Heh. They've never seemed "creepy" to me in the sense that I guess is natural for me to consider it to be.

That's often the problem. It might be clear in her eyes, but it's completely beyond the radar of a man. Rarely are you told directly, unless you are stupid enough to start violating her personal space. Ignoring the guy is not enough. He doesn't know whether a girl is busy(which is the typical excuse), playing hard to get, or have rejected him. We're not mind-readers, you know.

The consequence of being an assertive and confident man is that some people will be scared off by it. Some people are truly intimidated by confidence.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

well you should be mind readers haha

 

[intricatic]

That's often the problem. It might be clear in her eyes, but it's completely beyond the radar of a man. Rarely are you told directly, unless you are stupid enough to start violating her personal space. Ignoring the guy is not enough. He doesn't know whether a girl is busy(which is the typical excuse), playing hard to get, or have rejected him. We're not mind-readers, you know.

The consequence of being an assertive and confident man is that some people will be scared off by it. Some people are truly intimidated by confidence.

In this day and age, I'd imagine most people are disillusioned as to what they should be confident in. I think it's true both for men and women, which is why so many women are put off by truly confident men.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Does anyone else just not like to talk on the phone? I kind of see it as pointless.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

how u talk to someone then?

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

I'm talking about just talking to talk. I use the phone to invite people to do stuff and things like that -- but I don't like to just sit around and talk on the phone for hours.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

oh I get ya

 

[Blank123]

Some women are just way oversensitive and automatically label a guy a "stalker" if 1) she finds him unattractive and 2) he pursues her.

some women, maybe. but don't assume that every woman who calls a guy a 'creep' is being oversensitive. Its not a term I would use lightly but I have dealt with guys that I would call creeps

 

[mwb]

That's often the problem. It might be clear in her eyes, but it's completely beyond the radar of a man. Rarely are you told directly, unless you are stupid enough to start violating her personal space. Ignoring the guy is not enough. He doesn't know whether a girl is busy(which is the typical excuse), playing hard to get, or have rejected him. We're not mind-readers, you know.

The consequence of being an assertive and confident man is that some people will be scared off by it. Some people are truly intimidated by confidence.

The bottom line with me is if she doesn't give me her number, that's it. I don't need to be told why. I suppose I could try to impress her further in the hopes she will change her mind but most of the time, no means no. My time is too valuable to be chasing someone who doesn't want to be chased.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

thats smart. I get annoyed by guys who keep asking.