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The situation sounds a bit not ordinary. At least you wouldn't expect this in your church. Let me know what you think about this. So my brother had to meet this girl he knew she wasnt his GF, but in a way he went with her on a few dates and communicated with her often online. So this time he went with her get coffee took some pictures of her and he offered her to come to church event. She is by the way not a christian and is student from muslim country.
So okey he brough her to this church event everything was fine he was sitting arond the table with 7 more people. They were eating later played board games. She went to take more food and this guy comes in to the church one of the members. He is more masculine, tall. So he started talking with her will my brother was siting near the table. Seemed a bit like flirting he touched her shoulder . Or atleast it seemed like flirting. So later she went somewhere with this new guy and dissapeared for half and hour with out telling my brother anything. So later my brother was standing alone. She came back and she was standing and looking around where is this new guy and she told to my brother oh i am waiting for this guy he is my friends friend abd we are planning to leave together. All the sudden it seemed like she is not interested about my brother but thinking where is this guy. Later she left with him and when ny brother came back home she wrote him like thank you it was nice event etc. What do you think about this? For me it seem that she saw a better guy and left my brother in a fools possition.
Your brother may have got lucky as she is not his girlfriend but of you are seeing someone socially feelings can develop and since she is not a Christian it is better to get embarrassed a bit early and watch her go on her way than to get more invested in her. Missionary dating rarely works out.
 
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There’s human perspective and God’s. He has the final word. The smoking gun isn’t the woman. It’s your brother’s decisions.

Mistake 1: He met a Muslim woman and took her out.

Mistake 2: He continued engaging with the knowledge she wasn’t a Christian.

Mistake 3: He likes her and took her to church.

Where is his siren? How did he get that far without conviction? She’s not an option and never was.

He’s fortunate her family (or associates) weren’t aware. It could have ended badly. I had a close Muslim friend. We met at school and hung out often. She took me everywhere and I met her friends.

She was Americanized but they were stricter. I don’t think they agreed with the connection. I attended a synagogue then. But we got along nonetheless. She shared the challenges of that world and the pressure she endured to marry.

They gave her an ultimatum. Find someone or they would. They’d already begun. She told me about him. Her heart was with another but she didn’t think they’d agree. I encouraged her to tell the truth. But she was scared.

They have a lot of influence over their children. They may not admit it to outsiders. But she did and they supported the bond. I wasn’t a threat. They weren’t aware of my faith initially. They tolerated it because I was good influence. She took me to Muslim and Jewish restaurants but we didn’t go to synagogues or mosques. But we shared our beliefs openly.

A Muslim family would never allow the connection your brother had. Especially if he was interested. They’d make her sever it or tell him to leave her alone. Forcibly if needed.
 
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pdudgeon I would put 2 winner endorsements if possible!

It's like kids who "break up" immediately after getting their Valentine's gifts.
So sweet, thank you!
 
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The situation sounds a bit not ordinary. At least you wouldn't expect this in your church. Let me know what you think about this. So my brother had to meet this girl he knew she wasnt his GF, but in a way he went with her on a few dates and communicated with her often online. So this time he went with her get coffee took some pictures of her and he offered her to come to church event. She is by the way not a christian and is student from muslim country.
So okey he brough her to this church event everything was fine he was sitting arond the table with 7 more people. They were eating later played board games. She went to take more food and this guy comes in to the church one of the members. He is more masculine, tall. So he started talking with her will my brother was siting near the table. Seemed a bit like flirting he touched her shoulder . Or atleast it seemed like flirting. So later she went somewhere with this new guy and dissapeared for half and hour with out telling my brother anything. So later my brother was standing alone. She came back and she was standing and looking around where is this new guy and she told to my brother oh i am waiting for this guy he is my friends friend abd we are planning to leave together. All the sudden it seemed like she is not interested about my brother but thinking where is this guy. Later she left with him and when ny brother came back home she wrote him like thank you it was nice event etc. What do you think about this? For me it seem that she saw a better guy and left my brother in a fools possition.
As you said she was not your brothers GF so he should not be concerned.
 
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The situation sounds a bit not ordinary. At least you wouldn't expect this in your church. Let me know what you think about this. So my brother had to meet this girl he knew she wasnt his GF, but in a way he went with her on a few dates and communicated with her often online. So this time he went with her get coffee took some pictures of her and he offered her to come to church event. She is by the way not a christian and is student from muslim country.
So okey he brough her to this church event everything was fine he was sitting arond the table with 7 more people. They were eating later played board games. She went to take more food and this guy comes in to the church one of the members. He is more masculine, tall. So he started talking with her will my brother was siting near the table. Seemed a bit like flirting he touched her shoulder . Or atleast it seemed like flirting. So later she went somewhere with this new guy and dissapeared for half and hour with out telling my brother anything. So later my brother was standing alone. She came back and she was standing and looking around where is this new guy and she told to my brother oh i am waiting for this guy he is my friends friend abd we are planning to leave together. All the sudden it seemed like she is not interested about my brother but thinking where is this guy. Later she left with him and when ny brother came back home she wrote him like thank you it was nice event etc. What do you think about this? For me it seem that she saw a better guy and left my brother in a fools possition.

It sounds like a drug deal to be honest.
 
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